I suddlenly feel like I will not be a good mother .I am due in May .I dont have a big house to live in and bad

Question

We just are buyinga single wide trailer along with land.
I feel like I will not be a good mom to my baby.I just suddlenly feel like I am not providing well enough for her.We are trying to get done completly with all credit card bills untill we buy other place or build here .I just am feeling bad that we are not finacially better off.has any one felt this way. Is it a big deal that we are not living in a better home?

Answer 1

Your baby is not going to remember where you lived, how rich you were, etc. What that baby is going to know is his/her mommy loves him. Don't worry about your housing-ain't nothing wrong with a tailor till you can do better! Getting rid of the credit card bills will be a HUGE step in the right directions!

Congrats on being pregnant! Don't worry-all mothers feel they aren't good enough or aren't doing enough. Love your baby-that means so much more than throwing money around.

Answer 2

Hey Girl,
Congratulations on your baby! :o) Your going to be a great mother. Your doing good in thinking for your baby that way but all your baby needs now is your love and care. My sister felt that way when she got pregnant, She thought every thing was going down hill she thought she needed a better job or was she going to make it at the end of the month, It will be OK just have confidence it will and no it's not a big deal that you are not living in a better home, if you have some where to live that's fine you have a place to raise a child. I hope this help a little. have a great day girl!

Answer 3

Here's some really great words of advice for you
"If you wait untill you can completely afford a baby, you will never have one".
Ask yourself what makes a good mother. Is it love, humor, exceptance, openness, or money? Money can not buy any of the previous things. I know plenty of poor people that are great parents, or terrible parents and I know plenty of rich people that are just as good or bad.
I'm not saying that you don't need money to raise a child. What I am saying is simply this; if you can afford all the babies needs right now, then you can afford a baby. The extras (expensive outfits, one for everyday of the month) aren't really needed and won't make the baby a better person in having these things. Be happy with what you have and who you are, so you can pass these same great traits on to your child and they feel self confident enough to get what they want in life.
By the way congratulations on the baby! We wish you all the best!

Answer 4

A child needs nourishment, warmth, oxygen, and above all the love of a mother/father/both parents. If you can keep her safe and warm and fed and loved, she will be perfectly happy. Babies don't notice the spare room or the second bathroom. They don't care if mum is wearing Gucci or Prada. They care about the next meal, the next nap, the next warm cuddle and their constant love and affection from mum and dad. Seriously, don't worry. You're trying to do the best by your baby, and you're succeeding. She will love you just like you love her. It really comes across in your post that you desperately want the best thing for her, and it's obvious how loved she's going to be. You'll make sure she's warm and comfortable, you'll love her to bits, and what more does a baby need? They do not worry about the slight chance great aunt eleanor might turn up unexpectedly and not have a four poster bed to sleep in, they care that they are loved.

Answer 5

You have to look on the good things about every situation, your child is about to come to this world and you will have to give him or her the feeling that everything is gonna be better everyday.
Isn't it all that we need from our parents, or our partner or our best friends? So you have to be convinced of that in order to give your child that perspective, so start practicing now.
All the couples or single person have to pass trougth a lot of efforts and dificulties in life, and those are the things that help persons to be better and better.
But that's what it takes, and as long as you are doing something to improve your situation, then it is ok, that's what you have to do, because of your own happynes as much as for your children well being.
So you don't worry, instead of it, you work on it, as long as it takes, as slow as it seems, if you try it you will get what you want.
The big advantage is that you are just having that baby, he won't notice where he is living for a long time, you still have about 2 or 3 years for him to be just tied with you most of the time, so, don't worry.
Try to make around a nnice environment, maybe you can find some space to throw a blanket and play with your kid in there, - he won't need a big space for a while.
You can try to have some grass in some space in your land, so you have a nice yard to play with your kid, make a little fence so it's safe.
Try to solve some of the baby needs as easy as you can, in the mean time, and enjoy your child, that's all what you really have to do now, if you don't do it, then you will regret that!

Answer 6

The thing that matters the most to children is love, corny as that may sound. As long as you both can care for your baby and provide it with all the necessities of life for the first few years, you'll be just fine. And here's another thing to think about - babies dont care or even know where they live for quite a while. Who knows, maybe by the time your kids on the way to school your financial situation will have gotten a little better? good luck!

Answer 7

As long as the baby has a safe warm comfortable clean place to live you are good .Remember home is were you make it .And dont feel so bad as long as all he needs are met ya know like diapers food and clothes and keeping clean healthy and happy.Ya gotta do what ya gotta do and congragulations on the lil one Im sure you will be a great mom.& Im sure you are saving alot and improving your finacial problems right know so some day you can live in a bigger home

Answer 8

What you are feeling is normal. Just because you are not financially stable will not make you a bad mother. Your child will need love, not money.
If you concerned with being able to provide, I suggest keeping things simple and getting the best deals. You can buy used baby clothes (which are usually in good condition) and you don't need to worry about all the accessories for your baby (most of that stuff you don't even need).
Congrats

Answer 9

I think every woman has these kinds of anxieties while being preg. I know i do. I am currently preg with #3 and even though i am extreemly happy and excited, i still worry about it all and the ones i have already. I know everything will be fine, but worrying is natural. U will be a wonderful mother.

Answer 10

You will be a great mother. Your baby needs you and love--not a big house. The baby won't know the difference. Take your time. Don't worry. Everything will be great. Just feed the baby--change the diapers--and give it lots of love.