Heres the deal. Im a guy in my early twenties, but I've never had a really serious relationship with a girl, but I've gone on dates. Ive never gone out with or hooked up with a guy (aside from cybersex). But I love to look at hard perfect bodies and abs & sometimes I enjoy male nudity, but other times, I dont. I do like seeing hot girls/women, but I feel less attracted to them naked. I've watched and enjoyed both straight and gay porn (more gay). If I see a hot girl, sometimes I'll get hard, but not too often (and not often by pictures in mags like Playboy). If I see a hot guy, its tough not to get hard, and it can get embarassing at the gym or in the sauna. When I masturbate or have wet dreams, I almost always think of guys and gay sex, but after I ***, I feel disgusted. I get sexually excited by men and gay sex, but I never feel like I want to act on it in person. Also, I can only imagine myself being in relationships with women (and I want to get married one day). Any advice?
2007-01-22 09:34:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
what i think is that you envy the guys you watch in porn and stuff. you want to have bodies like theirs. you want to be like them in a physical way basically. and since you still like girls, i'm guessing that you're also just curious. as for being attracted to girls but not as much as guys, you could probably want to have a good realationship, and you don't want to focus too too much on s**.
2007-01-22 11:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by g_guess_who 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, actually I do think you enjoy guys, so do it! Whether some guys deny it, we all have sexual fantasies for other guys. Some of us act on those urges, and some don't, some masturbating to porn or web-cams locked up in their own rooms. The sad part is that you find it to be a bad thing. Sex is sex, and you already know you get off better on guys. The truth is that gay sex has been happening through out history, its nothing new or perverted, its especially nothing to be disgusted about. What can I say, I had questioned myself for a while. Seriously guy, you don't have to be "gay," I'm not! I just love having sex with guys!!!
2007-01-22 14:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by beijing06 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you're almost certainly bi, with a stronger leaning towards gay. I also think that your thoughts of disgust, and your wanting to get married etc. stem from social conditioning. You want all the things that society has always deemed ideal or normal -- and don't wish to be considered different. Do you come from a family background/social context in which gays and the gay lifestyle are frowned upon? I reckon you should just accept what turns you on and go for it. You say you've got no ties at the moment, and so you're free to pick, choose and experiment. Just don't make decisions -- particularly regarding your sexuality and future relationships -- to accommodate perceived family or social expectations.
2007-01-22 10:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Florio 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well you sound almost bi but maybe more gay...which there is nothing wrong with that...when i have watched porn the women excite me more then the men do but does that mean I am bi or gay no...I love men, eveything about them...But to me there is something about a womens body that I love..Where the man excites you more...but it doesn't mean that you are bi or gay..You could be just curious...This is something that you may need to act on...you need to find yourself before one day it just bit you in the butt...Hope you figure out what you want or what you are...Good Luck!!!!!
2007-01-22 09:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by b_andee2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have nothing against gay people, but don't think like that. You'll know whether you're gay or bi or something when the time comes. But for now, just go with your gut. And if you're really not sure, try taking one of those online tests (Yeah, I know sometimes they're not accurate.)
2007-01-22 09:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Adriana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sounds like the same feelings I have (had). I'm gay. And I did get married. The one mistake I made was never telling the girl I married until fifteen years and two kids later. I loved her (still do), but sex with a woman was just OK. Sex with a guy was IT!!! And, I never cheated on her with either sex until we were divorced. My short answer: Yes, you're gay!
2007-01-22 09:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It almost sounds to me that you're excited by the fantasy of being with a man? However since you do have mixed feelings about it, then why not try going on a date with another man? You've only got things to gain from the experience. If it ends up being weird and awkward and not for you, then you're closer to finding your answer. But don't be afraid to try things. Good luck!
2007-01-22 09:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem as you did buddy. but i took the initiative and tried a gay date. i feel the same way as you do and am in the same situation but the thing is i know im bi. not gay because i still like girls, but am more prone to guys for the time being. try to go on a date with a guy and see if u like it
2007-01-22 09:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats exaclt how I feel except I have had sesx with guys but felt bad and digusted by it later, I think that I might be either be bi or straight, dont know yet
Well ts your choice to believe in what you believe in
I think u have very good chance to be straight or bi
IM sometime, I want to hear more aboout this seeing as u r older
2007-01-22 11:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you sound like someone that has been watching porn and is all mixed up before you ever get married you better try both male and female just to make sure
2007-01-22 09:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋