please help me i have a problem?

Question

i cut my self and when i dont have access to a razor i pinch myself till i bleed or poking myself in the same spot with a pencil till i have a hole in me. how do i stop this, i have had deprssion problems before. i dont wanna do it it just makes me feel better but i no i need to quit, my parents thought they took away all my razors but i have glass pieces and razors i hid from them, what should i do so i can help myself cuz i dont wanna try to kill myself again. oh and im 15

my parents thought i stopped, this started when i was about 13 and when me moved to america(i lived in japan) it only got worse, i miss my best friends Akiko and Harumi and my bf!!

dont have any friends here and i just wanna go back to Japan, no body talks to me(dont know why, imma nice person)

thanks to those who have answered my question !!!

thanks to those who have answered my question !!!

i am not fimilier with the term "emo" so i dont know if im emo

Answer 1

OK look cutting is from the brain being depressed the brain is a remarkable thing instead of trying to deal with the problem you yourself come up with a solution to deal with the emotional pain you cause yourself other pain to direct your feelings away from the problem do you see what I'm saying? if your in pain then a new stronger pain will focus yourself more onto it physical feelings are most of the time stronger then emotional well for this situation anyways.. OK so now that i have told you why you are doing it lets work together to fix it for one you can go right now without thinking about it and just throw all that **** away. next instead of hurting yourself do something else that's physical like working out or taking a bath anything look i know i sound lame but iv had a drug problem for 3 years and I'm just now 3 months sober now i know if your like me you don't want to tell you parents so you have like i said earlier three options one go tell them that you have this problem get yourself involved in treatment 2. work out sing go get a massage take a bath Anything that's physical or maybe go talk to your friends please don't scar yourself anymore I'm only 16 and i know it sucks but you do not want to have those things on your arms when your older just think about what i have said

Answer 2

I used to be like that. Start by trying to stop for as long as possible. After a while you just stop feeling the need to do that to yourself. Friends can be very supportive too. Try to find something else you can do like playing a sport. It'll occupy your time and give you a way to release emotion. If none of this works, consider talking to a counselor. I know that doesn't sound like a fun option, but it's better than suicide. You could always have a doctor prescribe anti-depressants for you too. You should stop and think each time about why you're doing it too. If it's something that won't even matter in a few days then just try to restrain from doing it. After a while, that problem will go away. There are only a few instances where I can even remember WHY I hurt myself so the others obviously weren't worth it.

Answer 3

I've been in that situation, and it's hell. It keeps getting worse and worse, and harder to stop the longer it goes on. To stop this, you have to *want* to stop it. An amazing website that helped me incredibly much was

http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html

It's a great source of information, inspiration and practical advice. I suggest you read absolutely every page they have available. There's also a chat there, which can be a good distraction when you're feeling "urgy." There's always people in there and they're very kind.

I think you should speak with your parents about this. Taking away razors is *not* going to help, as I know you've realised. If a person has to self harm, that person will find a way. What's needed is support and understanding, not a knee-jerk reaction. On that website I linked there are some good pages with advice for people in your parents' situation. Maybe print out the pages and leave them somewhere your parents can find them?

If you ever need to talk, email me at [e-mail]

Answer 4

I have the same problem as you. When I get nervous or scared I scratch my arm until I bleeds. Throw those razors away right now! Every time you hurt yourself say "Stop. This isn't going to help anyone and will make me even more depressed." Tell your parents about your depression problem and get some medicine. If you don't think medicine is the right thing go to a therapist for a while or talk a friend or adult you can trust with your feelings. When you want to hurt yourself with a pencil, break it in half and throw it away or make the point very blunt. Cut your nails so you can't use them to cut you. If you have to hurt yourself punch your pillow or something. Just don't hurt you or anyone else. You can get through this. Talk to your parents. They want to help you. Good luck!

Answer 5

Okay first of all,

it seems that you can fix this problem because you know its wrong and you don't deny doing it.. Its very hard to move to another different country, and mabye you should try to explain that to your mom or dad.. My best friend moved here along time ago and she cutted herself (past tense) but then her parents got her into counciling and really involved in sports. It might be hard at first, and some people might think you stupid or wrong but your not dont worry, your a 15 year old girl, and pretty soon you will be on your own, if you do that to yourself now.. what will you do to yourself in the future..?? You should really try to help yourself by throwing away all razors and also have your friends look out for you! =] good luck

Answer 6

self harm is an illness, taking away your tools will not solve the problem. You must be honest with them to beat this, work with them, give up the glass pieces razors etc, to be honest you my need to get to the bottom of this problem, if you can tell your parents how you are feeling, if not ask to speak to someone that can help you to stop.

This may sound ridiculous but paul mckenna has this tapping routine that helps people with all sorts of problems its to do with NLP (Neuro Linguistic programme), it could be worth a try if you feel you can't speak to parents. so you get the urge to self harm.... tap above one eyebrow, the opposite side tap below the eye, tap collar bone, under arm and chest. about 5 taps each time, just keep doing it and doing it until the urge goes !!! and do it everytime you get the urge until it stops..... I really, really hope this helps, thinkin of you.

Answer 7

I feel for you.. I'm so sad for you. Yu sound so in pain. I'll give you this, myself I've never been in that situation. But I do know, eversince my parents divorced and my grandfather died I was depressed for alittle. My brother was so depressed. He dropped out of school and just couldn't cope.

I bet you're beautiful and a wonderful human being, stop abusing yourself. You are a wonderful loving person and stop burting yourself. You are loved by atleast 1 person in the world and whoever that perosn is talk to them and I wish I could help and say more. Blessings,
Karina

Answer 8

Talk to your parents, and see if they can take you to see a doctor. Maybe get on antidepressents. I used to cut myself all the time to. Its dangerous, and it will only get worse. If you cant talk to your parents try talking to someone you trust. Good luck and remember your a strong person just for realizing you have a problem and wanting help.

Answer 9

this is very serious. imagine what would your family and loved ones feel if you kill yourself. please you dont have to open your heart to ur parents BUT you should find some1 you really trust like an older friend or an aunty whoever and let it all out, speak to him/her about what ur felling. cry if u need to but please do not kill yourself. that is the biggest sin one could do. life is a precious gift sweetheart do not take it away with your own hands. i dont kno you but i can tell you ur loved and ur brave for admitting your problem and askin for help. good job. take care of urself and stop harming your body. god bless you right this minute xxxx

Answer 10

I'll be your friend!! :) Just tell yourself to stop. Force yourself. Throw away all your razors and glass pieces. You are the only one who can help yourself. Be strong. You'll grow out of it! :)