My baby is now 6 mths old. She hates new people. And she never warms up to anybody new. She has been like this since she was 3 months old. WHY?? It is so hard taking her to anybody's house. She is fine outside, in a store. But in someone's house, she will just start screaming. Doctor's say that babies should have stranger anxiety until 6 mths or later, but mine started at 3 mths. Is this normal? What can I do to ease her. As soon as she sees a new face she will scream. Sometimes I dread taking her to other people's houses. I hate having to make excuses, like she is tired or hungry. It just makes me feel bad. She screams with my mother in law because she hardly sees her..so my MIL says my baby must hate her, but it can't be. WHAT SHOULD I DO??? People say it will eventually get better, but when, how long will this last?
2007-01-22 12:00:02 · 10 answers · asked by FirstBaby 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
When you take her somewhere, do people want to hold her? Or does she just scream if she even sees someone new?
If the problem is people wanting to hold her, then don't pass her around to strangers(to her) If she cries just being somewhere other than home, you may just have a very sensitive baby.
Tell your mother-in- law that babies don't hate people. And it will get better, I think. Your mother-in-law should back off a little and just talk to other people around the baby.
My 1 year old grandson is just now warming up to me. I see him about once a week, but up until now, he would try to get away from me when I picked him up. So I just talked to him whenever he came close.
Babies do better when they are the ones to decide who gets to hold them.
2007-01-22 14:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was the same way for a long time. It's all due to stranger anxiety, as your doctor said. At this point the best you can do is let your daughter set the pace. When you go to someone's house, hold her if she wants to be held. Don't pass her around to everyone unless she is willing, and don't let anyone get in her face doing "cute" things that could easily scare her. You could also try having people come visit you, then your daughter is on her own turf. Also, are you a stay at home mom? Your daughter may be getting so much of you that she just doesn't understand that other people love her too. You should go out for an evening and have your MIL or another relative/friend who you are trying to get her used to come babysit. Just wait until your daughter is crawling/walking and wanting to explore everything in sight - she'll be trying to get away from you :)
2007-01-22 12:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no time frame in which this comes or goes. My daughter played strange a lot for quite a long time, and I, like you got tired of making excuses (tired, hungry etc), they just are the way they are. I think it is best to keep your baby close to you, where she feels safest, when you are around other people. That will help her feel more secure. Ignore your MIL, she shouldn't feel insulted by the actions of a tiny baby! Then again, maybe something about your MIL scares her (is she loud, does she rush at the baby as soon as you walk in the door?). It will get better eventually, but for now keep her close where she feels safe in her Mommy or Daddy's arms. And listen to your Mommy instincts. Good luck.
2007-01-22 12:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe a baby is capable of hating anybody, I do believe the noise around her may be causing her anxiety. People tend to want to hold the baby, or be in the baby's face, talking babble at it and the baby doesn't understand. When you take her shopping she doesn't have the strangers in her face and the noise is likely muffled by the stroller or clothing, so she doesn't feel so threatened. I would keep going to friends homes, allow the baby to let you know if she wants to be picked up, it's not required to pass her around the room. At this age she should be sitting up by herself, so take off her coat and set her down on the floor near you but near a couple of toys as well. Let her decide how social she wants to be right now, she'll slowly reach out just out of plain curiosity. Good luck.
2007-01-22 12:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All babies have different personalities. Alot of babies are happiest at home with their mama. Try staying home more for awhile. She has plenty of time to socialize as she gets older. As for the MIL who feels badly she should be intelligent enough to understand that the baby doesn't know her . Some children will remain shy to relatives they almost never see. Just because she's grandma the baby doesn't know her. She's only an infant once, don't rush , enjoy this time. Relax.
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2007-01-22 12:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by holly j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg...I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN!!! My daughter does the same exact thing! But...think to yourself...is she more comfortable with quiet people, or loud people? I figured out recently that she warms up to people when they ignore her...she notices that everyone in the room is talking and having a good time and then she would walk up to the person and try to figure out why this person is so great!...but my daughter wont do that with loud people...if they are aggressive with trying to pick her up or kiss her, then she loses it. Try telling your friends and unknown strangers to her (like I did) Just to say hello and keep moving...then she will become curious and then want to be apart of the conversation. My daughter will be 2 in April...she started around the same yours did but...it takes a while...
Also remember...her doctor told me that the best thing to do is have them around other kids and people such as a park or museum. It seems to help...(somewhat...) good luck...we both need it...lol
2007-01-22 12:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jujuchi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My little girl was the same way and I didn't mind at all, so I never forced her to be social.
When we went to visit I would first hold her and then I would put her on the floor next to me so she could play and learn to be somewhat independant in a strange environment.
I wish she would still be a little wary of people, now she is two and greets everyone and thinks everybody is her friend.
2007-01-22 12:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by fizzents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just going to say The Omen also. And Carrie, great storyline and all. EDIT: Oh and American Psycho and Mr. Brooks. EDIT 2: The Orphan. That movie is so good. A must see.
2016-03-28 21:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My niece was the same way she finally got over it about when she was one year old. Usually it's because the baby is used to their parents and just want to be with them and no one else. It should fade away soon.
2007-01-22 12:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by bballg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it´s normal at this age
2007-01-26 10:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by nenaramirez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋