how can i stop these feelings? i honestly dont want to feel this way!
2007-01-22 10:52:56 · 21 answers · asked by the other one 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no sorry i should have been more clear he is in another country and no hes not married our lifes are just too different and we want different things and im not willing to risk everything for a friendship and not knowing if he feels the same
2007-01-22 11:01:55 · update #1
You can't get over it right away. It will take time, but don't allow yourself to try to find another man just to get over the one you can't have. It will hurt you and the man that you're leading on. All you can do is allow your feelings to get over him in time. Don't dwell over it though. Go out with friends to the movies or grab a bite to eat. Don't allow your world to completely stand still because you can't have this man. It will only upset you. Don't sit and watch love stories and eat a box of chocolates. That's the coommon mistake every woman makes. Don't allow him to ever know that it hurts you that you can't be with him unless he is feeling for you. I don't really think guys like it when a woman feels needy, wanted, or clingy. It always leads to a bad relationship. You can't stop those feelins but you can fight them. Just relax, breath, and just continue your life. It will be hard, but I have faith in you and believe that you can handle anything. Good luck!
2007-01-22 11:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by ~M*a*N*d*Y~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm not going to tell you anything you haven't heard but sometimes it could be as simple as the way someone said it that sinks in.You need to stop looking at him as Mr. wonderful,and that he's the one for you.Remember you only see the best of this man if you had to clean up after this man wash his dirty underwear listen to him belch and fart and take control of the remote control.What you see isn't the real person you need to live with that person then and only then will the other side come out.Remember the prince turns into a frog after the kiss.
2007-01-22 22:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i can truly tell you that you are not alone! but we will leave it at that!
my best advise to you is try to distance yourself, not cut off all contact with him just ease back a little. no don't tell him how you feel! i noticed that's what one other post had said. you dont want to do that you may end up humiliating yourself especially if its not a two way street:) just hold back continue to be friends. hay you never know maybe one day he will make a move that will surprise you:)
why are all the good ones so far away:(
BTW please tell your friend that im flattered but not interested:)
i truly mean that in the nicest way:)
2007-01-23 15:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(laughing at other post)
Why can't you have this man? The best way to do this is to try and stop thinking of him. Put your mind on something else like going for walks, go shopping, etc.... There are other fish in the sea! Move on with your life and stop living in a fairy tale. Another wards, SNAP out of it!
2007-01-22 19:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then...make an excuse not to talk to talk to him for a while and go out into the world to date..Find someone that will help you move away from falling for someone you can never have...or just have fun being in love with someone you can never have...however..it may affect your future relationships..if you feel like noone can add up to this man.
2007-01-27 00:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Starla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously dress up as sexy as you can, show up at his house and just show him the erotic side of yourself. As soon as you walk in the door have a big smile on your face and as you walk by him rub up against his body with yours and pretend he wasnt even there.. And dont even say anything..no hellos or nothing...Let him get the hint(which he will) there and then he will show more interrest about what you want, which is sex of course im assuming and for him to want you. You want him to want you, not the other way around.
2007-01-22 18:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by im_suuweeet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just need to distance yourself if u aren't willing to make the changes, just stop all contact with him. if u know these things than u have to stop taking to him and move on to someone else you can be with and have a relationship with.
2007-01-22 19:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out and find others you can be with. In my own experience the only way to forget someone is to get with another.
2007-01-22 18:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Tell Him. Then, Face the fact with mature.
"because the most regret is not telling our feeling"
2007-01-22 19:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Orsca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop those feelings you have to live with them and be mature enough to set them aside! At least you recognized that you can never have him.
2007-01-22 18:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋