is it okay to masturbate.?

Question

i have been married for 20 years but i secretly masturbate about twice a day and have done so
for years but i fantasise about wifes friends even my sister inlaw is this normal and do women do the same.
if my wife caught me she would go ballistic she thinks its wrong to masturbate without her being there.

Answer 1

Personally I think it's wrong, especially when your thinking about your wife's freinds and your sister in law.

By you masturbating your taking sexual pleasure away from your wife.

Answer 2

Maybe the fact that your wife would go ballistic is exciting to you as well. It's like having relations somewhere you could get caught. Fantasies are normal. I have had many about friends of my ex husbands, my ex and so on. As long as I act out these fantasies by myself what is the harm?

Answer 3

It's totally okay to masturbate alone. If your wife is freaked out by it it is because she is jealous that you can experience sexual satisfaction without her. It's insecurity, plain and simple.

Is it okay to masturbate two times a day? Yes. As long as it doesn't interfere with your real sex life (like you're too tired to have sex) then there is no problem with it.

Do women do it? Some do. Some don't. Just like men. Some never do, some do it once a week, others every day, others a couple times a day (like you). Everyone is different.

Answer 4

Well it is your choice to masturbate, but I myself would be a little upset if I found out that my husband was fantasizing about my sister or my close friends. On the other hand I guess it doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home.
I don't know, this is a tough one. My best advice, Don't do anything that you know would upset your wife or hurt her feelings.
I certainly wouldn't bring up your fantasy's at the dinner table or anything. Good luck.

Answer 5

2 times a day! I think masturbation is okay and fantasies are fine also. but do u do 2 times a day everyday? it might not be good for your health though.....why does your wife have to be there watching you masturbating?

Answer 6

I can't believe the range of different answers about this!!
Facts: Masturbation is your business, not ours, or your wife's. PERIOD.
Fantasies are completely normal, nothing barred, everything goes, imagine every "sin". They harm absolutely no one IF THEY REMAIN IN YOUR HEAD, and your head only.
Your wife has NO RIGHT to tell you how, when, where, how much, or that she wants to be involved, NONE of it is her business to say anything about.

Answer 7

It is completely normal and healthy. Don't think for one second that since you have been married she hasn't done it too... Because she has. If and when she ever finds out she doesn't even need to know what is going through your head. Tell her you are thinking of her. Everyone needs that fantasy land. You do, as she does, as I do, just like the person behind you at the grocery store. She should be happy that you are keeping it in your head instead of acting on your fantasies. Good luck and don't feel bad because you have nothing to feel bad about.

Answer 8

I think that if i was your wife and i knew you were doing this i would do whatever i could do sexually to keep your thoughts all about me

Answer 9

It's wrong to think of wives friends, and sister-in-law, but as far as the action itself, be for real. You've been doing this since you first felt that tingle, so why ask now. If we said NO, would you stop?

Answer 10

Perfectly OK. Sorry to hear that your wife has issues with it.