He and I dated years ago and he asked me to marry him but I backed out and we went seperate ways (i wanted college in another state- he was a self starter at home) So now years later we are back together and its great- except he talks about women he knows and from the media in front of me- he never used to do that- I think it is insensitive and low class- but he really seems blissfully unaware that he is being a jerk by talking about other women in front of me-- How do I say something without keeping him from sharing with me- he says he wants to tell me everything- and I don't want to hear all of it--he even talks about his ex-and I DON"T WANT TO HEAR IT!!! ??????
2007-01-22 09:33:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have tried doing it back to him but it doesn't seem to really make a dent- and I feel like I am playing weird headgames on a man I love-- so nope- didn't work.
2007-01-22 09:43:44 · update #1
I don't think he is being insensitive, l just think that he feels that he wants to share everything with you. Speak to him and let him know that some of the things he says are upsetting you and that you would prefer not to hear about his other women etc. Tell him that is his past and you would prefer to live in his future not his past. Hope that helps. Good luck
2007-01-22 09:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would not be complaining. Most women wish that there men talked this way to them so they actually new what he was thinking. My fiance and I discuss the looks of other women all the time. Most of the time we agree but we also get into some pretty interesting conversation over the looks of other women and his thoughts. My guess though is that you have only been back together a relatively short time and he is trying to divulge things to you to make you feel more comfortable with him. I can guareentee when your old and married things like this will not matter.
2007-01-22 09:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by live4logan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is being insensitive to a point. All women should be secure enough in their relationship to handle that their significant other finds others attractive. That being said, I am not really that person either and it hurts. Try to take it in stride. I have found that I just ignore him or just dont listen. Unfortunately that isnt the answer because it doesnt make them stop. As long as he pays you the same amount of attention dont worry it is when you are last on his list and your compliments come with wanting sex etc then unfortunately it wont get better. Believe me 15 years and counting
2007-01-22 09:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by If we don’t stand up for ourselves, NO ONE will 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very uncommon. Maybe he is confused as to the word attractive as if that means he wants to do something with them. I say in my relationship i'm not attracted to other people because I'm not looking for anyone else, but do I see people that are hawt!! Everyday. How couldn't you? Maybe he's not lying maybe he is just confused?
2016-03-28 21:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are bothered by it tremendously, so if you want to stay with this guy, he needs to know it offends you and tone it down. There is no reason to bring up other women all the time, what's the point in that? We all have the same patent between our legs, and if he is committed to your relationship, talking fondly about other women can make you feel like you don't measure up, which is absurd.
Make sure he knows how you feel. don't just sit there and take it.
2007-01-22 09:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he putting you down when speaking of the other girls? If not I just think he is being honest. Just work on becoming more secure about yourself. It is only human to look at attractive people. It use to bother me with my husband but it was just jealousy. I have got over it. I look at everyone too. So why is it different. Good Luck.
2007-01-22 09:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by cherristee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him out of all of those women that he knows and found attractive, not one single one of them wanted him for their very own. You classify that as them being smart women and you're going to follow in their steps.
2007-01-22 09:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the past, don't be worried, be worried if he doesn't say anything. I tell my wife, women look hot all the time. She knows were I stand, ........hell she puts me their,.... lol. I think you hurt him along time ago?? As long as you don't have a trust issue there shouldn't be a problem. By the way he know it makes you mad, lol lol lol, that's way he does it.
2007-01-22 10:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by travis c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you will have to tell him that was them, this is me and you can not see the difference, so we do not have the same needs or wants, and I am out of here
2007-01-22 09:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back don't be jealousy girl ,maybe u ask about handsome boys in front him. one by one
good luck
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2007-01-22 10:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by huntush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋