If your husband will not tell you his "type" would you be upset?

Question

I asked my husband what his type was and he said he didn't have one. I do not think it is me, obviously. His favorite actress is Sandra Bullock, I have blonde hair and blue eyes. It is not like I think he is not attracted to me. Then we have had problems in the past and we were split and he slept with this girl and she has Brown hair and is completely oppisite from me. I just wonder why it is a big deal to tell me.

Answer 1

Men don't have types.
We most defiantly can identify various different types and discuss the the advantages and disadvantages of those types and, during those discussions remember another type that also has some extremely nice attributes and don't even get me started on red heads...

If your husband is withholding anything it's the my favorite actress is Sandra Bullock thing as if there's only one.

Let me illustrate, here is a just quick, short random list of a few of my favorite chicks,
Barbra Streisand, Cameron Diaz, Catherine Bell, Charlize Theron, Demi Moore, Emma Thompson, Fiona Apple, Geena Davis, Goldie Hawn, Halle Berry , Heather Graham, Holly Hunter, Isabella Rossellini, Jenna Elfman, Jennifer Lopez, Kate Winslet, Lucinda Williams, Marg Helgenberger, Nicole Kidman, Olivia Newton-John, Penelope Cruz, Renee Zellweger, Sarah Jessica Parker, Uma Thurman, Vanessa Williams, Winona Ryder, oh and Sandra Bullocks' pretty hot too.

You can't believe how hard it was to edit that list.

You're you and I bet you're pretty hot too, if the problems are over than forget about types, guys don't have them, oh my god I can't believe I forgot Meg Ryan!, sorry Meg

Answer 2

i think that some guys, or most people in general, don't really think of themselves as having a "type" at all. having a "type" means limiting yourself and what if you were to find someone you were attracted to you who wasn't your "type". if you're already married then obviously there was something about you that attracted him to you, something in you that he liked. i don't think that its much to worry about, that just because sandra bullock has brown hair and so did this person that he slept with, doesn't mean that is the only thing he is looking for. my concern would be more on the fact that, split up or not, he slept with another person. i think there are maybe some larger issues here that need to be delt with either by you two together or appart. maybe some marriage counceling would help you get to the real root of your concerns.

Answer 3

Some men dont really have a preference, so whats the big deal? Did you ever think that he might be looking for whats on in the inside instead of being superficial? Or perhaps he doesnt care what she looks like as long as she has a heartbeat. Some men are like that. Just ask my ex. I am 5'2, 135 lbs, with long brown hair. His first girly after our split was about 5'7", thin, long blonde hair, 29 years old with dentures (hes 41). His next one was Hispanic,
next was short, fat and short blonde hair, 4th looked like a crack wh***, and the current one is 5'10" over 200 lbs very short hair and three chins. Get my drift honey. Not trying to be rude at all just trying to make a point. Oh, and his fave actress is Helen Hunt

Answer 4

If you he is married to you, then obviously you are his type! If he answers something different (as in his ideal woman is dark hair, brown eyes), it will only cause discord in your relationship. He is smart to not say anything. Focus on your happiness with him and try not to worry about him wanting someone different than you. I think it bothers you because of the girl he slept with. That's a hard thing to get over and normal to be jealous and a little worried about his attraction to you. But if you've decided to work out your problems and stay together, you will need to get past that one way or another.

Answer 5

Most men can tell you what is not their type and then everything else is. They are not as particular as us women are. I had a 47 question checklist for men that I would date and look at me now marring a man that failed 46 of them. I really do not think that this should matter nor the fact that he had sex with another women while you were split, you were on a break and leave it there. The fact of the matter is this women was probably the first available and had nothing to do with hair or eye coulour.

Answer 6

i might be some what upset. But, he loves you so don't worry. Maybe you need to go and try counseling to see what really bothers you about it. I understand that you are probaly just worried he will leave you and that is why bothers you so much. And, don't worry about it...sure you maybe blonde and maybe he likes brown haired girls ,but that doesn't mean he loves you any less. plus obviously in someway you are his type because he married YOU in the in hun. So it is ok. Sometimes types aren't what decide who we love and end up with and types aren't always important. I hope i helped. And, don't worry take a deep breath and tell him how you feel or just don't worry about it. You could also maybe ask a friend too.

Answer 7

When you ask him questions does it start a fight if he answers and you don't like the answer?
It is a defensive reaction to stop giving answers if you know the answer will only upset your partner.
That is sad, as it shows a lack of communication between you.

He should be able to look at a beautiful woman and tell you that you'd look better in that little nothing she is wearing than she does, and not have to worry about you blasting him about looking at other women.

Has he bought you a little nothing to wear for him? Maybe he's scared it will set off a fight.

Have you ever told him that if he would go buy something skimpy, and show him and example online with a babe modling, you would love to wear it for him? Have you tried to make yourself "his type"?

Just some thoughts....

Answer 8

I'm guessing that he figures you will make a big deal about it like you're doing with this. What does it really matter what his type is? Sometimes men close up because they KNOW that the answer will only make the issue a bigger problem. I suggest you let it be.

Sounds like you haven't gotten over this brunette he was with and he's sure you're going to hound him.

SO.. the real question is why it is such a big deal to you?

Maybe his type is the type of woman who can leave him alone...

Answer 9

Well if he's your HUSBAND then obviously you are his type... besides I bet if you wouldn't have brought it up it wouldn't have given him the chance to second guess your marriage. Who cares he cheated on you for a girl that looks like Sandra Bullock I guess that just shows that he's kind of shallow and he's just attracted to the outside not the personality.

Answer 10

i dont think you should read into his type or whatever...he's with you now and whatever happened with the brunette is over and done with. "types" usually are based on outward appearance and nothing to do with personality...and sandra bullock is the epitomy of (really cute)girl next door,so if anything you are probably that girl! I married the opposite of what my "type" is...but he's all I could ever want in real life! ... and his fave actresses is salma hayek (trust me! I'm no latina bombshell! )dont stress it...