Her father and I are getting a divorce and Im now pregnant with another mans baby....how is the best way to tell her that im having a baby with another man? please serious answers only..thanks.
2007-01-22 11:17:43 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ok My husband and I are getting a divorce, we have been seperated for 7months now and I have found out that im now 5 1/2 months pregnant, I dont have a relationship with the man i got pregnant with and no im not proud of what i have done,..yes my to be ex does know and yes my infedlity was the cause of the divorce...and my daughter lives with her father.....how do i tell her with out making her think i dont love her or trying to replace her?????
2007-01-22 12:33:21 · update #1
GOD! Parents these days! Well start by letting her meet the other man.Let her get to know him for about a month or two.Then tell her.
Glad your not my mom.
2007-01-22 11:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by jayyy 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her in a girls day out and explain first to see if she understands what's happening with mommy and daddy getting a divorce and all that stuff if she does than easily start breaking the news to her and tell her how wonderful it would be to have a baby around and all that good stuff! That is what I did with my daughter when she was 8 and I got a divorce and now it's been 2 years and she and my two year old are in love with eachother and it did not take her long to start loving her step dad and now we are happily ever after!
2007-01-22 11:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by adri012980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! Sticky scenerio! I think pure honesty is the answer. Take her to lunch and afterwards go somewhere quiet (could be a park or even her bedroom) and tell her: Daddy and I didn't work out because we felt we would be better people if we were to split up. (or whatever the case may be but don't make it too hard for her to comprehend, she's 8!) And then just explain to her that you have met another guy and him and you are really good friends. At this time you should assess to see her reaction to the fact that you like another man, and from their either tell her you are going to have a child with him, or wait until you start showing (or close to it) and break the news to her then. I kind of feel like she should have time to adjust to the fact that you are seeing someone before you bomb her with the whole situation all at once. As long as you try to keep honesty and openess with her, I think she'll be ok. Just show her lots of love and don't give her anything to doubt you about. I wish you the very best of luck, and above all, a healthy pregnancy. :)
2007-01-22 11:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by Brittany A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How far along are you?? How long have you been with this new man?? What does your daughter think of this new man?? When will the divorce be final?? Personally I thing its best to wait a while to tell her. Then you will have a sit down chat with just you and her. You will have to explain that you love this man and the he is going to be the father of her new brother or sister.
2007-01-22 11:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think at 8 years old, you don't need to tell her the baby doesn't have the same father, unless she asks (Which she probably will). Start by telling her than you are pregnant. She will ask questions and "is the baby Daddy's too?" might be one of them. If she asks that, just say, "No, it's mine and so-and-so's". I've always found the best way to handle questions from children is to answer them simply but honestly. When she has enough information, she'll stop asking questions. But I don't think you need to offer up that little bit of info unless she asks for it. It may not even occur to her.
2007-01-22 12:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by crazyjmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, there is alot of questions to be asked before I would you tell her about the baby.(1) how far long are you? If I wasn't too far long in too my preg. I would make sure me and the baby are in good health.(2) Are you and this new man going to stay together? If so, you need to work him in slowly to the relationship despite your preg. She doesn't need another man coming in and out of her life. Hopfully her father is will be her only one she calls daddy. You'll know when the time is right and just what to say. Don't push it and just talk.....She may suprise you and allready knows GOOD LUCK..
2007-01-22 11:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by kathleen w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to sugar coat this situation. You need to explain to her that sometimes people make mistakes, but it doesn't mean they are bad people. Then explain to her how you like another man that isn't her father. (does she know about the divorce?) See how she reacts from that, then go from there about the baby. Make sure to get her excited about having a sibling. She may be too excited to care about who the dad is.
2007-01-22 11:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the same way, I am not very proud of you, but at the same time congratulations. This may not be easy..but you have to tell her the truth. It may happen to do it in her room so that the stomping out is less likely to happen. Here are some steps
1:Bake her favorite cookies
2:Tell her to come to her room, and that nothings wrong
3: Ask her if she wants a cookie
4: Take one yourself, give your baby a treat!
5: Calmly tell her that Mommy is having a baby
6: Sadly, this baby isn't Daddy's. She got it somewhere else
7: This may means that she might be getting married
8: Both Mommy and Daddy will still love her.
2007-01-22 11:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Look im guessing shes pretty old so yes i agree with the other person have the man there and tell her calmly that you are pregnant but make it sound like it was on purpose i dont know you or your intentions but the poor girl is not going to like her mom if she thinks she had a kid on accident because if that gets around people with have names for you like slut just make it look intentional and try not to lie to her but take it seriously if you are too lighthearted or are joking around she may find it serious and think that you dont which may then also cause problems god bless you and goodluck
2007-01-22 11:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by Aggen. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First question
Is your ex-husband claiming the child?
If so, never tell your Daughter.
Second question
Did your affair end your marriage?
If no, tell your daughter truth. First tell your ex husband
If yes I do not know what to tell you. It will be hard. Your daughter could be mad at the baby. She may think that if the baby was not here, you will be still marry to her father
Good luck. This is very hard.
2007-01-22 11:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will not understand the signifacance either way. Just tell her she's going to have a new baby brother/sister and dont bring up the father part. If or when she meets your new man, tell her that this is the father of your new baby sister/brother.
2007-01-22 11:24:53 · answer #11 · answered by coolness_is_here 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋