married first love?

Question

i got married at 17 to my first love .
she told me she was a virgin also and that she sort of only tried it with her ex.
i could never get a straight answer.
my problem is i have always had the desire to sleep with another women to see what she is like and also to have another opinion of what iam like.
iam a really honest person so i find it hard to cheat but i cannot get it out my system.
plus i masturbate about women around my social scene is this normal.
should i have sex with someone to get it out my head as im 38 and i dont want to go through life always wondering.

my wife is jealous type and would go ballistic if i told her i masturbate.
is it normal to fantasise about women you know

Answer 1

no, you shouldn't.

Answer 2

You gave up that right when you said I do. I think its harmless to masturbate and think of others. You acting on this interest is what causes problems for all concerned. At time point should it matter if she slept with her ex that was over 20 years ago dont use that as a reason to sleep pleasure from another. I know you think if you could please another what person wouldnt just be content with the fact that you are the best she has ever had.

Answer 3

Ask your wife if she would ever be open-minded enough to spice up your love life. Rent porography. Then ask her if she'd ever be interested in having someone else join in. I would let her have another male first and then if that works out, a women. If she ever warms up to the idea, than maybe join a swingers club. Its not that you don't love your wife, but its nice to have a variety every once in awhile. Talk to her first. It's not nice to cheat. For all you know, she could be fantasizing about other people as well.

Answer 4

I have a question why did you get married? every thing you talked about is wrong it,s not normal to masturbate just because you can do it does not mean you should and to bring another woman into your wife's life is UN thinkable what does sort of try ed it mean you have your first love not many men can say that love your wife

Answer 5

Don't listen to these people. You are normal to masterbate and think about other women. That is no big deal.

I think you are lucky to be married to your first love, don't ruin it! Don't tell your wife about the masterbation/fantasizing, that is none of her business just don't get caught. in terms of having sex with someone else, believe me, there is nothing that wonderful about having sex with different people. If you have love with your wife concentrate on having great sex with her.

Good luck.

Answer 6

maybe you got married to early but think about it if you sleep with someonelse then you could lose your first love ,its not normal for you to masturbate about women around your social scene i think maybe you need to get some counseling together or just sit down an just talk about it with your wife

Answer 7

Is losing your wife worth 3 minutes of pleasure. Once you finish you will regret it.Tell your wife whats on your mind she will help you solve the problem. Its all the same just diferent sounds oos and ahss.

Answer 8

Would you rather go through life wondering, or living with the reality of betraying your wife's love and trust? Curiosity or guilt? Pick one.

Answer 9

no dont cheat its normal to masterbate my husband cheated because of the same reason kinda and i had a hard time forgiving but i will not forget! i still love him but cant stand it....

Answer 10

your a good example of why its not a good idea to wait until you are married before you have sex.

Answer 11

hmm discuss it with ur wife