He has admitted to me he's out of his depth in his job and i have tried to be supportive. In this time he's been increasingly demanding of myself and my female boss (I too am female). The work he has asked of me is where he hasn't known what to do himself. He is a senior manager and there are 5 other people in our team: 3 are men and myself and my line manager are female. Today he unveiled a new piece of work none of the team are keen to do - he allocated 9 of the duties to myself, 8 to the duties of are assigned to my female line manger and 4 others are split between the other 4 men. In the same meeting he told me that I should capture the minutes even though I was not the most junior member of staff, only the most junior female. When I asked, why he replied why not?
When I meet him on my own he's patronising and has a very uncompromising and bullish manner that I must do as he says no matter if I feel it isn't the right approach.He's not like this with the men. Why? What do I do?
2007-01-22 11:31:50 · 17 answers · asked by Jacqueline H 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Oh my word........... why is it the "ism" word always manages to pop up when people dont like doing what they are told to do. if you dont like it, and you sound a very capable gal, LEAVE!
2007-01-22 11:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by Taffy Comp Geek 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. "[...] he's been increasingly demanding of myself and my female boss [...]"
2. "[...] Today he unveiled a new piece of work none of the team are keen to do - he allocated 9 of the duties to myself, 8 to the duties of are assigned to my female line manger and 4 others are split between the other 4 men. [...]"
3. "[...] I was not the most junior member of staff, only the most junior female. [...]"
4. "[...] When I asked, why he replied why not?
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Well, these are clear signs of sexism! But be careful, because he can find justifications - in order to cover up his attitude AND INCOMPETENCE. This kind of bosses are very subtle and extremely well connected, so your odds are pretty week!
2007-01-22 19:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Emil Alexandrescu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not sound very stable. If he's a senior supervisor and he purely has 5 comments... regrettably, he's in charge and probable is unlikely away. i might communicate on your line supervisor and ask her suggestion, if she will communicate issues to the powers that be. If the Sr. supervisor is out of his intensity, it relatively is going to grow to be obvious in some unspecified time interior the destiny. lots relies upon on your difficulty - what are your job skills, how long have you ever been doing this job, and what's the employment industry like on your area? In my journey, bosses do no longer pass away. They get shuffled around. no remember if that's certainly poor, i might initiate searching for greater artwork. back, my first pass may be to speak to my line supervisor, on the grounds that she is taking hits from his sexism.
2016-11-01 00:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by quinteros 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like sexism; although it sounds like you gave your 'power' away when you allowed him to confide about his not being up to the job. At that point you should have told him to speak with upper management to find out if there was training he could take and then moved on past him. Taking minutes is no big deal but tell him you'll take meeting notes (not as formal as minutes). He assigned you 9 tasks which allows you the right to delegate these tasks to others with instructions. Unload to a few of the men who didn't get as heavy a work load. Hang in there and brush off your resume just in case you'd prefer to move on to bigger and better things. Good luck!
2007-01-22 11:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi, This really annoys me when I hear this. Someone is in a job they can't do properly, male or female. Ok, rant done, lets have a look at the law.
The Sex Discrimination Act 1975 S1(a) ... a person discriminates against a woman if on the ground of her sex he treats her less favourably than he treats or would treat a man.
Do you think this applies to the way you and your colleagues are treated?
If so then use your union, if you are in one, or talk to a specialist employment solicitor.
Hope this clarifies things for you a little.
Good luck
2007-01-24 03:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by LYN W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I think the part where he expected you to take notes IS sexism. I'm always very careful that if I assign note-taking to a woman in a meeting it is because it makes sense, and I make it clear that it makes sense.
Unfortunately, it looks like his sexism is ingrained, so it is not necessarily something you can change. The good news is that he doesn't sound very competent, so will probably be out the door sometime.
2007-01-22 11:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Julian A 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be sexist but sexISM isn't against the law - only sexual harassment. If you feel unfairly put upon based on your sex I'm not sure what you can do about it legally. You may just need to tough it out until another opportunity comes along (or he goes first)
2007-01-22 12:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by melissasiobhan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, absolutely yes. But, I've seen a lot and no one will stand up to it. I recommend networking with some working women's groups. Your example is so obviously wrong and yet, most won't see it. Except other smart, strong women! Networking is good for your ego and your career.
Have to say, I'm jaded-I quit my last job, after 30 years in the investment business-because he insisted I learn to type faster-although I was his "Investment Manager" with two licenses and a college education...
2007-01-22 11:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Middleclassandnotquiet 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I find it unfair that you get more than the men do all together, but it may not because you are female. He may just dislike you. I think he sounds like a very bad boss.
2007-01-22 11:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by paper.bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems he is sucking up to male staff to get support from them for the future .if he cant cope then be carfull cos it may go to his head and end up sacking u and using the extra work he has given u as an excuse just for that..
2007-01-22 11:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by glen w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were supportive of him and showed initiative and willingness to work with him and now he is taking advantage of you. Not because you are female but because you laid the groundwork for it to be that way.
2007-01-22 11:55:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋