controlling hus?

Question

yesterday, i did a few loads of laundry, my husband came home, and he asked how many loads did i do, i told him like three, then he started yelling at me, today, he called my sister inlaw and asked her, if i was doing laundry, she said yes i was, then he said, good, cause yesterday i had to yell at her about it, well i text him saying that it was crap that he was checking up on me, to see if i was doing laundry, i then told him, nxt time to yell at me if i'm not doing anything, well i haven't heard back from him, so i think were going to have a big fight, what do you think i should do, or say, i'm tired of him controlling so much of me, and i don't know if i should start standing up for myself or not

he was outside shoveling at that time, and after he asked how many loads i did, he added that i could have also shoveled the drive way, i agree that i could've done that

but i'm also working too, so i'm not a stay at home wife

Answer 1

Stand up for yourself.

Answer 2

Yes you should stand up for yourself and its about time you did. Things got way out of hand. Even if you didn't do something he has hands and feet, he can do the damn laundry. Is it going to actually literally going to kill him to do something? NO. I hate guys like this. I hate people in general who have to check up on you to find something to b*tch about. Oh my God, He needs his @ss kicked. Yes I can say that because my hubby is like that sometimes and I tell him I'll do it when I get to it. He usually gets pissed and does it himself. We both work. I own and run my own business by myself (no employees) and he works for a company a 9 to 5 type job. I do a hell of a lot more around the house than he does and I take care of the kids, the pets, the bills, cooking the meals. So when he gets on his high horse I shove him off.

Answer 3

Tell him to do the laundry...since he has soo much time to stand around yelling. Don't let him control you, you are busy too and if he's soo worried about the little things then maybe he should give a hand and help out around too.

Answer 4

If he is doing things like that, I'd have to say he is having major issues. He needs to either deal with them or you need to walk out and let him control the dog. You are a person, suppose to be his other half, a companion. You ARE NOT his property to be told what to do, how to do, when to or where to do it at. I had a husband like that, and let me tell you, it doesn't get better. Standing up for yourself is a good step, however, I've experienced and have been told many times over that it also makes the situation worse. They feel they are losing their control, so in order to feel like they are gain back that control, they get worse, to the point that I've heard of women being told what clothes to wear for that day. My advise...get out ASAP!

Answer 5

You have to take control of you. Stand up for yourself and stop taking his abuse. That's a form of abuse ya know! It's called mental ... then it rolls over into emotional if he's yelling at you about miniscule things that there is no need to yell about. Stay calm, explain to your husband that you are not a child and should not be treated as such. From there you need to not take any more of his controlling behavior. PERIOD. Allow him some time to change, but if he isn't on board, then you may need to rethink your living situation.

Answer 6

Don't let him control you anymore. Do stand up for yourself and I would tell him the next time he feels the need to check up on you with your sister-in-law, that will be the day he will start doing his own laundry. Controlling men can only be as controlling as you let them be. He needs to respect you and talking to your sister-in-law about it was very disrespectful.

Answer 7

Get a backbone and stand up to him. Tell him that President Lincoln freed the slaves a long time ago. No woman should have to go through that, now in this day and age. Remember Women Lib. GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

Yes stand up for yourself and women like you who being control. You both need some counseling on his controlling issues. He tearing you down instead of building up. You can't let hime treat you like that. Watch Dr. Phil he talk about that alot. If he doesn't want to get counseling then go for yourself.

Answer 9

whats his problem if you are working to then everything goes in 1/2 and he does 1/2 of everything around the house. sit down and set up what he does and what you do so you don't argue anymore that way if he doesn't do his 1/2 you can yell at him.good luck

Answer 10

Better you than a lot of other females who would have told him where to go (to He__) and how to go about it. It's all in what you start out doing in a relationship that tends to take it in the wrong direction some times.

Answer 11

tell him you don't need to be controlled like that and that you need to get some counseling or a divorce. the only mistake you made was marrying someone who turns out to be a control freak!