I have a friend who says she's "too busy" to call me. What should I do?

Question

An explanation: Our friendship is mainly long-distance (talking on phone and emailing), but we were friends in college and it's only gotten stronger for the 5 years out of college. For 6 months, we haven't been on the best of terms. she feels I've been "getting mad" easily; I feel she's been too sensitive. We fought recently over it (after she refused to call for a month bc she was upset but didn't say so) , but I thought we'd made up. I agreed to watch what I was saying more carefully; she agreed not to let my temper bother her. It's been 2 months since we've "made up" and she's made little attempt, though I have, to reinstate our friendship. I emailed her that though I understood she had other priorities (she's a school music teacher, recently bought a house) that I really missed her friendship. She replied that she "wanted to devote more time to getting our friendship back on track, but she couldn't." I feel that if she really wanted to be friends, she'd try harder. You?

Answer 1

Friendships change as life changes. It sounds like both your lives have changed and the friendship needs to evolve with it. You can't have the same needs out of a friendship that you had when you were in college. The talking and e-mailing everyday probably isn't necessary. It sounds like your friend wants a little space. I would give it to her. If you try to hold on to something too hard you can strangle it and drive it away.
If you resolved the problems you had let it go and don't bring it up again. Try to have a life with out the same needs out of a friend that you had when you were in college.You mentioned it's a long distance friendship. Maybe it's time to find some new friends in your area.
With time things will work out. You just need to give it time.

Answer 2

Sounds to me like she has a lot going on and you just might be putting the pressure on in one form or another.
You need to back off and give her plenty of space.
I think she is a bit unsure of this relationship or it would take a higher priority.
Get busy in your own life and let the chips fall where they may.

I figure if someone tells me they are to busy to call me ~~then they are to busy to have me interrupt them by calling.~~ Right ??~~ Good Luck~~

Answer 3

I am kind of in the same situation, and I'm not really sure what to do, but I'll tell you what I'm doing. I told her that I want our friendship to last. Then I asked her. She said yes. I ask her how we should do it. She isn't sure. I called her 3 times. She didn't call me. Now its her turn. That decides it for me. Hope I helped. Gosh, I'm getting depressed just thinking about it......