and after a failed marriage of 17yrs...I am only her 2nd man, she says. How do I tell her that her sexual skills are lacking? I want to be nice about it....any suggestions?
2007-01-22 11:42:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Start by guiding her and telling her what you like. No one's a mind reader, and if she's not getting it right on her own, you need to let her know how to fix it. If she's consistently ignoring your needs and your requests, perhaps it's her communication skills that are lacking.
2007-01-22 11:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel honored, and privileged.....you're only the second man she has ever slept with. A lot of women, 36, have slept with more men than McDonald's has served. She might not know "all the ropes", but with patience, and love, you can have the distinct pleasure of teaching her. Consider yourself privileged!!
2007-01-22 19:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're expecting her to know exactly how to please you, and you want advice on how to help HER? How the hell do we know what you want? God, TELL her what you like! Are you a teenager? too young to have enough confidence to simply state what you like? THis is not her problem it's yours, and I hope you've got half a brain in your and treat her with some respect for gods sake. After all, she was not born with the knowledge of how to play with your balls while she sucks you off, you are being unreasonable to expect it. You should feel lucky you don't have someone who's had 4000 partners and knows all the tricks on how to please you.
2007-01-22 19:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like her...DONT tell her her skills are lacking ..not if u want to have sex with her again... teach her .. show her... tell her you are going to take control but gently .. she is probably scared as hell ... then after she is comfortable ask her what her sexual fantasy is .. you may never know she may just be a a animal waiting to be unleashed ...but DO NOT ..I mean DO NOT tell her she sucks.. or believe me u will wish u bit your own tongue off..
2007-01-22 19:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her some books. Watch a "get in the mood" movie. But most of all be patient and teach her.
2007-01-22 20:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you would like from her in a nice way, get a couple of porn movies and watch them together.
2007-01-22 19:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggest her doing this and that will please you and make your feel good. let her know nicely you're a different man needs different ways. she might be good for her ex though....make it sounds like it's not her fault but it's different couples having different needs.
2007-01-22 19:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then teach her what to do and how to be better, it's in your interests!
2007-01-23 06:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋