I am 15 years old. I'm sure many people are thinking, whatever your a teenager it doesn't matter if your unhappy, your just being dramatic. But for those of you that can help me, it would be greatly appreciated. Im a sophmore in highschool and I have alot of friends. I'm not popular, and i don't have one certain click. I'm friends with lots of people. My home life isn't that great, but I can't complain. I have a job and I'm turning 16 next month. I smile and laugh with my friends whenever we hang out, but I feel like I'm forcing every smile and faking every laugh. I love my friends, and I'm pretty sure I love my life. I'm healthy and that's all that should matter. But every night, i always feel so unhappy. I feel like I'm flying through my life and that i'm no one. I just feel like I'm living an un-fullfilled life. I hate feeling like this and I feel it all the time. Please help me.
2007-01-22 13:39:22 · 15 answers · asked by Becca W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have a little depression that comes with the territory ..of being a teenager. but yet there are older people that get it too..They don't know why .. Maybe its because we are always alone no matter who you are with.born alone die alone and everywhere inbetween.Just try to forget about the way you are feeling and just go out and enjoy your youth.. its not forever.. so enjoy it now..
2007-01-22 13:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same experience when i was a teenager. i loved everything about my life but as you said it was always an un-fullfilled life.
this is what i did:
1- find a hobby that can take your mind off things for a while.
2- make some tI'me for your self( just a little) to satisfy yourself.
3- even if you really love your friends try to get close to some1 because you have a lot of friends but not very close friends
4- every month put a goal for yourself, this would take your mind off things and would be good for #2
teenage life is too bad i thank god im not in my teens anymore
2007-01-22 21:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by bint_bahrainia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That emptiness that you're feeling..Yes I've been there. Yet you have so many people around yet but you feel so alone. Life feels unfullfilled. Because there's a void in your heart. And the "ONLY" person that can fill that void(emptiness) is Jesus Christ. Life without Jesus has no meaning. Christ came so that you can have life and life more abundantly. He wants a relationship with you. He wants to bring you that Joy and Love that you've been longing for. The kind of love that you've never experienced. His joy will sustain you. Happiness is an emotion, and yes things of this world will bring you temporary happiness. But happiness comes and it goes. It's like a roller coaster. One day you're happy and the next day you're sad. But the Joy and the Love that Jesus gives will sustain you forever. Do you want that fulfillment in your life? God gave His only Son (Jesus) so that you can spend eternity with Him in Heaven. He loves you that much. God the creator of this world is concerned about what you go through and how you feel right now, and He wants you to accept Him into your heart. Are you willing to do that?
2007-01-22 21:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your happiness and contentedness with your life are important no matter what your age, and I don't think you're being dramatic. I'm 39 years old now, but I remember having similar feelings when I was a teenager. Those are important years in your life. They shouldn't have to be filled with depression and unsettled thoughts and feelings. I think it would do you some good to go to counseling. It did me a lot of good. It was unfortunate that I waited until after I was in my twenties to go get help to understand why I felt like I did, but I'm glad I got the courage to go. It wasn't easy to open up. I went through a few counselors before I found one that I was comfortable with, but I was determined and I did find one who helped me figure out exactly what my issues were and ways to resolve them until I felt comfortable with my life and the direction I was heading in. It wasn't an overnight process, but it was worth it. It could be that you have a chemical imbalance in your brain that could be helped with medication, if maybe even for just a short time as you learn what you need to do to be content with your life. I wont deny that I tried medication as well, and it was hit or miss as to which ones worked for me. Going to see a counselor could be a first step for you in a direction you feel really good about if you make the effort for yourself.
2007-01-22 22:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your feeling is normal, but that don't make it the same as everyone else. You might be clinically depressed. Or you just might be in a rut and not challenged in life yet. there can be LOTS of things making you feel this way, but we, the people of the net, cannot help you there. What I can do is tell you to broaden your circle of friends, add a little spice to them. Find something that makes YOU not everyone else smile. I was not in the IN crowd in school either, and it took me a few years to figure out it wasn't me but who I hanged with and that I was to worried about what everyone else thought and did.
A job at 15, that shows maturity for your age.
And there seems to be a lot of others feeling the way you do, maybe you all should start a email pen group to discuss what you all feel.
Talking with others does help.
2007-01-22 21:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's depression and it can happen to anyone at any age. You may want to see a doctor.
Depression is a mood disorder that causes a child or teen to feel sad or irritable for a long period of time. A young person who is depressed may not enjoy school, play, or friends and may have low energy and other symptoms. As with an adult, symptoms of depression range from mild to severe and vary from person to person. Depression can last for a long time and may come in cycles of feeling down and feeling normal. Chronic (ongoing) mild depression, called dysthymia, occurs when a child feels a little down most of the time for a year or more. Both severe and mild forms of depression can be effectively treated.
2007-01-22 22:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people get that feeling. I'm younger then you, but I still feel like that. The only way I can feel a little bit happy is to think 'If life now is pointless, but God isn't making me die, then maybe when I grow up, my life will be full of purpose' Try that. It might not actually work, but that's all I can do for you.
2007-01-22 21:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by nikki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See if any of these ideas seem to fit.
Irrational Ideas
(root of most emotional disturbance)
The idea that it is a dire necessity to be loved by significant others for almost everything we do -- instead of concentrating on our own self-respect, on winning approval for practical purposes, and on loving rather than on being loved.
The idea that it is horrible when things are not the way we like them to be -- instead of the idea that it is a saddened state of affairs, and it would be better to try to change bad conditions so that they become more satisfactory, and if that is not possible, we had better, at least temporarily accept their existence.
The idea that human misery is invariably externally caused and is forced on us by outside people and events -- instead of the idea that neurosis is largely caused by the view that we take on unfortunate conditions.
The idea that it is easier to avoid than to face life difficulties and self-responsibilities -- instead of the idea that the so-called easy way out is much harder in the long run.
The idea that we absolutely need something other, stronger, or greater than yourself on which to rely -- instead of the idea that it is better to take the risks of thinking and acting independently .
The idea that we should be thoroughly competent, intelligent, and achieving in all possible respects -- instead of the idea that it would be better to just do, and accept ourself as imperfect creature, with general human limitations and fallibilities.
The idea that we must have a certain or perfect control over things -- instead of the idea that the world is full of probability and chance and we can still enjoy life in spite of this fact.
The idea that human happiness can be achieved by inertia and inaction -- instead of the idea that we tend to be happiest when we are vitally absorbed in creative pursuits, or when we are devoting ourselves to people or projects outside ourselves.
2007-01-22 21:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by ThinkaboutThis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just the begining, at so many stages in your life you would end up just right here. You have to learn to be happy with / for yourself. Trust me no one, no event, no material thing in this world can bring you the happiness that can last forever. Happiness is an attitude you have to learn to develop.
Try to find the hobbies that leave you fulfilled. Be around people around whom you are yourself, as much as possible. Sometimes when we pose to be somebody we are not, it leaves us with a great disstaisfaction.
2007-01-22 22:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by lost... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just insecure. Sometimes I feel as if life just goes by way too fast. Just enjoy life; we all have our ups and downs. There are just some days I just feel like crap and just not trying hard to become someone. Or maybe you are second guessing yourself? Just enjoy your life. Good Luck.
2007-01-22 22:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋