Do all gay men hate women?

Question

I have tried 3 separate times to be friends with gay men, but they either are very mean to me or don't call. My husband (who is against gay lifestyle) says that all they want is to find someone to lay, and no female friends. Is this true? There are no gay men out there who can be nice to a straight married woman?

Answer 1

I will...but seriously, just come forward and tell him that you would like to just be friends and have some fun. Bring up something of interest, to both of you, and allow him as well to share in some fun things. You may need to accompany him to some of his social gatherings or even a gay bar, for a cocktail, and meeting his friends. If you really want a gay friend, just make yourself available to him (them) by being yourself, and understanding that things just don't happen overnight. First, enjoy conversation, but don't rush things! He may think you're trying to be a proverbial "fag hag" and most of us don't have time for that. I, for one, would be and am always ready, to meet new people and discover different personalities! Good luck!

Answer 2

No its not true -- it depends on who you find. I have several close female friends (I do NOT keep casual female friends by the way -- that I admit, but that's my choice and based around the fact that casual female friends years ago often were trying to "convert" me -- back when I was young enough so they considered me attractive -- that only happened a few times and I decided, ok, no causual female friends) -- but they share things like hobbies or other things with me that fuel our friendship.

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PS Let me also note that I used to play bridge with a female friend (a card game), until her boyfriend showed up one night, convinced that there "really" were no such things as gay people -- and that I just "needed a woman to be willing" to turn straight. He, it turned out, didn't believe that there were gay people for real. I was more cautious with that friend after that and was careful not to make friends with straight women where that could happen thereafter. That may also be effecting you, honestly.

Answer 3

Listen to answer #1.

We LOVE and celebrate women. After all, they are beautiful, warm and usually, accepting. We (well, most of us) have a great many "hags" (I hate that name) that hang around and call to be friends with us, simply because we are "safe and non-judgemental." They know they can drink and be safe, we will "be honest" about how they look, we will tell them the truth and not hold back. In other words, "we're girlfriends!" lol.

However, we generally do not like drama attached to our "friends." We don't want to have to worry if our girlfriends husband will call or come by with attitude looking for her. We're sensitive for a reason and can catch details and pick up on emotions some people can't. We'd just rather not be around that, thanks.

I love women and have actually driven around the block 2 or 3 times just to stop and tell a woman how "she's beautiful and not to change a thing!" Its not that I'm straight, I'm not, but I do appreciate beauty of any sort/race/male or female/etc. And I like to express it, to show my appreciation for their interest in themselves. And yes, I am gay and proud of it.

Answer 4

OMG! of course that's not true! Good lord woman! I have plenty of gay friends and i'm straight as an arrow! Maybe you're just trying to be friends with guys who's personnalities simply don't mesh with yours. And also, if your husband is against gay life style and makes it obvious, it will naturally be a deterrent for any gay person to be your friend. No one wants to go somewhere and feel completely unwelcomed.

Answer 5

Another question that could be asked is, why do women hate each other? I think gay men are in the same circle with women. Its like if a guy likes me but I was dating you. it would probably raise emotions or jealousy like another woman would.

Answer 6

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have at least 5 gay male friends with one of them being what I consider to be family! He as numerous straight and gay women friends and one straight female friend of ours (who I also consider family) her family likes him a lot to. I consider myself very luck and blessed to have these gay men in my life and I wouldn't have it any other way. Keep trying, most gay men are extremely sensitive to our feelings and needs. I told my boss when one of my gay male friends came into where I work, that I loved the man like a sister.

Answer 7

No that is not true; most gay guy friends I know (as well as myself (I'm bi) :) ) surround themselves with girls. You've just had bad experiences with certain guys. Your husband is wrong; it is not a lifestyle nor a choice, and most gays want loving relationships, not lots of sex with whomever they can find. If you need proof of why your husband doesn't know what he is talking about, ask yourself this: Is your husband not straight? What are the people who aren't straight saying? Your husband is straight and thinks it is a lifestyle; we are LGBT and understand that we are born this way: Believe us.

Answer 8

First off you husban is wrong. Not all gay men are just looking for a lay. And yes, many gay men have straight friends, including women. That is just silly to think that they don't. Most of my friends are straight.

Answer 9

rIn my experience it isn't that they are gay that makes them hate women, I have a few friends who are gay. Maybe they don't like people who want to be friends because they are gay. or maybe they have had bad experiences in the past. Hatred is an attitude born from ignorance. Try being a friend because you like the person for who they are and not because of their sexuality

Answer 10

Most of the gay guys I know have tons of female friends. Women find them "safer" to be with sometimes. The gay men won't hit on them, and don't treat them like mere objects.