I have been seperated from my husband for three years, so why does it bother me to find out he was cheating?

Answer 1

When you love someone, it hurts to find out that they betrayed you. I wish you luck in finding someone that will be true.

Answer 2

Not understanding the question? Was he "cheating" while in the marriage and you were living together or has he been seeing other women since you've been separated?

Most people just dont want to lose...period. Lots of spouses feel "ownership" and therefore refuse to get past it when the other one strays..its like someone took your possession.

Thats only one answer...of course there are many others. For sure though, this is inside of you and you have the power to change it. Might not be easy but you have to move on, find someone else or something else to occupy your mind. When you have that "thought" ..instantly replace it! quick! replace it with anything good...something pleasant. Do this a gazillion times per day if necessary. Where your mind goes...your tush will follow.

Answer 3

simple because your not together you cant do anything about it you have already gone your opposite way. If you were still together you could leave him and feel better knowing that he was punished for his actions. But now you feel he got over on you. Its like being a teacher and finding out three years later your students cheated on a test, three years ago they would have got suspended or something but now theres nothing you can do. ( Or Is There)

Answer 4

Deep down inside you probably hold out some hope of a reconciliation. However, it seems that husband does not share your feelings. It is difficult but take some positive action to end the marriage and find someone for yourself.

Answer 5

3 years, separated? What is the point in that? Either work on getting together or end this already. I'm a woman but I understand the needs of a man. Do you expect him to go 3 years without sex? You didn't give us much background to go on here- but I'd say you need to resolve or dissolve this relationship and move on either way.

Answer 6

Because he was cheating on YOU! Completely understandable! It bothers me about things from my marriage and I have been divorced for 6 years!!! I think it means we really loved these men and probably still do, but as you and I know, and many others in this situation know...Sometimes Love just ain't enough!

Answer 7

Bcuz u loved him & it hurts to know what he did to u behind closed doors . I think evry woman/man would be hurt bcuz a marriage is a bond & too many people take it for granted . Obviously it was his loss & u probably are better off without him. Love yourself & remember a true man is still out there & u don't need someone who didin't appreciate you & it will come back on him Karma always comes back harder than it is givin

Answer 8

Why can't you just get a divorce if your not going to work on it? Then it wouldn't be called cheating anymore right? You need to move on or work out the marriage.

Answer 9

Unless it was done while you were together, which could still make you feel like he used you when he had the chance you should be thankful. At least you are out of it, and can go on with your life for the better.

Answer 10

Forgive that cheating husband and dont allow him to keep hurting you anymore! Get the divorce and get on with your life.

Answer 11

Because you loved and possibly still love, although in a different way, this man, and he violated your heart and trust. Also you are probably questioning yourself and your judgement, but trust me, if a person is going to cheat it has little to do with you.