Last night my husband hit me in the side of the head Im 5 weeks pregnant... I dont understand why men are violent with women.. He left me and 2 kids and 1 in the belly, I dont know what to do
2007-01-22 11:42:20 · 16 answers · asked by heatflora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hes both very emotional abusive and now physically
2007-01-22 11:51:26 · update #1
You are better off without the prick,pick up the pieces and move on,u will surely meet someone who appreciates u,and report him for assault,u are preggers for heaven´s sake,he has no bizz hitting you
2007-01-22 11:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by CURIOUSMO2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reading what you just put up on your question is almost bringing me to tears. As I and many woman out there have been there done this. For starters no matter what excuse or what he promises or says DO NOT LET HIM BACK! Do you want you children growing up thinking that it is OK to treat their spouse or partners this way? That thought is what made me leave after being verbally, physically and sexually abused by my first husband. I know how very very scary it is to have smaller children and have no idea what your going to do or were you are going. I left my first husband 8 years ago at the time my children were 10 and 5 yrs old. My oldest son had cerebral palsy, seizures, adhd, asthma. So it was not easy,but all these years without him was worth it. Also after being divorced from him for 4 years I met the wonderful man I am married to now. Also from a legal stand point, go to the courthouse and ask for an order of protection. Even if you do not have the money for it you can get the fees waved. Second you can get help getting the divorce and protection from him for you and your kids. Cause to be honest if he will do it to you it is a very short step for him to do it to the kids. I am on and off yahoo messenger feel free to send me a message and I will talk to you more about this anytime. Good luck and you and your children will be in my prayers!
2007-01-22 20:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by melora53511 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I don't know how old you are or how long you have been with your husband but, I can tell you if you feel like deep down in your heart things won't gets better between the two of you then you should probably let him go his way. Sometimes things work out and sometimes things just get worse. You need to deside what is best for you and your kids. I wish you good luck in whatever you deside.
2007-01-22 19:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by specopsteph 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
file for divorce, even though it may hurt u right now, ask for support, get a restraining order. he hits u cause he don't want to be there, or deal with the responsibilities he has. immature. he blames u for life, a life he doesn't want to be in anymore. get out now, or you will have a lifetime of this, with no way out, as after we reach a certin age we just begin to accept things, and complain less, and think we don't deserve any better. get out while your still young enough to find another mate and get out before he permanently damages u and your self esteem.
2007-01-22 19:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count your blessings. If he wants to leave you let him go. Now is the time for you to be strong for your children. If you cannot do it for yourself at first do it for them. Take care of the practical things like child support, doctor visits, taking great care of your kids. It will be a lonley pregnancy because you are going to resent him for not being there to take care of you while you are taking care of the kids. In the long run you will have the admiration and love of your children. You wil in the process learn to take care of yourself.
2007-01-26 12:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deserve this. Thank God he's out of your life. Can you move back with your parents?
You need to file for divorce and get child support from him. Ask the clerk at the county about free legal service. You also need to contact social worker to see if they can help you with anything - health care, food stamp, etc.
Do you belong to a church? Maybe your church can help you out, as well. God bless!
Help with housing
http://www.hud.gov/renting/
Since I don't know where you live - here's an example to look for free legal service.
http://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/search/SearchResults.aspx?param=free+legal+service&ns=True&cp=1&rp=20&sort=score+desc+ffx_date_published+desc&sum=True&si=1&ei=200&bi=0&nt=f&sw=False&hf=False&bksn=FairfaxTaxonomies-Dev&pi=FairfaxTaxonomies-Dev&sp=pgscope&qt=free+legal+service&qw=free+legal+service&scope=%2f
Check this website for social service in your area
http://www.cbpp.org/1-14-04tanf.htm
2007-01-22 20:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there should be a place in your area to get help,i think its called help for battered women. real men don't hit women.if he comes back call the police!some times men or women just get upset, and then they take it out on there love ones
2007-01-22 19:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by stev12007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget him. dont be surprised cause man are *** whip sometime lol, but anyway im sorry for him do this to u first tell him not to hit u while u are pregnancy, if he left u just let him go, and be urself for a bit.
2007-01-22 19:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dam...what an a hole...Don't ever take him back...I know that's easy for me to say...but somehow find the strength because IT will never stop....I wish there was more that I could do....never ket anyone abuse you in anyway...especially a coward like that....dios te bendigas en todo.......
2007-01-22 19:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by eldiablo0731 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must be going through a lot right now and probably needed to put his anger on someone, but you don't need to be going through that because if you been always good to him and he don't appreciate it. Let him go, I know it may be hard, but he the one who chose that road.
2007-01-22 19:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by star200252 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋