Married for two years and at the moment her cousin is staying with us for 3 month holiday. Last week a close lady's friend of my wife said to me that her son has seen my wife and her cousin in walking arm and arm. I called the son and he said yes they looked like lovers. I then confronted my wife and initially she denied everything. A couple of days later she said a we were just walking holding hands but there is no sex. I work away but when I was home I could see no signs of any love unless they are hiding it well. She has now fallen out with her friend. Is it my immagination or my gut feeling is not good.
2007-01-22 11:15:26 · 26 answers · asked by maleinaus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK. Your gut feeling may not be good but until & unless you see them together indulging in sex or romancing you cannot go by the hearsay stories as told to you by others. I know now it won’t be possible to follow them as she has fallen out from him, but still you can keep an eye on her. Best course is to keep your wife with you at the place you work that will give you satisfaction that she may not be involved in an extramarital affair which you presume she may have been doing in you absence. Merely walking holding hands don’t prove an extramarital affair as this is a common feature you see in today’s world amongst many married or unmarried people that shows & prove nothing for your suspicions. If her behavior towards you is as normal as it was previously then forget this episode as a bad dream & keep trust on her lest you may loose her just for nothing & then you feel sorry for all this happened that was nothing but only a friendly gesture on part of your wife & her friend.
2007-01-22 16:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not surprised at all that she has had a falling out with the friend, most likely the friend disapproves of what she is doing. people do hide things they don't want others to see, listen to your gut feeling it doesn't fool u or lie to u. when we can't know the truth about something, we can rely on our intuition or gut feeling to let us know there may be some sort of problem we need to look into. why not send the cousin away back to where he came from? if they are having sex do u think she would be so foolish to be seen, but holding hands with a cousin seems a little bit telling. i would not hold hands with my cousin or any man unless we were having a relationship.
2007-01-22 11:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ur imagination.How can u believe a small little child who is not yet mature.If u think the child is correct then whenever they both mean ur wife and her cousin go out u just follow them if they seem to do something which is done when 2 indiviual are together and take the apportunity of that moment u just catch them and go to court and give divorce to ur wife.but i think ur wife is innocent bcause her cousin can't do this with ur wife and she cannot forget of making relationship with a guy who is like a brother u see if there something between them u break up with ur wife if there is nothing then u can also join them and have a chat with both of them and say sorry.
2007-01-22 11:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Kittu s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
more than like your imagination ..she is probably mad at her Friends because they told you and broke what trust she thought they had together..now let me tell you how cousin behave when they are sexually active together... it starts a early childhood and they are the best of friends.. always talk about each other even if they have not seen each other in years .. when they get together it is like nothing has change and you cant hide it..just holding hands or arm in arm is nothing but a show of affection.. i don't have any cousin or sisters or brothers .. but if i did i would be that way with them if i was close.. now your asking how i know about cousin that are sexually involve.. especially since i don't have any.. well truth is i don't know them they live up north and i am down south.. never met..any way my daughter was like that with her female cousin..
2007-01-22 11:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people need to find a hobby, and this "friend" sounds like perhaps she doesn't have anything better to do than imagine the worst. Many relatives are close, and there is nothing wrong with this. I walk arm in arm with my cousin, does that make us lesbian lovers? Growing up side by side with a relative can create a very loving and close relationship that has nothing to do with sex.
The friend, and consequently her son (who learns by example) need to get a life.
2007-01-22 11:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by Theresa A 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hiii its common for brother and sister to walk arm in arm ; for a stranger this would look as though they are lovers since our society does not have the outlook to think positive.
You are certain that its your wife's cousin brother so why the iota of doubt ???.
Go easy and enjoy your married life... and keep away from nosey neighbours as all of them would love to watch the fun when you two are fightin !!!!!!!! Relax and enjoy life
2007-01-22 16:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sudden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that your wife is missing the emotional connection between you and her while you are away. I walk with some of my cousins that way. I have cousins who have sent flowers on my birthday, call me all the time because we have a strong sense of family. If they were kissing cousins the guilt in your house would be like a fog in your house. the fact that she is falling out with her friend signals to me the friend is either after you or a hater who is jealous of your wife's bond with her cousin.
2007-01-26 04:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always trust your gut. My experience is that the spouse always knows what they know before they know it. If things look fishy to you then they probably are and they wouldn't be acting as lovers in front of you so that's no way to tell. They could be very good at hiding their feelings.
Tell you wife that you know for sure. Don't accept her denial. Then proceed as if she has confessed whether she does or not. My guess is that if you confront her with authority and don't back down she will spill it.
2007-01-22 11:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ever going on is not for good.... Well she has accepted that she was going arm in arm not immediately when u asked... Its not ur imagination man... There is no need for a marrried women to go arm in arm with who ever it is, other than her husband.... EvenThough it is not sex, what ever it may be, u r the only person wiith whom she must and should share. Not only she, u Too. Well When atleast one of u is going break this rule, the other is going to sink.... Being a man deal it with care and positive thoughts...
All D Best
2007-01-22 18:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by Bon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont take outsiders words. what do you mean about cousin . they are are friend ecpecialy in a family and very nearest. avoid bad thought. the bad women cheating you and acting your wifes friend.. what is a folt. put arm by arm. put the lady far from your home.
2007-01-22 12:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋