My long-distance boyfriend of 3 years has told me last night that he cannot continue this way anymore. He seems quite upset with our long-distance situation and he wants us to change it. We see each other once a month. He has been pretty upset about his job as he hasn't got promoted as he'd hoped for and since then he has been telling me he needs me to be closer to him and not far. He sent me an email today and he explained to me all the options we have and he said he'd be happy if I could be closer to him. He asked me what I think about it. I said I agree and I said I was glad he has raised the topic and I gave him my options and we both agreed to a common goal. However, one thing I dont like is that he gave us a deadline of 6 months as he said that otherwise nothing will change if we dont put some pressure on us. He said if nothing will change within the next 6 months, he wont be able to continue this way anymore. He was very logical and practical about it tonight. What do you think?
2007-01-22 10:18:40 · 6 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he is just needing a change. Pending his personaility alot of people like to set dates to try and acheive goals. Although this might not be realistic, it could be that he is genuinely upset with the situation and wants to able to do a count down. If this date is not feasable discuss it with him. I think he more just wants light at the end of the tunnel more than anything. You need to sit down and discover for yourself what you want and go from there.
2007-01-22 10:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by live4logan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he was logical and practical as opposed to angry, it seems as though he was simply being honest. It is obvious he cares about you, but is unhappy with his living situation. Six months of living in an uncomfortable situation is a long time. Becuse he is willing to wait that long indicates the sacrifices he is willing to make. As far as the deadline, some people need deadlines to motivate as well as ease their mind. If a situation is difficult, it is much easier to endure if one knows when it will end; uncertainty can breed stress
2007-01-22 11:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by joe L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you want to verify even if you'll stay interior an same position and that i imagine he has given you a time decrease because that's extremely problematic to have a lengthy distance relationship. I did it once for 6 months and in user-friendly words talked concerning the guy 3 cases as we were a 12 hour flight remote from one yet another. He gave me an ultimatum to flow there yet on the merely correct assembly I realised I didnt want to and it ended. lengthy distance issues are really demanding and wont artwork contained in the longterm except you party very quickly. strong success!
2016-12-02 22:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both have been extraordinarily patient. Three years is a long time for a long distance thing. They seldom work out, for obvious reasons. It would seem that despite whatever professional considerations are in the mix, he wants to proceed to the next level with you.
It comes down to a question of priorities. What's most important to each of you and to both of you. When you have your answer, then act accordingly.
2007-01-22 10:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants a committment and he feels that six month is enough time.
2007-01-22 10:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by caribbeanmeme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
six months is a fair time frame, i think for you to relocate and settle business where you are now.
2007-01-22 10:28:52 · answer #6 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋