well my roomie bailed on the rent and i moved back home, i went to rent.com and posted a profile about wanting to rent a room in my area, a girl contaced me needing a roomate cuz her bailed too. she seems really smart not wanting to meet at her apartment and she is interviewing others as well, she wants to meet at a public place. so im wondering what you think about moving in with somone you dont really know.
2007-01-22 10:42:15 · 14 answers · asked by CRAZY 8 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
what if i did a background check? still stupied?
2007-01-22 11:06:18 · update #1
Meet them in a public place first. I've met some amazing people from Yahoo, but for a roomie situation, you'll need to screen them differently.
Last time I had an ad out for a roomie, I had a half-dozen guys answer the ad. I still had to meet and interview them.
I took the unusual (I think) step of having them fill out applications, just like you would for a job.
I wanted personal contacts, background.
Ultimately, you go with your gut, but you'll need to do some homework first.
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It's funny how people get about meeting people online. Why is it different from meeting them the other ways? You still will make in-person contact, still check them out the usual ways.
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"what if I did a background check?"
You'd do that no matter how you met the prospective roomie, right?
2007-01-22 10:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Geico Caveman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you meet someone and you can tell they're special. Even just instant messaging two people can see the unique chemistry they share. I don't know if you think it should just be ignored or if contact should be broken. Frankly, I have no clue what should be done when someone meets a person that they want to be with, but are separated by 700 miles. There is virtually no chance of things turning out well, yet it feels as if nothing can stand in your way. I think a lot of times it is easier to fall in love online because showing your true self is simple. There is lesser fear of what people may think because you know nothing about them. You can put any face you want to them. If some random guy insults me, I could shrug it off because we don't even know each other. However if you were to insult me I would take it much more personally because i know what you are like, have seen your face, and I respect you. There is lesser pressure getting to know someone because you can get up and walk away any time, but when you fall in love you never want to leave. Falling in love is the easiest thing in the world, but the real question is how to answer the miles of impossible questions that follow.
2016-05-23 22:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bluntly' Don't do it. You could talk to this girl for a week or a month and still not know her well enough to move in with her. She still could be some kind of nut and not show it until you have moved in. Hey' You can give me a thumbs down if you want to but it is still crazy to think you can trust someone even if you check there back round there are some things that will not show up on the check. I know because i own 2 rental houses and have had some real winners that passed the check only to find out that they will not pay rent on time and will not leave because of squatters rights.
2007-01-22 10:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say that you meet somwhere in public et to know her better in person (take at least a week to get to know her) and if you ultimatly do move in with her make sure you have a back up plan so if you want to leave
2007-01-22 10:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by katey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you meet her and find out enough information about her to know if she's trustworthy, I guess it would be an option to solving your roommate need. For me, it would involve finding out who I could contact to find out if she really is like she says she is, possibly a pastor (if she is a church-going person) or someone reputable like that. I don't even think that I would seriously consider that as an option, but it may work out really well for you. Good luck.
2007-01-22 10:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by NK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u really don't know the person, or their likes and dislikes, but she seems to want to meet in a public place, so she does seem to have some smarts.
2007-01-22 10:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How is it any different than placing an ad in a newspaper looking for a roommate. If you are that skeptical...ask for references, etc. If he/she is on the upfront, they will have n problem providing you with references that they would provide for any job application.
2007-01-22 10:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by chick33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a poor decision. You can meet her, check her references, etc. but you still will not know her. I recommend that you find someone that you know, trust, and get along with.
2007-01-22 10:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by shendley04 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
meet at a public place, and bring your strongest friend along to meet 'her' too.
2007-01-22 10:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by itsALICE! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont be so trusting,make sure you check her if she has a criminal record or else your in a big trouble
2007-01-22 10:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋