my guy and i have been together for 4 years and we have 1 year old but hes the only guy ive ever slept with. he tells me that he thinks i should go and meet other guys and have sex with them so that i can be as experienced as he is and to make sure that i wanna stay with him. i dont know of anyone else who has to this to thier partner. what do you think about it??
2007-01-22 09:23:27 · 17 answers · asked by partygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I honestly think his intentions are good. Settling down with your first and only sexual partner is highly problematic as there will be, not necessarily now but later, a curiosity for what else is out there. He'd be worried for both yours and his sake.... yours because he wouldn't wish for you to spend your life having only been in bed with one man (how boring!), and his because he believes deep down that your curiosity will one day surface and you'll leave him.
It must be odd for him to openly tell this to you, and I can't say I know anyone who has experienced this, but I do know many guys who feel the same way about their girlfriends but are too proud to admit it to them.
Have a think about it. Do you believe he will definitely be there should you realise that other guys do not match up to him? Don't be persuaded by other peoples' opinions, do what feels right for you and your partner.
2007-01-22 09:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by cantik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, thats kinda funny. I think thats stupid. Other people? I think thats a sign that he is cheating on you, or having sex with other people and is telling you that so he won't look wrong. Or maybe he likes the lifestyle of a swinger. I know I would never do that. The best thing to do is to talk to him and make sure that you are all on the same page, and that there is no mis understanding. I dont think I would sleep with someone else when I'm in a serious relationship.
2007-01-22 09:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Barack The Boat!™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? This is a shot in the dark, but perhaps he is cheating on you. If he suggests you sleep with other people, he may be trying to rid himself of guilt that he feels for sleeping with someone else. But I have no idea how strong your relationship is and I don't know you; I don't want to assume.
If you know for sure he isn't cheating, why don't you talk to him about it. There's plenty of ways for you to become the more "experienced" woman he wants between the sheets... all you have to do is communicate. A little friendly advice and talking in the bedroom goes a looooong way :) Good luck!
2007-01-22 09:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, I'm not sure that's a normal scenario...most men are protective of their relationships, and would get jealous if they saw their woman with another man. Perhaps he's using this suggestion as an excuse so he can go around with other women, as well. In relation to him wanting you to be 'as experienced' as he is, if he truly craed about that, he would guide you himself. I'm not really sure, but I know I don't have a good feeling about what he's saying.
2007-01-22 09:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by yozhiki345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to pull his head in, if you wanted to sleep with other people u would have done so. Tell him that you have no problem with your lack of experience, he is the one worried. Tell him to teach u if he wants better. If he dont like it, kick him to the curb. JUst tell him next time he says it to u - to pull his head in. Should do the trick
or say - sure ill go sleep with other guys - and ill bring u back a nice present - Herpies
2007-01-22 09:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by jennazhere85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think hes the one that wants to go out and sleep around and is telling you to do it so that he can go and do the same. Is this guy for real? Maybe you should just leave him be and find yourself someone who's actually worth your time.
2007-01-22 09:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats a two edged sword... I see where he is coming from on both counts... where you may look at it and say, "Oh, he just wants to get rid of me..." or anything negative like that, I doubt that is the situation. Is this guy older than you? If he is, then he may be feeling like he is holding you back from living, and wants you to live life to the fullest, so this way you don't feel like you have "wasted your life" on one person... Sometimes people need to experience life and get it all out their system before they realize what they have... in this case, a man who truly adores you. Depending on how much older this guy is (if he is older than you) then understand he has lived his life, probably done all he wants to do, is ready to settle down with you, but wants you to get all the things you want to do out of your system before you settle down with him. I understand that perfectly.
2007-01-22 09:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by trevor_laforce 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am engaged and he wants me to go have sex with strangers just so he can feel the difference in me. So, I just think guys are freaks and most just don't know it yet or don't act on it.
2007-01-22 09:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by tinytinkbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to have to tell you but that is a bad sign. I would try to make some decisions about me and my one year old without him. I would think it is inevitable that he will leave or do something that makes you want to leave.
2007-01-22 09:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by grantwiscour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something simular has happened to me plenty of times, i have friends who want me to sleep with their parteners. first make sure he is not sneaking around on you because that is definatly a sure sign.(or that he wants to). Then if you think you want to sleep with someone else go for it, but know that it can eaisly change your current releationship drasticly even if he said you could.
2007-01-22 09:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋