how can you be alone without really being alone?

Question

dont be stupid..and really think about the answer...i need help answering this quetion.

Answer 1

it is easy to retreat inside your thoughts and mind, the problem comes from the interuptions.

For me i think about fishing, where i am alone with my thoughts. only occassionaly interupted by the fish taking my bait.

Answer 2

I'd have to guess you just got out of a fairly serious, fairly lengthy relationship, fairly recently.

After the end of such a relationship the best thing you can do is to rediscover yourself. Some people will simply say "Learn to be happy with yourself." and I say it is more complex than that.

First give yourself time alone, do not rush into any sort of relationship. As anyone would you probably changed somewhat during the relationship. Think about how you were before and what caused any changes. Good or bad you will slowly be able to figure things out that once made you crazy. You might be able to analyze your past relationship and realize both things you did right and what you can improve upon. If you've healed well enough you can also really figure out what issues were REALLY more the other persons and not yours.

Once you begin down this road you will slowly start to realize you are perfectly happy alone, you have become a stronger person! Personally this period for me was great, I figured out many things for myself and I was more than OK without having to "need" someone else.

Achieve this and you may then realize you can begin to enter a serious relationship, one that may really last. You can only be in a happy relationship if both people are happy with themselves.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I think you may be trying to differentiate between being lonely and being alone.

When you're secure in who you are and you like who you are, you like your life and know that happiness comes from within yourself and not from other people, and when you know how to keep yourself occupied in worthwhile endeavors unlike so many people who always whine about being bored, then you're not lonely. This is the kind of person who attracts other people and that person is never lonely or alone unless they want to be.

Most people who are lonely, don't do anything to attract other people and then say they're lonely. This is an excuse. The only way not to be lonely is to get out and live, be around other people, and not expect anything from anyone. With no expectations, you're never disappointed.

Being a good friend sometimes takes work...make an effort to call someone, get together with someone. Be there for someone when things aren't that great.

And stop thinking of everyone you know as friends and realize that most are just acquaintances. There's nothing wrong with having acquaintances, but a friend is someone you know will be there for you whenever you need them night or day, good or bad. Most people, if they're lucky, have 2 or 3 of these.

Answer 4

Someone on here asked a strikingly similar question the other day. The winning answer was: When you are touching yourself and thinking of someone you like, you aren't really alone because that person is with you in your thoughts, and when you orgasm you and that person are linked together forever.

That one wasn't mine, mine was about how God is with you at all times or something but it didn't get best answer for some reason.

Hope this helps. =)

Answer 5

I can be alonee in that I am by myself at times and I enjoy it. If you count yourself then obviously you would never be alone. The very essence of the word alone implies that you are in fact by yourself and that on other living person is with you. I have a dog so I suppose that in theory I am never truly alon when he is home. I also feel like God is always with me. I suppose if you really looked at all the possibilities we are in fact never truly alone.
Interesting question.

Answer 6

You can be alone if for instant, you're in a room with people and just not able to connect with anyone on a emotional level.
I use to go out and get lost in a crowd, just for that reason, i wanted to be alone, it works both ways.

Answer 7

You can be alone and not be lonely. it requires you being happy with yourself and not settling for just "any" relationship simply to say you have one. For some it's hard, but you have to learn to enjoy your own company.

Answer 8

Well, my bf and I are in the same room right now, but he's not speaking to me... and I feel alone :(

Answer 9

By feeling alone.

Answer 10

I'm surrounded by morons on a daily basis. That's pretty lonesome.