He walks out on her and the kids but if she tells him to take the kids and she will be the every other weekend parrent everyone has a heart attack. And women are harder on women than men are. What gives?
2007-01-22 12:31:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's society for you, because she had them means she's supposed to be more connected to them. They grew inside of her and generally that's the opposite of what most moms would do. Those people just don't understand her, which is ok. Really you shouldn't worry if someone else is freaking out about someone elses actions unless hurtful to others.
Apparently the male in this situation isn't supposed to want the kids as much, how messed up is that? It's like he gets off scott free and she has to do all the f'n work. WHY? Because she's the woman and that's how we were raised. So few households that keep together nowadays. Men don't stay fathers anymore, most of them just pay child support or run away from paying child support.
It really depends on the situation. These other women are entitled to their opinions, but really, it depends on the situation. Maybe it's a good thing that she doesn't want the kids? YOU NEVER KNOW.
Personally it sounds like you are this woman and are upset with other people's reactions (including family). I suggest sticking to your guns because you have reason for doing this. They may not see it, but they don't matter.
Why do men always run away from their children? Or atleast most of them do...
2007-01-22 12:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by _Lara_Bell_ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This isn't always the case but, usually, the woman has a bit more common sense when it comes to the kids. Dad would pretty much let the kids raise themselves if they could get away with it. Most men (and women) have been conditioned that they are the way they are and can't (and don't want to) change. There are some couples in which the man is the more nurturing parent or where both parents are equally nurturing. There are some women that don't have a maternal bone in their whole body!
Unfortunately, in the scenario you are mentioning, the kids are the ones who lose. Kids need a loving, caring mom who is THERE for them!! More so than their runaway Dad. Why give them abandonment issues on both sides?????
2007-01-22 22:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this idea came about back in the early days of our country when women would stay home and take care of the children and the husband would go to work to support the family.However in recent years ,probably the past thirty or so,lots of women are working also as sometimes its a necessity to pay the bills.I think both should take part in child rearing,however women are usually better suited for this job and in my experience do a better job,however Ive seen many men that are quite excellent at child rearing.IT depends on each family and who is better at it.And of course there are the people who should never have Kids because they cant even take care of themselves.
2007-01-22 20:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by sasyone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing that says that is the way it has to be. People in gerneral feel that the kids are better off in a stable enviornment and the mother can best provide it and has the instinct for it. Most men would feel very privleged to be in the situation of having the kids. I am a male inspite of my picture and jumped at the chance of having my kids half the time. You can give up rights in a divorce if you like. I pray to God that the kids feel needed by you or your husband and are not just an obligation to both of you.
2007-01-22 20:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he walked out and took the kids telling her she could see them every other weekend we would all over him about that. Women are almost always given the kids even if we are not the better parent, maybe things need to change on all fronts.
2007-01-22 20:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess most people think of the mother has the nurturing parent, but there's nothing that says that the father can't be just as nurturing. But you're right, women tend to be harder on women when it comes to this, but don't let them get to you. Do what's in the best interest of the child(ren).
2007-01-22 20:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good point but I offer no answer.
Although I think it's because women are seen as the homemaker, it may be the 21st century but it still isn't perfect.
My friend was raised by his dad when the mum lived in the same town for no real reason but it is rare.
2007-01-22 20:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
generally speaking, when kids are young, they need their mothers more and when they get a little older, it's important to have a strong/good father role model....both parents are important. So I guess to a degree, it depends on how old your kids are? and maybe the kids are better off with your husband since you phrased it, "stick the wife with the childrearing." that's a pretty negative outlook, ya know?
2007-01-22 20:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because since the beginning of time that has been the women's "job." but I really don't see anything wrong with the father raising the child.
2007-01-22 20:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by butterflykisses_1897 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see it that way at all. Sometime, actually about 2/3rds of the time SHE walks out, and wants him to keep paying her, taking his kids away from him.
More women are leaving than there are unfaithful men.
So I don't see it that way at all. I see more women taking children away from fathers than I do fathers abandoning children.
2007-01-22 21:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋