i told you all about my husband controlling me, and i just now thought what might of caused it, my husband was engaged about 5 or 6 years ago, he told me that his ex wouldn't let him buy the things he wanted, or that she would spent 30 bucks on one meal, and some other things, do you think he is controlling me, because hes afraid that i'll do the things she did, and then he'll lose power over me?
2007-01-22 12:08:23 · 12 answers · asked by darkfairiy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want to appear insensitive, but what are you still with this guy for? 3 loads of laundry?????, or 2 loads???? shovel the drive???? call to check up???? Now, you're trying to rationalize HIS behavior.......Don't rationalize.....PACK!!!
2007-01-22 12:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. I read both parts. I'm only answering this one though. When this fight starts tonight, and it will, do not go on the defensive! You remain on the offensive the entire conversation. Point your finger right in his face and let lose the most fierce argument you can. Start with "Don't you ever" and continue! Tell him if he is trying to get you to divorce him, then just say so, because your so P.O.ed at him you can go first thing in the morning! At this point take a good look at his expression, it will be priceless! Total astonishment. He WILL start back stroking so fast he could join the Olympic swim team! If he even attempts to get forceful, or abusive, stop and call the police immediately!
2007-01-22 12:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be but if i were you i would put a stop to it. Examples: My sister has a husband that controlls her and she never did anything about it and still today after 13 years of marriage hes still doing it. My cousin on the other hand, her husband done her that way for a while. He wiould check the mileage on the car. Have to have receipts from the store showing every penny she spent. Until about a year ago she got tired of it and put a stop to it. Now they are both happy.
2007-01-22 12:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
toddler marriage or otherwise, once you've been under no circumstances pleased with your spouse, why did you undergo 2 daughter by ability of her. Your first spouse relies upon on you and what's her monetary protection when you smash up. you're saying you'll settle for both your daughters, yet what makes you imagine that your new spouse will comply with it. Yours isn't an remoted case, there are rather some such situations in India, brought about through the father and mom idiosyncrasies. purely settle for it as your destiny, and if mandatory get your self a lady pal who will oblige you. you should bear it a minimum of for the sake of your daughters. purely renounce your self for your destiny, and attempt to seek some happiness in this marriage.
2016-10-15 23:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, NO BODY HAS CONTROL of you unless you allow it! My almost ex spouse is a control freak too, freaks out on me if I buy CD's or movies. ITs one of the reasons for the divorce because of this. Anybody who truly loves and cares for you will not carry this behavior towards you. There is no excuse girlfriend. Control leads to abuse. Using the ex girlfriend thing is just allowing his bad attitude to grow. Guys would love to control all of us women. When we talk back, were labeled witches and other colorful things. Just remember, there are alot of controlled, abused women out there. Don't be one of them. It just leads to worse behavior later on.
2007-01-22 12:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by msjinx39 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easy to gain power over him. Get him to crossdress. Tell him there is a crossdressing party, a costume party, or make him do it for sex. Get him drunk if you have to. Be sure and take lots of pictures and then put them in a safety deposit box at the bank. You will now have the upper hand and you can threaten to show the pictures to his coworkers if he doesn't straighten up.
2007-01-22 12:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that could be the problem. he could be afraid. and why are you still there? both of you are misearble. you two just need to divorce and get it over with so he can get the help that he needs to become a stable adult and so you can do the same. with you two being under the same roof...that doesn't make the situation any better and neither does talking. just pack your bags and leave. ok?
2007-01-22 13:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you go to the website i told you about, its about losing power, asking you about laundry had nothing to do with you spedniing any money right ? you need to take this seriously and he has to take you seriously as a person. you cant take away someones rights as a person, its cruel and unusual, pleze stop making excuses for his behavior, and make him take responsibility for his own actions, so that maybe you to have an honest chance at this marrriage...
2007-01-22 12:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This started long before a few years ago. His mom is to blame. Run away!
2007-01-22 12:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by Tamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be, but if he is trying to control you in one way he will do it with every aspect of your life.
2007-01-22 12:15:33 · answer #10 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋