okay, my finacee wants to deliver our baby when he's born, but I've had alot of people tell me that doctors won't allow that. I know that i need to ask my doc about it, but in the mean time I would liek to know if anyone on here knows anything about it...? thanks.
2007-01-22 10:11:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
lol... No the doctor won't let him "catch." Probablely a good thing too. My husband is a very large guy, not the type you would think couldn't handle blood and good and such but he was totally grossed out everytime lol. Your guy might just turn out to be a fainter and while he's staning there waiting to "catch" is not a good time to find out if he is or not. Also...some babies do just "slip" right out, but most need the doctor to turn or manuver their shoulders a bit. He can always ask to cut the cord though (my husband won't even do this (its so cute that he won't, at least in my oppinion)). Not to mention any number of complications that the doctor would need to be right there for.
*add on*: Also you should let him hold the baby first. It will make him feel special to have that first (other than doctors). I always allow my husband this honor, as I have been holding it for 9 months and am glad to finally reliquish the duty to someone else, at least for a bit.
Another thing you can do is get him a camera. After you deliver most of the time the baby will be allowed on a short time in your room and then they take it to be cleaned up and have some testing done (also they want you to have a chance to rest and recuperate). Tell him to go with the baby and get pics of the first bath and the weighing and such. Most hospitals will allow this and it lets the father have some time with the baby that you can't. Just my two sense on the matter.
2007-01-22 10:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on your situation and the doctor. If it is a safe uneventful delivery some doctors will let you help pull the baby out. But if there is a cord wrapped around the babies neck, or needs to a vacuum assist, c-section, or other complications it is pretty much not a good idea. And these are all things that you can only tell at the moment of birth.
2007-01-22 18:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by cliffhanger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, well congrats on the baby in the first place! Secondly, my fiancee wanted to "catch" our baby once she was out, but the doctors would not even allow that! I would ask your doctor at the next appt. if he could either deliver or catch the baby. If not, find out what the alternatives are to having the daddy interact in the delivery. In most cases, the most the daddy can do is cut the umbilical cord...
CONGRATULATIONS! GOOD LUCK! :)
2007-01-22 18:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read a book once called babycatchers. Unless there are problems as far as the babys actual birth thats all they do is catch. After that is when the doctor has work to do sometimes. Heck with both of my children the nurse handled evgerything until the baby was actually on their way out.
2007-01-22 18:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually doctors will let the father stand next to him and possibly help but most wont let the father be the one who actually delivers. Definatly ask your doc and if says no see what other options you have.
2007-01-22 18:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's more to it than pulling the child out....if you dont know what you're doing there's a possiblity that you and or the baby could die....it's not a good idea....maybe the doctor would let him help in a small way......best to let the dr deliver......good luck
2007-01-22 18:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by The Emperor of Ecstasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a homebirth and a supportive and skilled midwife helping, I can't see why he shouldn't play a large part. I have no experience with birth, but people have been doing it for thousands of years without trained doctors. What's so tough that a father can't help out?
2007-01-22 18:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be possible if you do it at home with a midwife present. A doctor in a hospital probably would not allow it, he/she will be paid to do it. However, in your own home, you make the rules. Also, if it is possile, maybe your fiance could get some kind of training to prepare himself.
2007-01-22 18:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by Popsicle_1989 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't say whether or not it's ok with YOU...a midwife may let him grab the baby as it's birthing...otherwise he may have to happy with cutting the cord like most fathers get to do...Ask your OB/GYN what their standard procedure for this type of thing is...it never hurts to ask...
2007-01-22 18:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by Proud Mommy of 6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't recommend it - the baby is super slippery and you have to help guide the baby out or else the mother will tear something fierce AND you can hurt the baby (their bones and joints are still very soft to allow them to pass through the tiny space).
But he is welcome to cut the umbilical cord and hold the baby once he/she is born.
2007-01-22 18:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by fizzents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋