ok its kinda hard to explain, but my boyfriend (babys dad) like never wants to spend anytime with us (me n baby). between his 2 jobs...the other night he worked 24 hours...and then he promised that he would stay home with us the next day. well he got up at 230 that afternoon and had to run to the store...he then called and informed me he was goign to work. i got really upset with him because hes not spending time with us. his excuse is, is he needs money...which he has plenty. i told him hes not goign to just tell me what hes goign to do, there has to b some compromise. and i said if u dont want to spend time with me then u should at least with ur baby. he knows how extrememly hurt i am over everything..and im very depressed and he doesnt even care....it's really bothering me...i dont know what to do.
2007-01-22 13:18:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yeah...the one rude comment that was posted telling me to get over it...that's not the answer, anyone can say that.
the other one, be happy hes supporting me and the baby... yeah right...his money goes on him anyways..he usually has nothing to show for it... i work also and i provide food clothing etc for my baby....yes he pays child support but not very much.
2007-01-22 13:27:58 · update #1
Honey..Yes you have a right to be upset and you also have the right to change the situation.You don't realize it but you actually know what you need to do.You said that he does'nt care about how you feel so why would you want to stay with a man that does'nt care about your feeling's.If he does'nt care about your feeling's then he obviously does'nt love you.What you need to do is sit down and have a serious discussion with him.If the two of you can't compromise then why stay with him and waste your time.And don't stay with him just because you have a child together because that is the worst mistake that parents make.If you are not happy and he does'nt care to make you happy then it is time to move on.Go your seperate way's and make sure he pay's child support he may not have an obligation to you but he does have an obligation to make sure your child is taken care of.You have the power to change the situation if you choose to stay in it then you have noone to blame but yourself.You are in control of how you allow yourself to be treated if you don't like something change it.Now I may not have told you what you wanted to hear but I have told you the truth and the facts.Good Luck to you.
2007-01-22 13:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from the way you take people's responses...you've already decided to be mad at him, and anybody who comments on it... it comes off a bit defensive. Maybe not the best idea if you're posting your problems in an open forum...just a thought. Honestly, after working 24 hours straight, I wouldn't want to be around anybody...but that's just me. Now, it's pretty common for a guy who's "domestically unhappy" to spend a lot of time at work. I know I've done it in the past myself. It is better than the alternative of him staying around the house, jobless, complaining. Question is...why is he avoiding you...seriously? Not to be mean about it...but if you respond to this question like you have the other 2 posters, you may have your answer already.
2007-01-22 21:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by woobinator 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't force him to spend time with either you or the child. Face the fact that he doesn't want to and stop letting it bother you, it's a simple fact and you're not going to change anything so there really is no sense in you getting depressed and hurt etc,etc because you are only creating a bunch of drama in order to get attention. It doesn't work.
Obviously my answer IS the right one, that you are only creating drama to get attention. If I wasn't right you wouldn't have responded. But rest assured...you won't get anymore attnetion from me. I'm not in the habit of giving spoiled children attention.
2007-01-22 21:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he has pleenty of money then i dont see y he works so much unless he really isnt. if u feel like u do then maybe u should find someone that does want to be with u and spend time together
2007-01-22 22:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by debbie o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy that you have a man that wants to work and support you and the baby.
2007-01-22 21:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have done what you can do to make sure that the child has adiquite time with its father. You can't make someone do something. Don't force/make him do anything. It is his loss if he misses time with the child.
2007-01-22 21:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋