Dating and Marriage Questions!?

Question

I am doing a survey in my sociology class and need to interview a few people. Please answer the following questions.
1. During what decade were you a teenager?
2. Where did you go on dates when you were in high school?
3. How was dating different when you were high school and college age than today?
4. What is your present marital status? Years?
5. How did you and your spouse meet and what made you want to know them?
6. How long did you date your spouse before you got married?
7. Was there a time that you were separated geographically? How did it affect your relationship?
8. How old were you when you got married and what age do you recommend people be when they do get married?
9. As you got to know your spouse, how long was it before you knew they were the "one"?
10. How would you define love?
11. How did you know that they were the one to marry? Was it just that you were in love or were there other factors?
12. Do you have any interesting dating experiences?
CONT on detai

Questions continued
13. How did your parents feel about the people you dated?
what role should parents play in helping a son or daughter choose who to marry?
14. How has being married been different that what you thought it would be?
15. Our textbook talks about importance of compatibillity- not only getting along but having agreement on key values. What are some key foundations that your relationship with your spouse is built on?
16. How do you feel about the messages the media & society give concerning dating, love and marriage today? Please explain.
17. How has you marriage and family life impacted your career & how har your career affected your family and marriage?
18. If you could give advice to a high schooler today about dating & selecting a marriage partner what would you say?
THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME!

Thank you guys for answering!! you really saved me!! thank you!

Answer 1

1. Late 80's and early 90s
2. Concerts, Dance Clubs (like bars but no alcohol), bowling, mini-golf, movies, dinner, hiking, boating, etc.
3. People did not assume that if you went on a few dates you would have sex.
4.Married 11 years
5. He jumped in front of me as I was walking, literally, and said "Hi, my name is Will." It was so forward. I liked his smile and he just started talking to me. Soon we looked up and it was dark and everyone had gone. We had been talking for hours.
6. One year
7. Yes, a few times for work one of us would be relocated to another state. We are very attached to each other and both whine and complain incessantly when we are not together. Overall I know that being separated makes us both realize what we have and not ever take each other for granted.
8. 23 and way too young. I think people should wait until they graduate from college to get married. It's very hard to try to balance school and work and marriage. Especially if you start having babies.
9. This is not like me, but I knew the day I met him. Normally I gag at people who claim love at first sight, but on the way home, I said out loud, "I am going to marry that guy." Of course, after dating for a few months you really get to know a person and decide if you really are compatible. I think it takes at least a year before people show you their true colors.
10. Caring more about another person than for yourself. (NOT to your own detriment, it is not proof of your love to "give up" things that are important to you or doing things you don't want to do to make the other person happy.) Feeling a respect that is mutual and makes you want to be a better person. Feeling peaceful and joyful when you think about them.
11. We both felt like we were being pushed together by forces outside ourselves. We ran into each other again and again in random places. We both wanted the same things out of life, we loved to be together, we did not create drama for ourselves, we could both be happy with each other, there was no "trying to make the other one jealous" or getting mad over petty things. We were in love, but more than that. We became best friends.
12. After we had been dating about 6 months we drove past a restaurant I used to work at when I was 16. It was a '50's theme restaurant with a band and a dance floor and lots of people would take dates there. I pointed it out and said "hey, I used to work there." Will said "My friend Sean's girlfriend worked there too, did you know her? Her name was Stephanie." I did. He told me about one night when he was out with Sean and they stopped to pick up Stephanie after she got off of work. So Will wouldn't be the 3rd wheel, Sean asked Steph if she had a friend for his friend. She came back with a girl who also worked there. Will told me all about his date with her and how much he liked her, but never asked her out again because at the time he had a girlfriend. I asked him where they went and suddenly realized "Will, THAT WAS ME!!!" He said, "No, this girl had brown hair." I showed him my dark roots and said, "it was ME!!!" I remembered after that, that he was one of the first dates I had gone on. I really liked him a lot, but I never heard from him again so I thought the feeling wasn't mutual. Turns out, he's just loyal. He thought of "that girl" from time to time and wondered about her.
13, My parents really liked Will. But I had a boyfriend for 5 years prior to him that they really loved too. It was hard for them when we broke up. Will's parents didn't like me at all. I think they thought he was too good for me. I am loud and funny and I love to laugh. They are stern and disaprove of everything.
14.Marriage is more fun than I ever expected it to be. I was worried that after people get married they start to get boring. They seem to just stop trying to impress each other. They get fat, stop wearing make-up, stop being interesting, I didn't want that. Will promised me that we would always have fun if I married him. And we do.
15. We belong to the same religion. We have a foundation built on being fun to be around. Making each other happy. We would never cheat on each other or do anything that would destroy our relationship.
16. It seems like the media is trying to get people to think it's normal for couples to cheat. Especially in 3somes. As though it "doesn't count" if both people are into it. I think sex is only as special as you make it.
17, For me, I had to be a stay at home mom while my little ones were babies. It made sense to us to do it this way. Now, I bid a schedule that allows me to be home before my kids are home from school. Will really steps up when necessary and gets them up, homework done, and off to school. He goes to the parent/teacher conferences. We help each other out.
18.You will change very dramatically from now until you are a real adult. The kind of people you are in love with while you are in high school are not the kind of people you will be compatable with later. Don't create drama in your life. Don't give up your own ambitions for a boyfriend. DO NOT GET PREGNANT!!!!! It's better not to have a boyfriend when you are young because you miss out on so many things. Become an interesting person by going to college, traveling the world, pursuing hobbies that you enjoy and setting goals for yourself. Make lots of friends. Don't sit around like Cinderella waiting for a guy to "save you" from your boring life. Don't feel like you need to get married anytime soon. Once you get married, you'll be married for the rest of your life. This is your one chance to be young and single. College life is awesome. You will learn so much about the world and yourself. Have fun with it. Date lots of different people, but respect yourself. Don't let people use you. Enjoy every moment of your life.

Answer 2

It's quite amazing that you've been dating for 5 years and the subject of marriage or at least engagement has never come up. I would say you need to sit down and have a serious talk because after being together for that long you should be able to talk about anything including your future together. If he doesn't want to get married (or he's just "comfortable" with where you're at) you may want to decide of that's what you want or if you want more. But you definitely need to sit down and have an honest heart to heart,

Answer 3

1.I'm not sure what a decade is.I am 21 so I guess I would be in the present decade.

2.I never really did go on a date but most of my friends would go bowling,to the movies or out to eat.

3.I would be dating in this day and age.

4.Married.4 years in March.

5.My husband and I met out of a chat room.When we finally met in person I felt an instand attraction to him.I instantly wanted to be his everything.

6.We met on Janurary 1st 2003 and were married March 3rd 2003 so 2 months and 2 days.

7.He was stationed on a post that was 3 hours from me when we met.We talked everyday online and tried to talk at least once everyday on the phone.It was hard and quite a few mistakes were made in that time.There was also a lot of trust issues that started and still remain that we are having to work through now.

8.I was 17. 2 months shy of my 18th birthday.I can't really recommend an age to get married.I do believe that if you are younger it is harder because you havent finished growing and maturing and finding yourself and if you get married you have to do that while being married.It can cause problems in your relationship but if your with the one you want you can work through them.Some though don't know who for sure they want at a young age and when they go through the growing and maturing they change and just aren't happy in the marriage anymore.Also if the other person isnt willing to accept you as you grow and mature it can end in divorce.All in all I think it all depends on if you marry the right person or not because everything continues to grow and change as they get older.

9.As stated perviously the day my husband and I met in person I had an instant attraction to him and I instantly wanted to be his everything and take care of him.So for me it was an instant thing.

10.Love is everything.If you were to ask why I love him I couldn't tell you.Love just is.It is what it is and its either there or it's not.It's the feeling I have for him and I can't tell you where it came from.

11.I answered that question in number 9 when stating how long it was before I knew.It was an instant feeling rather that be love or what not but I knew that I wanted to love him and be with him and be his everything.

12.No

13.My mom didn't care to much for most of the people.The day she met my husband though she liked him.I'm not quite sure what role parents should play.I don't believe in arranged marriages but I do believe there should still be courtship.

14.I never thought about the disagreements we would have.I had the unrealistic idea it would be perfect.It takes a lot more work,time and effort then what I thought.

15.I think the core values you need are that you agree or can come to an agreement on the main and basic things thats gonna come up during your marriage. Money,Kids,Values,Religion and so on and so forth.

16.The messages sent out to people nowadays gives no respect to what marriage and love should be about.Mainly what you see is loveless marriages,cheating,abuse,premartial sex,sex without love all the things that should not be part of a relationship.Therefore they are giving the idea to our young people that it is ok to go out and have no respect for themselves or anyone else for that matter.Thats why we have so many unwanted pregnancies, abortions, and so many teenager mothers.

17.I don't work.

Answer 4

1. seventies/early eighties
2. mall movies
3. there were no cell phones or internet
4. married 6 yrs
5. Met at Bible study
6. 7 months
7. only by work.
8. 35. recommend around 25 when settled financially and socially
9. still working on that "one."
10. sacrifice of your will for the happiness of your spouse.
11. she said yes.
12. Couldn't keep our hands off each other.

Answer 5

-mid-90's
-malls skating bowling movies
-more experienced and early
-married almost 9 yrs
-we met at the burger king we both worked at and his personality
is what made me want to get to know him
--started dating AUG 4 96 engaged nov 1, 96 married nov.1, 98
--were werent separted by mch 30 mins.
-i was 20
-when u feel u are ready. not earlier than 18 at least
-matter of months
-i would define love as 2 people sharing their lives and wanting the best of all.
-yes we were n luv but it was something he said b4 dating. us girls were looking at modern bride and i said that the only way ull c me in a dress is at my wedding and he goes well i guess that ill b cing u in one cuz ill be standing next to u. i just warmed my heart that he was so confident on that subject.