Would you be mad?

Question

My birthday was last Friday. My husband, I and our son went out to eat. On the way home, my husband said, we are always broke on your birthday. I said I know and let it go cause it is true. Well Saturday we were in my car and we were out in town, I had looked in my console for something and his wallet and checkbooks were in there. There was a loose 100.00 bill in there so I stuck it in his checkbook and moved that one to my glove compartment. Stunned that I found any money at all, I went on about the day. He bought him a used CD player for 40.00 and we were just out and about. We were on our way home and he got his wallet and was looking in it. He began to screech that a 100 was gone from his wallet. He said I had 200.00 and one of them is gone. Now here I am sitting there and taking this all in considering he had told me he was broke on my birthday. He is mad because I gave it back but he swears I took it from him. I didnt take it but I did hide it. Would you be mad at him? He is mad

No I didnt get anything other than we all went to eat. That would have been fine but to find out he lied is what hurts the most. Yes I work and pay 1/2 the bills that we share and I pay for my car and my ins. He has his accounts and I have mine, He is self employed and makes way more than me. I get by but dont have extra money really. Money is just that money. He doesnt have to lie to me about it. He says there is no way it fell out of his wallet. If I had known he had it and took it out, I wouldnt have given it back. He said that is weak and a lie. I should have kept it and made him think he lost it. Why lie is what matters to me most? I know he is mad because I caught him in a lie but I am the one that has to pay for it.

UPDATE: I got home last night and he has taken his ring off and he had gotten himself and our son dinner before i got home. Today he picked our son up and our son just called me and said they were gonna go ahead and eat since they had been shopping. Isnt life sweet?

I wish I had stole it from him now and never ever given it back. This is what I get for being honest.

Never marry a liar, cheated, selfish asshole, thief.

Answer 1

OK, first off, your money is his money and his money is your money, even if you don't work but take care of the house and family and children, you are taking care of your property. when you are married you are joined as one, remember. with that being said, it sounds like he was mad because maybe here he is lying to you about the money, and maybe he had that money bookmarked for something else, something not for you. how he is acting , to me, is way too defensive, making me think he is feeling guilty about something that he hasn't come clean to you about. and tha fact that he accuses his own wife of stealing, wtf? and that he didn't believe you? without trust there is nothing, and he doesn't trust you. i would consider reevaluating your relationship and your role in it. are you just convenient for him? you deserve better treatment. i don't care if you say he always treats me right every other time, the fact of his actions and words proves other wise. Hope all goes well for you.

Answer 2

Most of the world would be mad I think. Try this for next year though. Once you get back on your feet after the holiday bills are paid take about two hundred dollars out of your bank account and put it away. Put it somewhere where you will not see it regularly but it will be safe. Next year for your birthday book a spa package take the weekend and go away that way. Who cares what your finicial state is you will have a weekend to yourself. If you have a hard time holding on to the money buy it a head of time like in August that way there is no excuses. This can be a win win situation.

Answer 3

I can't imagine what would be more important than showing my wife the night of her life on her special day, but what was so important about a c-note that he felt he had to lie about his finances. There's more than meets the eye here. I recommend digging for answers. You should ask him why he claims poverty on your birthday, when clearly, that's not the case, and make it clear that it's not what he was willing to spend that's important; it's that he lied to you about it. That's where the problem really lies. Money really is the root of all evil. If you want to make an instant @$$hole, take a regular, normal person and just add money.

Answer 4

Um... If $200 is all that separates you guys from being broke, you need to seriously re-think your financial management. How about a savings account? Sounds like your husband is a loser all around; hiding the last $200 is just pathetic. Both of you need to get your heads out of your a**es and grow up in regards to money management.

Answer 5

Yeah! I'd be mad!!! More because it's just the thought that counts on your birthday. You could understand if you were really broke and he couldn't get you anything. The fact is, he could have done something nice for you that didn't cost anything!!! But to say you were broke and he couldn't afford anything and to lie when he has that much cash lying around!! I would be mad, I think you have every right!! Good luck with this one!!

Answer 6

your husband is selfish and controlling to be saying that we're always broke on your birthday and then go out and buy a CD player he should had taken that $40 and took you out for a nice dinner. I would be mad too. tell him to grow up that the world does not evolve around him

Answer 7

This is the man that you so call say is supposed to be your husband.. I thought he was broke because he bought you something expensive but he didn't buy you anything at all. That's sad.. I mean what's your regular life like. Do you guys go on vacation. I think you need to start controlling the funds..Period.

Answer 8

Hell yea I would be mad! Its not that he had to buy you some expensive diamonds or jewelry. Anything would have been better than nothing, cd's are cheap, maybe a good book, a card, clothes something. But instead he buys stuff for himself not even thinking he could have used that money to buy something for you for your birthday! HE is SELFISH!

Answer 9

Money doesn't make the birthday. It's being close to the person you love. That said........ I would be upset about the money because he had to play a game with you. And to do it on your birthday was shameful. Everyone should be entitled to have their own money, but to lie to your face is disrespectful.

Answer 10

Oh Dear, I thought I was the only one married to a cheapskate. Well, fight fire with fire and turn the tables on him when it is time to buy him something for his birthday go get you a 40.00 massage, or something that is only for you then tell him the situation and Happy Birthday! He should get it.