My wife's ex hasn't paid child support in yrs. she won't do anything. What should I do?

Answer 1

Get a lawyer and take her to court.

Answer 2

well the honor system doesnt work, thats for sure. the states and federal government are tired of parents not paying for their kids, so they passed much stronger laws now, then ever before.

Everyone is TIRED of deadbeats (deadbeat is a parent who doesnt pay child support).

First i will post some info, then some links. one is a cs calculator; just click on your state and fill it in. most states go by both parents incomes, and if one parent isnt working they enter a number for minimum wage. in any case, it will give you general idea as to what should be paid.

i dont know if you have a court order or not for child support. if you dont, get one. if you do, call your caseworker.

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The laws are tough today. After you have the child support order, and he/she doesn’t pay…

1) contact your child support caseworker ask for an enforcement hearing or warrant to be issued
2) if you collect welfare or assistance of any kind, HE or SHE is responsible to repay it.
3) if the CS dept isnt working, contact the regional federal office (links below), that should put some heat on the case. Never a phone call, always WRITE them, better yet, fax the director. Give your contact info, case number and tell briefly what the problem is, and ask what they can do about it. heat is a good thing.
4) In some states it’s the Attorney General who you would write also, for they handle deadbeats.
5) if he/she is working under the table (which many do), you can have his/her property attached, and in some cases, forced to sell it.
6) if he/she is hiding it (putting things in others names [like their mommy for instance]), there are laws against it.
7) today, it is now a federal offense to run across state lines to avoid child support.
8) the states today take the deadbeats license away; suspend it.
9) the states today have tax refund intercept; state and federal on any refunds the deadbeat gets is taken, and funds sent to her.
10) States today also attach the wages (thus the working under the table trick). If you find where they are working, contact the cs caseworker and report it. also report it to the IRS if its under the table.
11) Today, child support arrears are reported on the deadbeats credit report (when it hits a certain amount). Call the caseworker and ask if it has been submitted to the credit reporting agencies yet.
12) Most states have a automatic cost of living raise in child support every 2 or 3 years.
13) Post his/her pic online at deadbeat sites; some states already do this, some do not. but you can submit to a couple I’ve listed below.

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http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm



http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html

http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/

http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html

http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html

http://www.supportkids.com/

http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html

http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php


SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Answer 3

Join the club. As a single parent as most women are these day now you see our struggle first hand. Men have been doing it for years. Its hard trying to raise a family on one income. I am sure you can do it also WE HAVE(SINGLE MOTHER). doing it . Your wife has your support not everyone is as lucky.She can seek a lawyer but thats taken money out of the household, time off work.The problem I have with men not paying child support is some men will take care of another womens child/children and not their own.

Answer 4

Unfortunately this is a very common occurrence. A lot of guys out there refuse to abide by child support rulings. The sad part for you is legally there is nothing you can do, your wife is the only one who can do anything about it and if she refuses that's the end of it, another guy gets away without having to support his children. Have you tried speaking to her about it ? Does her Ex have contact with his children ? Perhaps she is afraid of her Ex for some reason. All l can suggest is to speak to her about your concerns and then it's up to her to do something about it. Best of luck

Answer 5

You (and others I'm sure) are not going to like my answer.

Only your wife can initiate support issues against her ex. But, you married her...step up and make sure the kids are taken care of without worrying about whether he is or isn't paying. Would it be better for you if he paid? Sure...but you married her for better or for worse. Step up and act just like the rest of us undivorced dads and make sure that the kids are well taken care of; including college, medical, extra curricular etc etc etc.

I just don't get this. Women divorce and get support (as they should) but remarry and the support goes on? So the father has to support TWO families while the stepfather gets a free ride? Where do I sign up???? Any extra money that the ex pays should go into trust fund for the kids to get after they reach age 30...ANY!!!

Answer 6

If she will not take it up with the friend of the court, then there is nothing that you can do. Remind her that if she contacts the FOC then they will look into it. Sometimes, you have to do nothing at all. Child support also includes fees for the state, and sooner or later they will want their money from him too. Thus, creating a levy against wages, income tax returns, and possibly warrants.

Answer 7

This last guy here doesnt make any sense. Since when is it a new step fathers responsibility to provide for another mans children?? If the mother remarries then he doesnt have to pay anymore?? Does that make any sense at all??? Get real. If you made the baby, YOU pay for the baby. If you cant handle it, keep it in your pants IDIOT! (Not you, questioner, but the answer above me - what an idiot). Okay so the man can remarry but the woman cant?? Geez o petes.

Answer 8

If your wife wants to take action against her ex, then encourage her to do so. She can go to court, enter a judgment against him and it will attach to any assets he has, including any real estate. She can also ask the court to attach his wages.

A lot of her options will depend on what the laws are in the state you live. Go to an attorney and get the ball rolling. Don't even give him a warning, just do it.

Answer 9

I am guessing that you are getting tired of supporting someone else's children... My question would be, why won't your wife do anything and did you know about the situation before your marriage?

If he and her had a deal (for instance, he didn't pay and she didn't have to let him see them) there may be a valid reason... why are you upset about it after you married her?

Answer 10

My parents are divorced and my dad hasnt payed childsupport in a long time and my mom took him to court about it and he was forced to pay back all the child support he didnt pay plus he had to pay for the money that he payed for know. I hope you enjoyed this answer.

Answer 11

Your wife must have her reasons so the best thing to do would be to talk to her and find out why she has'nt or does'nt want to get the support.I can't give you much more advice because you have'nt given any information to support your question.