How can i either get him to change his mind or get him to get me pregnant? I've tried a lot of stuff.
2007-01-22 11:22:43 · 32 answers · asked by aropostale11 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You wait until you're BOTH ready.
2007-01-22 11:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wanting and needing are two very different things. Why do you want a baby right now ? Can you offer it everything that a baby needs, because you feel like you're both settled in your lives and you feel like your biological clock is ticking ? Or do you simply want one because YOU want one?
You have no right to force him to change his mind, or to trick him into getting you pregnant. Getting pregnant and having a child is a very BIG decision, and it shouldn't be just a whim or one person's decision. Trapping him is a very unfair thing to do, and one that you'll probably regret later.
The fact that your boyfriend isn't ready, and is willing to stick to his guns, shows that he's making a mature decision - not only for himself, but for you too.
You sound very young ( no offense, if you aren't) and you have years ahead of you - years to make the right choice , and for all the right reasons. Wait until you're in a fully commited relationship ( on both sides) and then think about getting married before bringing children into the world.
2007-01-22 11:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thought of having a baby and actually having one are very different. Wait a few years, wait until you get married. Think about what your reasons are for wanting to get pregnant. I have 2 kids, I'm lucky if I get a shower everyday. I never get any free time. I haven't slept in 4 years. Just think a lot more about it, do research. Babysit someone else's kids, that'll make you not want some for a while. Or watch a video of someone giving birth.
2007-01-22 11:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't trick him...if he's not ready there may be a very logical reason. My daughters father 'tricked' me, he wanted a kid and I wasn't ready. He got me pregnant but I TAKE CARE OF HER. I love my daughter but it would be a lot easier if it would happened when I was ready especially since i am doing it alone.
FYI...I have degrees, a great job, make great money and my daughter will be 5 in march...for me the money isn't the hardest pat of doing it alone (well not anymore)...its the time. It's hard not having anyone else to get the baby if she is sick, or stay home, or take her to dance...or when you are sick, you still have to get up to make breakfast..no 'honey, can you do it'. Also, I was in the hospital for 5 days after a surgery...worried sick about my baby cause she was with auntie, grandma, a friend.
I'm not going to give you the get married first crap, because times have changed and unfortunately nothing is promised to be forever. On that subject I say do whats in your heart. However, when the time comes to be a mom please make sure that he agrees he wants to be a dad. If both parties want the kid then most likely both parties will do their best to give that child a wonderful life. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-22 11:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by Butta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this boyfriend is the one you are sure you want to have a child with, then my advice is to wait. It doesn't make sense to rush another person into something as huge and life-changing as having a baby.
If you want to have a baby no matter what and will not wait for your boyfriend to be ready, then you need to get a new boyfriend.
Do not trick him into getting you pregnant, because besides being unethical, he will suspect you and may leave you.
I waited for more than five years for my husband to be ready to have a child, and I'm really glad I waited, because no matter how badly I wanted a baby, I would NOT want to be doing this without his full support.
PS. if you are still in high school, I really recommend waiting. school is hard enough without all the extra headaches of pregnancy and parenthood.
2007-01-22 11:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by crazyjmommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont you dare bring a child into this world without you and him both wanting it, and trust e he must have his reasons, i had a baby at 23 and we both knew when we were ready, give him his time, he obviosly has reasons for wanting to wait.... besides after you have a baby you honestly will never sleep, go to the bathroom , or brush your hair again for about three years, they are very time consuming and a lot of hard work, ad if you dont do it at th right time, he will resent you for taking his youth away, and you wouldnt want that right. Having a baby when he doesnt want one will make him feel trapped, and you want him to be overjoyed right ? so please think about what your doing before you do these things, i dont mean to be harsh but i had to have an abortion because the boyfriend wasnt "in the right mind" ( he didnt know i was pregnant but he wasnt willing to stop doing drugs to make it work with just me so i had to make this difficult decision for myself) so make sure you are both financially and emotionally ready
2007-01-22 11:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait. Having a child together is a decision that is going to effect the rest of your life - all 3 of your lives - If he is not ready to have a child he may not be as helpful as you would hope or may resent the situation. If you do not want to wait to have a child until he's ready - maybe he's not the person for you.
2007-01-22 11:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to get pregnant? What you should do is wait until your married. If he doesn't want a baby, then when you do get pregnant will he leave you and will you be alone to raise this child. Take my advice and wait to get pregnant!
2007-01-22 11:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by just another girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell are you thinking.. your BOYFRIEND ???? How do you feel about being a single MOM should be your question to yourself. If there is no commitment to stay with you, there will be less of a chance of proper fatherhood. You are being extremely selfish. You should be thinking of the childs needs NOT yours. Get married, get settled, get financially secure then discuss becoming parents. YOU ARE NOT GOING TO GET HIM TO CHANGE HIS MIND. GET THIS STRAIGHT. CHILD SUPPORT AND AN ABSENT FATHER IS NOT GOOD FOR A CHILD.
2007-01-22 11:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by tim s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get married. Then make a baby. Seriously, your kid will be better off with two fully committed parents. Otherwise, if you do get pregnant, and he does NOT want a child he's likely to take off and leave you alone with your future child. Be glad that he's not pushing to have sex before marriage.
2007-01-22 11:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by Erin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you aren't mature enough to have a baby. Has the world forgotten that when you have a baby out of wedlock...it's called a 'bastard'?? Whether you want to admit it or not...that's what it would be. Aren't there enough babies out there in the same situation? I think you are trying to put the cart before the horse. Try getting married first....marriage is rough enough without starting it off with a baby first.
2007-01-22 11:40:31 · answer #11 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋