hello, im almost 32 weeks along and well, i have had a very easy pregnancy, i havnt gained alot of weight and its all baby that i have. Im one of those gals that sex has been a must!! LOL and my hubby usually loves it....but i feel like im always jumping him.
Just lately he has been getting soft when having sex....like he still has an erection but maybe like hes not turned on enough. He trains alot for State patrol it requires a lot of physical and mental stress but my question is .......do you think its because hes not attracted to me anymore? I feel ugly and not at all hot like i used too.....i feel so horrible like i cant turn my hubby on or something.
Any suggestions ? Has this happened to anyone else?
Thanks, and please no rude comments
2007-01-22 09:48:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are beautiful, just ask him. Stress is a MAJOR part of erections. High stress = no erection. It's normal for him to be even more stressed as your day approaches.
Don't worry...This happens to EVERYONE.
Here's a prediction...and something for you to expect...
MANY don't restart the sex after the baby comes. The stress of the COMPLETE change of lifestyle is huge and takes a toll on the sex drive.
2007-01-22 10:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think that it has anything to do with him not finding you attractive! I am sure that he is nervous about the baby's arrival in addition to the stress he is feeling at work. A lot of new fathers have trouble at this stage because they are constantly thinking about the baby and what life is like after the baby... Some men even feel like they can hurt the baby or you during sex... Try talking with him about sex, you don't need to tell him you have noticed that he is not a hard as usual though... Good luck!
2007-01-22 18:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, when I was pregnant it was hard enough for me ad my husband to have sex before my stomach started getting big. After he found out that the baby had turned upside down, he just knew that he was poking the baby in the head so there was no sex until after I had the baby. Don't worry I was one of those kind of girls that like it too, I hated that he couldn't get in the mood. But don't worry. The wait is well worth it after your 6 week check up. Hope everything goes well with delivery! Congratulations!
2007-01-22 18:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Rachael 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. I am sure he will listen and talk back. I think he is really stressed, nothing to do with how you look or anything. Most guys find that their girlfriends/wives are more beautiful when pregnant because they are having his baby and pregnant women seem to have a beautiful glow about them. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-22 18:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Bunk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him! Alot of times, men are afraid they are going to hurt the baby. Talk to him. Ask him how he's feeling & what's going on.
Congrats on the baby & good luck with your hubby!
2007-01-22 17:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isnt all that uncommon...A lot of men just arent turned on by pregnant women (I'd be one of them.. its a big turn off for me.. I wouldnt even think about it) There is also the factor of your not the Girlfriend/wife anymore.. you are now (or soon to be) a mother (kindda relates to the madonna/whore complex in someways) There is also tha factor that some guys have this Ickk factor about well(how do I put this??) Umm poking the baby?
when you have the kid & drop the weight and all.. good chance things will get back to normal.. give it some time.. this is a big adjustment for you and for him.. things are different now...
2007-01-22 18:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It may be that subconsiously he may feel that the baby may be hurt or you are in a "delicate state". Talk to him and let him know what you want and need and reassure him that sex is ok at this time.
Babies are the best!!!!
good luck
2007-01-22 17:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him.He has a lot on his mind,St. Patrol,Preg. wife,new addition to the family.He is probable feeling alot of pressure right now.Not saying you don't,remember comm. is the key to a good relationship.CONGRATS TO THE BOTH OF YOU ON THE LITTLE ONE!!!!
2007-01-22 18:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
is this your 1st pregnancy?
maybe he thinks he is going to hurt the baby or something..
so instead of concentrating on you while sex, he might have his mind thinking he will hurt the baby.
which he won't by the way.
2007-01-22 18:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by green eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋