bestowed on me. I help him thru depression, suicide threats becasue he got a one night stand pregnant before we met. I feel he layed a huge burden on my shoulders. I told him many times to seek prof help, but he wanted to talk to only me. Then when I help him come to terms with having a child, he ends our relationhip to pursue one with the mom. But I found this out when I was in the hospital., she called me, and then when I confronted him he told me never to call him again!!!They are not together shockingly. After I figured he was confused and wanted to remain friends, but now he completely ignore me and I feel so hurt and used, and all I do iscall him and leve messages and yell at him, desrervingly so. I cant let it go and dont know what to do anymore. I am in therapy, and its just not right. I feel the whole suicide thing he layed on me got to me, and I cant understand how someone can possibly do this to another human being? I thought I knew him and he really valued me.
2007-01-22 11:41:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I hate people like your ex. They are big time users, who just cling on to the first person who gives them attention and then sucks the life out of them only to spit them out when he's through.
Why would you want to cling on to a jerk like him? Forget him. You should feel anger, rage actually at such a loser. Then let it go. Chalk it up to a life experience and girlfriend, set your sights a little--no a LOT higher and just set your sails for bluer skies. Get far away from him and never call him again. He would just do the same thing to you over and over and over again.
2007-01-22 11:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probable meant the things he said at the time, but him metal state wasn't (and may still not be) stable at the time which doesn't excuse his ignoring you. He may even be embarrassed by how much you know about him. Just write the experience off as a lesson learned and his bad......you did what you could to help and he moved on for whatever reason. Take care of you now and when you are emotionally strong again find someone that will appreciate you in the good times and bad........good luck honey and don't let this experience tarnish you too much you obviously sound like you have a good heart.
2007-01-22 11:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're having a hard time letting go because you didn't get fair and proper closure. You didn't even get a warning. It's understandable that your mind is holding onto it, trying to resolve it.
But understand, some people are incredibly selfish. Some people are so caught up in their own problems that they can't recognize the hurt THEY are causing OTHERS. You must recognize this emotional immaturity, that you did the right things and couldn't have done any better by him, and let go.
And remember, the sooner you let go, the sooner your hands become free to hold something new.... and better.
2007-01-22 12:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by mbh2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you read through what you wrote and really think about it you're going to know that this is not a person that you're going to be able to have a good and peaceful life with. It sounds like you've spent a lot of time on him already and he doesn't seem grateful and appreciative and it seems like you should do what you can to put him out of your mind and realize you deserve better than the treatment that he gave you and move on to someone who does deserve a nice and caring person like you. I know it isn't easy but it can be done. Good luck.
2007-01-22 11:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by jljdc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem letting go of my exhusband. He hurt me really badly, lied to me for years, cheated on me with my cousin, and I was so angry at him, I couldn't let go of it. I got really depressed, ended up on anti-depressants and in therapy. And in the end, do you know what fixed it for me? I forgave him! I let it go, not for his sake so he could feel better about himself, cos I still believe he should take responsibility for what he did to me. But I forgave him and it was the most incredible feeling. Never felt anything like it before or since. Like a truck had been lifted off my shoulders!
I decided I didn't want this drug-addled fool's actions to affect me anymore, that I didn't want him to have that kind of power over me anymore. I realised that yes, he did some horrible things, but it was up to me whether I let it affect me, up to me to decide if I still wanted to be a victim. I forgave him for what he did, just let it float off into the cosmos for God or whoever is out there to deal with. Not my problem anymore! And I haven't looked back since, and am in a lovely relationship with a beautiful man now, which could not have happened if I was still holding onto the hurt.
Good luck, hope it works out for you.
2007-01-22 12:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by CheeseFest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Ritchie, it truly is tough. i'm sorry. I had an identical communicate with my spouse whilst we've been first married. i could come homestead on bypass away after months away, and she or he'd be speaking with human beings from her church who could call on the hours of darkness, whilst we've been the two attempting to sleep- and the countless people who referred to as blanketed an ex. I placed a give up to it, and controlled to realize this in a style that did no longer reason too plenty hardship- one good argument, and a nighttime no longer chatting with one yet another, and we moved on. I had a severe communicate with my spouse. I advised her that what she became doing felt usual to her, yet that it became no longer good for our marriage, because of the fact it made me very uncomfortable, and it became not at all a typical ingredient for a married woman to do. Marriage skill last the door on some areas of our previous, and construction a cutting-edge and destiny at the same time. i could recommend reminding her that there are issues which you have have been given had to alter on your life which you probably did no longer like doing, yet which you probably did for her without her desiring to beg. on an identical time as i'm consistently truly, truly hesitant to project ultimatums, this could truly undermine your have confidence, and an ultimatum could artwork, yet provided which you're no longer purely being an insecure, domineering prick. whilst you're purely being an a*s, this could backfire, yet once you're being life like, it incredibly is life decide to inform her which you adore her, yet which you're no longer residing a typical marriage, and additionally you would be able to't see your marriage surviving except she stops residing in her previous, and we could her exes' bypass. do no longer yell or have a tantrum. you are able to desire to be cool, and submit to in suggestions which you're putting stress on her. enable her make the determination, yet do no longer stand over her shoulder on an identical time as she issues approximately what she has to do... purely supply her a while by myself, and make specific that she is familiar with which you're unlikely to alter your suggestions purely because of the fact she's unahappy. whilst you're good, than you're good, and if it incredibly is properly worth it, stand your floor. good success, guy.
2016-12-15 04:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋