I've asked many questions on sexuality & what I've learned is most poeple feel that your sexuality is determined by who has what genitals. So does that then mean, our sexuality isn't determined by whether your attracted to the masculine or feminine appearance & inner personality of the person? Does it instead mean that physical appearance & personality is not what matters, but what does matter is which genitals one has?
If thats true, then does that mean that we are all really just attracted to people genitals, & it's not the physical traits & personality that draws us to people & defines our sexuality?
I ask because I find for myself that what draws me to women isn't their vagina, but instead, their physical feminine beauty, & their feminine behavior. I'm not attracted to manly women. When I first had sex, I loved it, but it took me a bit to get used to "eating it out". I grew to love doing that after the fact.
So then, how is it the genitals that defines our sexuality?
2007-01-22 09:55:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Furthermore, if the planet only had 10 women, and they all looked exactly like Arnold S., and 5 men that all looked and acted like Drew Barrymore, I'd feel pretty gay being with the Arnold look-a-likes regardless to the fact that she has a vagina. I;d be more attarcted to the Barrymore transgenders because they resemble what I desire in a female much more. All in all I'd rather have a real female but would have to settle for this.
That is were the whole "it's all about your genitals" belief makes no sense to me. I don't like manliness whether a vagina is attached to it or not. Does that make me somehow not straight?
2007-01-22 09:59:29 · update #1
The "genitals" do not define the physical attraction of a sexuality; the physical attraction is determined by the body as a whole. AKA, you'd be more attracted to Drew Barrymore lookalikes more than Arnold S. lookalikes because you are attracted to the female body, not the female genitals. I am physically attracted to guys/girls because of their bodies as a whole, not because of what's in their pants. Also, I can be emotionally attracted to both as well. Get it right man!
2007-01-22 10:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been curious as to whether sexuality is based on gender or sex (one being physical, the other being internal / social construct / whatever). And, even if it were JUST physical sex, there's a lot more differences between men and women than just the genitalia. I don't think I need to further detail those, but...yeah.
I think at least a good portion of it IS gender too (maybe it's some combination of both?).
2007-01-22 15:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you thought about this alot, gentials just say weather or not we are male or female on the outside but you could still be a laddy on the inside
2007-01-22 10:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by psycho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Why does it have to be so complicated? We like who we like, including exceptions to our usual "type." You're over-rationalizing. Life is for living, not studying. You really need to get out more.
2007-01-22 10:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i believe that we love people for who they are, not what they have. but i do believe that some people direct their feelings to those of the opposite sex because of the fear of being gay.
2007-01-22 10:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PUT THE BLUNT DOWN!!
Smaller bites darlin' you're taking WAY MORE than you can chew here.
2007-01-22 10:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋