What does it mean when you dream that you have sex with the same sex but you know your not gay?

Answer 1

To understand a dream, it’s helpful to keep in mind why and how we dream. When we sleep, the body and perception systems are shut down, but the brain remains active. The brain thinks about what has recently been most active during waking hours—experiences, thoughts and feelings accessed recently whether consciously or not. The brain is still active, so it works on this content, but not in a familiar, rational way. During sleep, this material is not related using input from the external real world, but rather by the brain connections already established in the cortex. So the story connectedness isn’t like everyday experience, but rather a strange, circuitous flow from one image to the next. So dreams aren’t magical messages to guide our life, but dream imagery is taken from everyday experiences, thoughts and feelings that matter most to us during our waking life. So it’s a mistake to apply standard symbol definitions, such as Freudian meanings. All you need to do is think about what kind of imagery it is and how it relates to your daily life.

Whether consciously or subconsciously, your mind and feelings have been focused a lot lately on what it would be like to experience sex with the same sex. Either you are really, really curious about this, or you really are gay and have never been consciously aware of it - too unthinkable to think about it?

Answer 2

I disagree with Jennifers answer. Her answer starts scientiffically correct; what we dream is a picture created by the brain, that at that moment is working in a way that is not rational, not familiar. But after that Jennifer explains your dream in a rational way with "her day-brain", saying that what you dreamt is referring literally to the action you dreamt. So the same (conscious or unconscious) thought should have been in your mind during days, according to her. I disagree with that part. Dreams are most of all highly irrational as Jennifer herself said, and allthough referring to dayly life sometimes, this might just as well be (rationally) interpreted like this: during the days before this dream occurred you have thought about sex (in general) with someone of the other gender (your preference as you said. Well, who doesn't have these thoughts). And this thought irrationally and coincidentally mixes up with some conversation or friendship or just someone you saw on TV your own gender. So in Jennifers scientific view, the final statement should rather be, or could just as well be: don't worry it is a coincidence, two things that are not related mixed up in one image.

I myself though do like to interpret dreams in a more psycho-analitical way (taking me to the same answer: doesn't mean you are gay, or at least possibly not, if you say so). So, dreams are an unconscious irrational mix of images during the night, but i do believe that dreams that stick to your mind can tell you something. First thing your reaction tells me: you are a bit shocked by having sex with the other gender. Don't be too much; sex in dreams often is symbol for good friendship, a more mental bound between you and the man you dreamt of. Next question might sound weird because it looked/felt like gay interaction, but just don't consider it sex literally. Did the sex give you pleasure in the dream? This means you have a good feeling about a friendship, your friendships will give you fulfillment. If you did not have pleasure in the dream then you are possibly considering to do something to a friend (or to friends) that will make you feel guilty. Or you have an interaction problem somewhere in general.
So: did it feel somehow good? (not your afterwards interpretation with possible disgust you'd have in daylight added, but just how it felt in the dream itself). If so, then don't worry at all. You are doing well in contacts. If it did not feel good: find out if there is things you feel uncomfortable to do, or are taught by your parents not to do. (in general, non-sexual interaction with people). Are there things bothering you in how you relate to people? Things you don't dare to do, or that you do but don't want to? I guess it is not a big thing, these dreams are very very common, most people just don't remember them. I also felt a bit weird and asked myself the question "am i gay?" when i had this the first time, about 15 years ago. Since then i haven't found out any "gay-ness" in me. And well.. everyone once in a while has things on his mind in relating to friends... so if your dream was unpleasant it is also not too alarming.
Sleep well!
Dr. Aram

Answer 3

If a heterosexual person is having a homosexual dream, it may have a variety of connotations. The interpretation of this dream, as with all others, is very personal and generalizations are difficult to make. This dream may be about loving yourself, especially if the other individual in your dream is a stranger. The dream may be about integrating ideas and attitudes, and in a few, rare cases may be about sexual orientation.

Answer 4

Maybe it just means that you're a curious person.