My boyfriend cheats on me, and I let him get away with it.. I don't know why, but I do.. I'm having a baby next month. I feel so stuck with him, I caught him Friday with another girl, and he lied his way out of it, and I'm still with him.. Its almost like I'm scared to leave him for good. I am just too naive.. He controls me, and emotionally abuses me, eventually he will beat me. I lost myself completely to him. I just don't know what too do anymore.. I'm so scared..
2007-01-22 10:22:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
oh dear...
you are about to have a baby... at the hospital, speak with the doctor and explain what you just said, and ask for a psychologist... you are at high risk for post-partum depression too...
for now, hang in there...
focus on your child, the beautiful magical moment of birth, enjoy the baby, think about yourself.
Right now, nothing else matters, but you and the baby.
If he is cheating on you while one of the most beautiful moments of his life is passing by, he is a loser... and you deserve something WAY better !
2007-01-22 10:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by luckylady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling, please please please remove yourself from this situation. This is a BAD situation. Call a crisis center, or go to your local battered women's shelter, find help. If not physical help then emotional help.
The first step to changing anything, including dumping this scum, is the realization that something has to be done. So you are on your way to understanding what needs to change. Do NOT let this cheating douche bag control you. You are strong. Every mother is strong.
If you cannot be strong for yourself then think about being strong for your child. Think about the type of environment your baby will grow up in, what will she/he learn from what it happening in your household.
Will your baby learn that cheating is ok? That yelling and putting down mommy is fun?
Darling, please leave him. Even though it will hurt, it will believe me, it won't hurt as much as childbirth. You can be strong, you have to be strong.
There are 3 billion other men in the world. There are probably a ton in your local area that are nice individuals.
Please please be strong and find some help.
2007-01-22 18:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by nerosbane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you scared of what you are going to do when you get fed up with this mess. Stop settling for less than your best. Only you will love you unconditionally, only his mother has to love him that way not you. When you are fed up, and tired of getting his sloppy seconds nothing in this world will change your mind you will leave him alone andnever reget the little version of him either just train him to be better than his daddy.
2007-01-22 18:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get the hell away from him. You deserve better than this and so does your baby. Eventually he will try and harm you and worse he could harm the baby. Talk to your parents and see if they can help. Or maybe a trusted friend if your parents are not close by.
2007-01-22 18:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by shell7024 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get help from friends or parents, you will need a place to stay, leave then immediatly go to a psychologist cuz he will try to convince you back, he won't let go of you that easy especially with a kid coming, keep the child or if you don't want him give him up for adoption a nice family will surely want him or her, that relationship won't be good for the baby
2007-01-22 18:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet like Sees Candy's!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You picked him my dear!
Thats what you kids get for jumping in bed and going to live with a complete stranger. You skipped the stages of courting, engage and marriage. Not good, its like a house built on sands, it washes away with a heavy tide. try to build your house with rocks. Run from this guy and find a better life.
2007-01-22 18:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm scared for your baby. If you can't make rational decisions in your relationship, how do expect to be a good mother or him to be a good father.
Rational: Leave Him. It's really that simple.
2007-01-22 18:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there but belive me you are alot better off without him. Get your friends and family to support you, dump him ring child support keep your self busy enjoy your time with your baby and you will get through it and one day wonder why it took you so long to leave. Good luck, you can do it. You deserve better
2007-01-22 18:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by tangerine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one you are afraid to go against him but you need to get out of this relationship while he isn't beating you yet. And remember you have someone else you need to worry about a child. SO get up teh nerve to leave him beofre he does harm to you and /or your baby. GET your stuff and leave.
2007-01-22 18:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u really dont need this kinda stress right now. it could affect ur baby's health...leave him its gonna be hard believe me but think about your wonderful little bundle of motivation!! what kinda person do they need to be around liars and cheaters? he can still be a father u dont need that crap in ur life though.
2007-01-22 18:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by jean grey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋