i dont know what to doim 17 and a mother?

Question

my daughter is 3 months old and i might be again i dont know what to do i can barley handle this one someone HELP!

Answer 1

hun - pls, pls - get yourself on birth control. i do commend you for having your first born and doing your best to give her a life, when others take the easy way out, and i wish you from the bottom of my heart success with the second. but come on now.... you've been through this once before - you know what your options are already, so you know what you need to do - or haven't you learnt anything? go seek further social assistance for finances, and find out what there is in your community for subsidized single moms.

Answer 2

okay let me tell u, im 17. (ill turn 18 in march) and i have a three year old little girl and im pregnant with a second (7 months along now) i know its not gonna be easy. i want to have my children and give them better lives (btw i am a single mother) if u honestly dont think u can deal with having the baby, u might want to consider adoption for it. because it would be terrible if u gave ur kids a bad beginning because theres wasnt a way to handle both of them. but of course, to me that would be a hard decision. since u didnt tell us if u were married, with the father, in school, graduated, or anything i cant really give u much advice, but if ur with the father, and hes involved and all, he can help you. finish school as well, even if its just getting ur GED (which is what i did and im planning on starting college next august) i will pray for you and wish u the best of luck with this because i can tell u its not gonna be easy, but it will be possible to deal with if u really want to and commit to it.

Answer 3

I know that being a mother at an early age is scary - and probably unbearable at times. However, it can be done. If you think that two is too much to handle and you are pregnant, you have many options to work with. You could go down the path of an open adoption... that way, a family who is financially well off who cant have a baby of their own can enjoy the pleasures of parenthood while you stay in your baby's life. How are you doing financially with the baby you have now?

Answer 4

Just slow down. At 17 you should be nervous about getting another baby. So you should take precautions. At 23 and a new mom I don't want to get pregnant again. So I avoid those situations. The older they get the easier it is to deal with them. They can do more for themselves and you'll get to relax a little more.

Just chill out! You already had to grow up to fast. Don't make it even more stressful. You are capable of handling it. My mom did it with my brother and plenty others have done it. Good luck to you. If you ever need to chat. IM me.

Answer 5

Look, you are 17, you have a baby and might have another. It is time you get a grip on your life for the sake of your child(ren). You need to invest in some birth control and concentrate on making your life better for you and your kids. Everyone makes poor decisions but now is the time where you have to force yourself to grow up and start making decisions based on what is best for the baby(ies).

You can't keep going in this vicious cycle of having babies when you know you can't handle it. Enroll yourself in some parent education classes and do whatever it takes to make a good life for your family.

Answer 6

I know it's very very hard. Do you have a family that can help? If not call your babies doctor or your ob/gyn and explain how you are feeling. tell them that you have questions and fell like you don't know what to do. It can be very scary. I was scared and I had my son at 37. They should be able to let you speak with a nurse. Or call your local medicaid office and ask them if they have any community classes that your can take. Good Luck!

Answer 7

You know how babies are made, you know having unprotected sex will do it, but you chose to do it anyway. Now you have the chance to make some one out there who wants a baby happy.

Carry the child then give it up for adoption. I know three couples in my immediate circle who want to adopt.

After that, get on the pill. Why are you not on it now???

Answer 8

You can always look into adoption, there are millions of couples just dying for a baby! Just try your best with the one you have, it will turn out OK.

Answer 9

well you are kind of young to have another especially when the one you already have isnt barely grown up yet but you better get checked to make sure you are a young ladie and your life isnt going to be good unless you have some one who really cares for you and your children

Answer 10

there is always someone out there that will help you.(councellor, services etc...) Were you on birth control ??? Just think about the innocent children, they 100 % rely on you for everything.