well he proposed to me 2 years ago and i said yes but then i got pregnant last year and i want to get married but he still have 1year in school to finish and he said to wait until he finish from school. But i'm worried i might wait and he ends up marrying someone else. I just want to know if he's telling the truth or not because i just don't want to get hurt again.
2007-01-22 10:54:21 · 13 answers · asked by MADALENE C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello honey,
Try talking to him to understand him better and he's situation. Do also let him know about your situation too and how to handle the period of going thru life with a big tummy and yet to get married..
Try talking in a nice way, do not pressure him, because i know you're also under pressure with the baby in your tummy...
I guess you should actually check with him abt if you were to have sex and how if you were pregnant? there should be some agreement before you start having sex...
At this moment, please dont feel or get hurt or dont feel being cheated.. All this sex issues should be well prepared for the future consequence..
Which guy dont want to have free sex??? but at least there must be certain kind of understanding before you want to sex, right?!
Well, please try talk to him nicely k, and try to work thing out and prepare to be a father or mother in your near future..
I pray that God will always be on your side..
2007-01-22 21:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? I think you're out of luck. Someone that proposed to you 2 years ago did so just to take you off the market for others or to keep you from hassling him about marriage. Now that you've gotten pregnant you've only worsened your situation.
But, what should you do??? If he's living with you then continue on as you have been but understand that he may not marry you. He's obviously committed enough to live with you The test is will he marry you? It's not until after his 1 year of school is finished will you get your answer. At that time you need to set a date. No sense in worrying about it until then.
2007-01-22 11:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by digdowndeepnseattle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like with him asking you to wait until hes done school means that he wants to provide you with a good life and a nice wedding. He might not have the extra money it'll take for a wedding, plus with a baby on the way. What you could suggest is both of y'all go to the court house in your town/city, get married there. At least y'all will have the certificate and when y'all have enough money for a wedding, then do it then. All the wedding is, is a ceremony and a place where family and friends eat for free and get drunk for free.
2007-01-22 11:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How pregnant are you? 3 months and not showing? Or 8 months and about to pop? If it is the latter, then I would think that he wants you to look like the beautiful woman in a great wedding gown that shows the woman you are. Instead of getting married in an oversized dress you bought at Dillards that only fits your belly and hangs everywhere else. It is your wedding day, you want to look the best you have ever looked in your life because EVERYONE is going to be looking at YOU. And if that means waiting till you have the baby and get back to your pre pregnancy body, I think it is worth it.
2007-01-22 11:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by Amber L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever read that book "When He's Just Not That Into You"????
Sounds like a cop out...he's still shopping around....Heck if he can have a baby and be cool with it...they he shouldn't mind making a legal committement to you either....
If he really wanted to committe to you he'd agree without question because his concern is to make YOU happy. And plus having a baby is a BIGGER committement than getting married...
2007-01-22 11:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by mailjunkie123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to give the child a name. He should get married.
That is unless the proposal was just to get married privilege.
He lost the right to wait when you got pregnant.
A man with any concept of honor gets married.
2007-01-22 11:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes asked you to marrie him, what else can you ask for i mean come on you guys have a kid and your still together maby you just need to be patient. Did you ever think of it as maby hes got alot on his hands, imean a wedding is a big thing, you should be happy that you have a mature person who loves you enough, don't rush him
2007-01-22 11:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, you'll always have the baby that you conceived to keep him in your life even if he is lying. You will have to take your chances now and hope he's ready for a family.
2007-01-22 11:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is reasonable for him to finish school so he can get a good job to support his family (you and child). getting married now would not help anyone. if he later moves on, he will provide child support.
2007-01-22 11:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he needs to marry the mother of his child... right away... tomorrow down at the court house.... go, get this done... for the sake of your baby.
2007-01-22 11:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋