Anti-depressants??

Question

I was just wondering if i need to go see my gp,i`ve alot going on in my life just now and feel really down all the time,if it wasn`t for my son i probably wouldn`t get out of my bed in the morning.

My bf walked out on me and our son almost 3 weeks ago for the 2nd time and i know he isn`t coming back and i don`t think i can handle all this again,my son has learning difficulties and i`m waiting to get him assessed,he`s 4 but has the speech of a 15 month old child.I feel really anxious about being single again,i`m only 24 and i`m now a single mum,i`ve never been with anyone except my ex.My confidence and self esteem are now at rock bottom,i just feel as though my world has collapsed round my ears again and don`t know how to make myself feel normal and happy again.It feels as though my world has stopped while every1 elses including my ex`s is unaffected,how do i know if i should go to my doctor?I don`t really feel suicidal or anything like that just really sad and anxious,thanx.

Answer 1

sorry to hear you are having so much trouble in your life.

you could just be suffering from environmental depression due to whats going on around you. however i recommend you talk to your doctor because they will be able to assess you.

good luck.

Answer 2

A doctor can diagnose the symptoms of a clinical depression which include disturbances of sleep, appetites(of various kinds), low mood, poor self esteem and a lack of hope about the future.
Antidepressants work. Billions have been poured into engineering the current generation of chemicals, with much fewer of the side effects of the older generation etc. etc.
These drugs will treat the symptoms of clinical depression. That is what they are for.
It is best to see them as a crutch that will help you to make the changes in your life and your attitudes that are needed. They do not solve your problems, they just help you keep your head above water so that you have the chance to.
In my experience they are safe to use and are not addictive substances. You do not get high off them and they cannot be used to escape from the world. With the modern ones, for the first two weeks you hardly know you are on them, then slowly your energy starts to come back.
Worth a shot. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hey nati, I've had feelings similar to yours in the past and I also know people who had the same so I have good news for you: this feelings will not last long and you will be 100% ok. Your boyfriend doesn't deserve you and surely you aren't made for each other. Good. Now you are free to get something better that won't walk away from you. See the good points, all you will do now is expect good things to happen in yr life. You are single, young, responsible, in look for love - YOU WILL FIND IT! Nothing is impossible! When feeling depressed, make plans, hope, eat properly, take long walks. Notice that you feel better when walking kids to school than when u r at home. Depressants may help for the day but they are addictive. The most powerful methods are NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and Hypnosis. Buy a few books from Paul McKenna (each around £5,00 - £10,00 and includes free confidence CD's), visit a Hypnosis Clinic and research and download some free material on the internet. You will see that you created these feelings in yourself and you can get rid of them and change a lot of things on yourself, it's just unbelievable. Plus NLP offers 100% guaranteed methods to get your BF back or to find someone much better. It's all inside yourself. Enjoy your bright surprising future!

Answer 4

Basically antidepressants just reduce our capacity to feel emotion. You are not miserable all the time but as your brain is flooded with a low level of serotonin you can not feel ecstatic either about anything either.

I have tried several kinds of antidepressant before and would rather have my arms slowly burnt off than take them again. I have had friends who have been on them and at least half have liked them less that I did (although a few do swear by them).

I would just try to do more things that make you happy - watch more films, read more, or spend more time with your son. Whatever is fun do that - if you have fun it makes you less depressed as it improves the balance of chemicals and hormones in your brain. In effect fun is a natural antidepressant with only positive side effects!

Answer 5

I think going to seek professional help is a good thing, and you know that is what you need. Depression varies from person to person. You are overwhelmed right now with the loss of a partner and someone for your child. There are many children out there with learning curves and they can be worked with. Your local public schools should have outreach programs for you to take your child to free of cost to you. This will both enable you to have some mum time and get your son some help that he needs.
You have to be a strong woman and stand on your own two feet. No one in this world will carry you, but you. Remember you are a beautiful person with a heart and soul. You have to look inside and tell yourself that you are worth it and you are going to stand up and be strong for you~then your son. You don't need a man or anyone else for you to know what your self worth is. I think you already knew that! Suicide is never the answer to any of the problems and it would leave your son where???? Think about that. Take some deep breaths and let yourself know your worth it you can do this. You know how to be a mum so now you just have to do it without someone by your side. YOU CAN DO IT! Believe in yourself...start with this...I don't know you but I believe that you are a woman with strength and power beyond what you let yourself see. You are beautiful inside and out, you are able to do anything you put your mind to, so put your anxiety to rest now take a deep breath and smile...I believe in you, Do you ?

Answer 6

Talk to your doctor, they may give you something to get over the hump and they may also recommend counselling. Be honest with the doctor that is what they are there for, both your physical and mental well being.......you don't have to be suicidal to need an antidepressant they frequently help people before they reach that point. They will also help alot of people regain the focus they lose when they are felling overwhelmed. Don't let yourself feel this way longer than you have to, call your doctor's office and tell them you need an appointment right away. Good luck.

Answer 7

What is the logic in taking a drug to hide your true feelings? You need to go through the grief so that you can prevent another relationship like that again. You need to cry, you need to get mad and you need to identify with not needing anyone. That way, when you grow from this negative experience, you find a nice man who will stick with you.

It's good to feel sad and anxious, it means you need to adapt to change. Medication won't let you... It will make you feel like it's okay and you'll find somebody else who will abandon you again.

The woman who made headlines and drowned all of her kids was on anti depressants. Want proof as to how dangerous the side affects of these meds are? If you love your son, see http://www.breggin.com and grab the bull by the horns, because he needs you for the rest of his life.

My niece was prescribed anti depressants after her dad died of cancer at seventeen. The side affects caused her to be diagnosed with bi polar. Thank god she didn't have a kid because the drugs drove her to almost suicide. All she needed was to grieve naturally.

Answer 8

try st john's wort supplements or tea (this will affect any contraceptive medication you might be taking btw so be careful)
it's clinically proven to work more effectively than some of the hardercore drugs prescribed by the medical proffession, also 30 minutes of excercise even if its just walking outside is effective in dealing with depression. I'm all for the drugs if you truly feel you need it, but depending on the prescription they can sometimes have bad side effects. One of my friends was on anti-depressants for a while and he just couldn't really feel anything when he was on them, the world was abit of a daze...but if its what you need go for it. Oh and if you try the St John's wort mention it to your doctor otherwise it might interfere with medication.

Answer 9

Yes I definitely would see the GP and ask about antidepressants.. while they will not "cure" the situation, they can get you over the "hump" and help you have time to work thru your feelings and issues.

you would probably also benefit from talk therapy and your GP might have some suggestions of options...

Most Gp's have been educated to watch for depression in women... so you should be ok going that route.. the other route you could take is talking to your OB GYN... they are usually very sensitive to depression in women and willing to prescribe anti-depressants

Answer 10

Hi Nati,
I see that you have almost twenty answeres to your question! I can almost relate to your situation but I'm not qualified to advise you on depression but to answere your question, YES go and see your gp. Yor bf ( who was probably your best pal) leaving will be upsetting and Nati, it is natural for you to worry about your child.
Your gp deals with every senario and will be pleased to help.
My advise is,
write everything down on a bit of paper and take it to the gp so that you don't get embaressed or forget important details etc. Read it to him or give it to him...
You'll be ok and try and keep a routine for the mornings as it helps me........up, kettle, dressed, coffee, tv etc
take care
J

Answer 11

Nati.,you boyfriend did you a favour he is not for you . You and your son deserve better your confidence and self esteem are at a low ebb, get help from your doctor even if its just to talk to him,you have a lot of responsibility for someone so young and i bet you are a good mother I admire you. You will get through this in time and you will not even think of you ex. Good Luck to you and your son.