His parents found the pregnancy test in their trashcan and of course it is positive and they know about everything! Me and my boyfriend are 13 and in 8th grade and I have no idea what to do! I didn't think I was pregnant but now I know I am and my life feels worthless now. My boyfriend suggests kicking my stomach so my parents would never have to know but I told him no because his parents already know and that would be worthless and I don't want to kill a 2 month old baby!!! He still is going out w/ me and all but I have no idea what to do because his parents aren't going to make it easy on me and just tell my parents! they're making me tell him! HELP!?
2007-01-22 10:37:55 · 37 answers · asked by ~V@NN@H~ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was re reading the above and found it kind of confusing. What my question is "How can I tell my parents I am pregnant?"
2007-01-22 10:40:54 · update #1
That's the same age as me! You shouldn't even be having sex at our age! You shouldn't till you're married.
I'm glad that you said no to the kicking the stomach thing, that would be terrible to kill your baby.
All I can say is tell the more lenient parent first and once they get used to the idea and stuff, maybe they will help you break the news to the other parent.
I'm very sorry that you got yourself in this situation, and I just wanted to say, please don't get an abortion.
If you can't take care of it discuss the possibility of adoption with your parents.
2007-01-22 10:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by em<3 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What, your parents aren't going to make it easy on you? Poooooor Baby, you should have thought about that when you decided you were old enough to have a baby. Yes, you decided when you had unprotected sex that you were obviously old enough to have a baby and be responsible for a child...but you're only in 8th grade...
Basically, you now need to talk to your mother and father. The sooner the better. Then get them together with the "boyfriend" and his parents and get it over with. Since his parents know already , you have nothing to loose.
I was going to say some pretty harsh things that you deffinately deserve, but I'm not going to, you'll hear it all from your parents soon enough.
Remembe there are many alternative to an abortion, but I would strongly recommend you not keep (as your own child) the baby, don't even consider it at this point. Adoption is the best course IMO.
2007-01-22 10:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by kb6jra 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
There is no easy way to tell them other than just telling them. Maybe trying telling them when they are in a good mood of course that will likely be shot when they find out their daughter who is still a child herself is having a baby.
Good luck your life is about to change forever especially if you decided to keep the baby. Quite a shame when you’d be entering High School next year. When you should be partying having fun you’ll possible be changing diapers, being sleep deprived.
It’s quite ironically there was a law and order episode where two teenagers had gotten pregnant and the girl asked the boyfriend to kick her in the stomach to cause a miscarriage.
2007-01-22 10:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell your parents, it's your only choice right now. Hopefully they will be supportive, once they get over the initial shock and anger. By the way, if your boyfriend did kick you in the stomach, you could end up dying, not just the baby. That's very dangerous to even think of. Find a crisis pregnancy center in your area. I'm not talking about getting an abortion, these centers are for counseling, they can be a big help. Good Luck.
P.S.- Please consider adoption, you can give a loving couple a baby and the baby a loving home, and you can finish growing up, everyone wins! I know it's hard though, I wish you the best.
2007-01-22 10:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by nimo22 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
i was very young when i had my first.it is not the end,although it may feel that way.i also know someone who was thirteen when they yhad their first,she is now a succesful nurse at a very good hospital.my mother in law was in 9 th grade,she is doing well.her and hubby have been married for like 30 years.my mom was 16 she finished school too and has had a successful life.your parents are no doubt going to be upset but stay in school.they offer alot of help for young moms in school.children are a gift no matter what kind of package they come in.good for you to saying no to your boyfriend!!i am sure he is not a bad guy just a confused and scared kid.you coul write it in a letter and give it to them.let them know you are afraid.ask them not to yell even though they are upset.remember that still love you!!my daughter is 12 i would be sad but i love her so much i could not turn my back on her and neither will your parents.no matter the difficulty in hearing those words i would want my daughter to tell me so i can help her make the best decision about it,except abortion,i dont agree with that.also if you get any rude comments on here ignore them hon they dont know.hang in there!!!
2007-01-22 10:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by jessiebella677 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no easy way. It's best to just be honest and to the point. Tell them there is something you have to talk to them about and it's really hard for you talk about. Tell them you are scared and don't know what to do. Then spill the beans.
If you feel like you need support with you...
Do you have an aunt, cousin, or adult that can help you? Someone you trust...
I have a very good friend who was mentor growing up. She had her first at 14 too. She had help from her parents (her dad even helped her get a house and they completely remodeled it!). She was my boss and helped me through some difficult spots. Trust me, this isn't the end of the world. You have a purpose :))
HUGS!!
2007-01-22 10:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sucks but you have to just do it. Talk to the one who takes things better and go from there. Like your mom when she is alone pull her aside and say mom I have something to tell you and I know you are gonna be very upset and disappointed in me but... you know the rest.
It is like taking off a band aid it sucks it hurts but afterwards it feels better and you get over it.
Also have a plan ready to show your parents you have put some thought into this and try to be as adult and responsible as you can, and no matter what do what feels best for you and only you (well maybe baby daddy as well.)
If that means termantion then so be it but threr is adoption too. Just talk to you parents and next time be protected or dont do it.
2007-01-22 10:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by singlefmmom213 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are going to need to tell your parents. Chances are they would notice that you were getting bigger anyway. If you don't feel ready to have a baby (which you probably aren't given your ages) think about adoption. There are a lot of options available to you, and your best bet would be to discuss them with your parents. They know and love you more than anyone else!
Don't try to injure the baby, you could end up hurting yourself in the process. You really need to find an adult that can help you work through your feelings about this. Try finding a guidence counselor at your school or going to a planned parenthood clinic.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-22 10:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie B 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just stay calm. i know what you are going though... the differance between you and i was that i was 18 and scared to death to tell my parents. i can only think of how scared you are being 13. just remember your parents are your bestfriends... they wont like what you have to say but it will grow on them as it will on the both of you.
Tell your boyfriend that to kick you and KILL the baby is called MURDER so i would not do that if i was was you. also just know that he just reacting and i hope that is not how he really feels.. everything will work out in the end.
remember to stay health because its not just about you its about that baby that you have growin in side of you....
keep you head up and dont stree because that is not healthy at all for the baby...
Everything happens for a reason and GOD dont give people more then they can handel...
Keep God in your thoughts... Good Luck
2007-01-22 10:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You little kids should have thought about that before you had unprotected sex. Your parents will find out so you better tell them. Your options are 1) have an abortion. 2) have the baby and keep it or 3) give the baby up for abortion. None of these choices will make life good from now on.
If your boyfriend kicks you, he could kill you. There is no way you can let him do that. You both are going to have to grow up very fast.
2007-01-22 10:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋