A while ago my best mate's girl was really comming onto me. I knew that she had had previous feelings for me but I had found a girl I liked. but recently she had started coming onto me really strongly; I had offers of sex and whatever I wanted from her. I asked a friend for advice and he told me that he was getting the same thing from her and he said we should tell him so my friend had a word with him. Ever since my friend has been really off with both of us and has chosen sex over mates, even though she doesn't treat him properly and we were there to support him all along.
Was telling him the right thing? What should I do about his girl? How do i get my old friend back? Any answers will be appreciated, thanks
2007-01-22 08:52:07 · 9 answers · asked by eckzl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all he seems to be a big boy. He will learn his lesson. She will not stop with you two. You did the right thing. Now when he catches her in their bed with another man (or else where), then he will feel horrible for dropping his buds for a SLUT. About her let the relationship run its course. She will be gone soon. Then you and your friend will have a stronger friendship because you were honest and also because you refused the SEX offer. There is so much to be said for that. But do not hold a grudge or be mad at your boy. Sex is a tool women use and we manipulate you guys for our liking and we don't like your friends because they are a threat. It took me a long time to like my hubby's friends.
She will use him as she has tried to use you. Just don't rub it in his face, he is going to feel like a jack *** anyway.
2007-01-22 09:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by cherristee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him was the right thing to do. The girl seems like she just wants the attention and is willing to get it even if it becomes a problem. If she keeps coming onto you, tell her off. Say that you have a girl already and not planning anytime to cheat on her and tell your best mate's girl she shouldn't be doing other stuff with guys other than your mate. If you want your mate back, you're going to have to tlak to him. Tell him what you think of his girl and what she's been doing, and tell him that you care about him. If he doesn't listen to you, stick with him no matter, offer to be there for him if something happens. What happens between his girl and him is between them, all you can do is wait.
good luck
2007-01-22 16:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you will probably have to wait till your freind finds out the hard way that this girl is crazy. You just have to decide if you want to be there for him when it all crashes down. In the meantime be the best freind you can to him, he knows how you feel about the girl so dont bring it up anymore or he will just think you are being mean.
2007-01-22 17:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think the first mistake was to tell himeven though u care u need to try and get her caught out because she is just using him u and ur friend really seem to care for ur friend so if u can try and ignore her advances she will be revealed in the end and good luck u did the right thing by ur mate
2007-01-22 16:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by bigbreastedbitch1979 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you didnt do anything wrong by telling him the truth after all how would you feel if it was your girl mesing around with him and you didnt find out untill it was too late? your friend should not have chosen sex over you & your mate..he will eventually realise the support you gave him was much needed?
2007-01-22 17:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by emma_18d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, telling him was the best thing. honesty is the best policy. also if your freind chooses his girl over your friendship, does that really sound like a "best mate"? you can try talking to him and saying that youve been freinds longer then hes known his girlfreind (if thats the case) and freinds dont treat other freinds like this. and that your really hurt that he could do something like this to you over a girl who comes onto other guys. if that doesnt work over time he will see the truth in her.
2007-01-22 17:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If some how you can tape her catching her in the act so to speak and show your mate what she is doing maybe he'll believe you and find out what she is really like. That is the only way he will believe you is for seeing it for himself. I hope everything works out and it's a shame he takes her over his mates.
2007-01-22 16:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by Karen A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell this girl that she wants to get her act sorted out, as a girl myself i wud rther my boyfriend choose his mate ova me but we all seem to get along nicely so if me and him go out we ask mine and his mates to come too (most of the time!) just explain to her that you are not trying to split them up you just like to have him as a friend to and if she cant except that then she is obviously jealous of you or she is just over protective!
2007-01-22 17:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just fcvk his girlfriend silly
PROBLEM SOLVED!
2007-01-22 16:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋