looking at the glass half empty?

Question

I don't know why when I am on vacation or something ,I don't enjoy it the way I'd expected to .I always think that it will end some day and I'd return back to studying and university.I always freak out about the future.Even on the summer vacation,I spent the whole vacation worrying about the university and freaking out about it ,but everything turned out better than I expected it to ,but still I can't stop worrying about my life.I dunno why I still think about university when I am on vacation and worry about my studies.Besides,When I am having a good time,I always search for something that ruins it.I always focus on the bad things that happen to me and put aside the good things that happened.I am a pessimistic person most of the time and I can't help it.What should I do?How do I enjoy my life and not focus on the bad things in it?

Answer 1

The more attention you give to a behavior the more likly it is to be repeated ( Whale Done the Power of Positive Relationships) Most people who look at life in a pessimistic way all of the time are sometimes sad themselves. However I do think that it is natural to be worried about the future because you do not know what is coming up next in life. Put yourself on like a "Happy Plan" Everyday go through your events and find something positive accuate the positve on day one start out with fingding two things that went well that day or two positive things that you noticed that day. Then then the next go to four things and then day three go to six things and so on and so forth until it becomes habit to look at the positive. You have to always find the positive for yourself to keep yourself happy cause no one else can make you as happy as yourself can.

Answer 2

You could try taking one step at a time. One of the reasons we sometimes do not enjoy the times of rest and relaxation in our lives is the great expectations we put on that time. Try to only expect things day by day and appreciate the good times one by one. I know this is a simplistic way of looking at things; but it does work. Don't beat yourself up for feeling this way and know that by being aware of this problem; you are already on the way to correcting it. Life can deal out so many problems for us and we tend to get caught up in them. Try getting out and volunteering some of your time and finding out that others have problems and worries too. This can help a lot in your appreciating the life you live. Don't spend a lot of time alone, we tend to worry and reflect on things more whenever we are alone. You may try keeping a journal, write down the things in your day that have brought some joy, happiness, or satisfaction. By seeng it in print, you can relive those moments and understand that life can be as good as you think it is. Ultimately, it is up to you and no-one else to do this. It sounds like you are an intelligent person and want to live a fulfilled life. I pray that this will happen for you.

Answer 3

Make lists of all the positive and negative things in your life. You might be surprised to see that there are more positives than you thought.

What's all the school worry--are you doing very poorly, and think you don't have time for a vacation?

Live in the present moment--enjoy your life--quit worrying about things that you can't do anything about, or that have already past.

Look for the positives--forget those negatives--not worth your time or health. Stress is very bad for mental and physical health--and you are obviously stressing too much.

Read self-help books, and see a therapist if you think you can't do it on your own.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Sounds like me. I can't stop thinking about work when I'm trying to enjoy myself. My theory is that this stems from a deep-rooted belief that one doesn't really deserve to be happy. The more that you tell yourself that you deserve happiness, the more likely the chance of you experiencing joy. Grant yourself daily affirmations, several times a day. Pretty soon, you'll start to believe that you are worthy of truly enjoying yourself and you will be more likely to temporarily put school (and whatever else is on your mind) aside. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I know what you are going through. I am going through hte same thing. It's not unnormal or anyhting. What I do is I like to talk about it. Tell someone you trust how you feel. Unfourtunately, I can't find anyhting hat has "cured it" but, letting it out really work. For instance, I had the chance of a lifetime to try out for a big show, but I didn't because I was to affraid of being let down and now I am regretful,.

Answer 6

perhaps you work better under stress, so you must continually stress your self out, only when you realize that tomorrow is not guaranteed that you will begin to accept today for today and tomorrow as a maybe, so you had better look at the positive and the joy in today or have a tombstone saying this is not what I wanted but I worked very hard for

Answer 7

You might want to talk to a therapist about this. I know you are worried about this and it could be very helpful to speak to a professional and really get help figuring it all out.

Good luck!

Answer 8

My take on you is you are waiting for all the cool whistle blowing, shining lights, bells and whistles. I suggest you start take responsibility for yourself and stop waiting when they don't Believe now or believe me later

Party on Peace

Answer 9

Look at it this way, even if the glass's half empty, at least you always have something to drink!

Answer 10

Get your doctor to prescribe Zoloft for you. It worked wonders for me!