For the past several years I've been having a problem with this one guy. His parents are friends with are family, however though, he thinks he can take advantage of other people, dominate them, control them, etc.... Last year I was part of this theatrical show performance and he was in it too, during that time we got into an argument and I sent him an email explaining how I felt, then he sends me this nasty email saying that him and everybody else in the show think I act like a snob??? I don't know if he was making that up or speaking on everybodys behalf? I showed the email to my dad and he was very pissed off at what that he said and very disgusted as well! If you look at the definition of a snob it means; lowerclass, arrogant, annoying, etc... this F***** has no right to say that! this guy is nothing but a skinny a**, four eyed F** !!! even though we shook hands, he still thinks Im the one who should be blamed for everything! this guy still pisses me off! so what should I do???
2007-01-22 08:51:25 · 4 answers · asked by i7msc15283 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't you just love those types of guys? The ones that have a superiority complex for no apparent reason?
I'm sure he pisses you off, but you have to be the bigger person and not let it show. Instead of email, you should've just confronted him face-to-face so that way you could see a REAL reaction from him, not one on a computer screen that he had time to think over and write whatever he wanted (that whole thing of everyone else complaining about you is bull...he just said that to make himself look better).
I would just steer clear of him as long as possible. Just because your parents and his are friends, doesn't mean you both have to be too. If you happen to cross his path, be civil, but don't let him know you are angry or holding a grudge. Him knowing that WILL allow him to have power over you, and you are a better person than that!
2007-01-22 09:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Erica♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some people like that. Usually you deal with it when you are older and you have to work with someone like that. There is nothing you can do. They are the type of people who get a kick outta being real jerks. You probably dislike fighting. It probably is knotting you up inside that you always have a problem with this guy. On the other hand, he probably LOVES fighting and sees it as entertaining. He looks forward to being a jerk to people. His parents and your parents are friends and you have to be around him. It sucks. But you have done everything you can to possibly be civil. You sent him a very polite email, he responded nastily. Everyone deals with that at some point in time, but you've shared with your parents that you can't stand his behavior. Perhaps your parents can hang with his parents without having the "family" over. They can go out together for an adult dinner--no kids.
But yes you do not have to tolerate name calling--just recently I had to explain this to someone I thought was a friend who decided to curse and call me names. You stand up for your rights and tell him that nasty behavior is not ok with you. You have too much self-respect for that. Then you may just have to be a snob. Ignore him everytime. It's not worth your time and effort to deal in a civil manner with him. That type of person is just waiting to cause another fight. You'll never get through to him or explain to him that his behavior is not the way we act in society. He is just not intelligent enough (or perhaps old enough) to process that. If he comes up and tries to start stuff, walk off and snub him. Repeatedly. If he gets in your face, you have to explain calmly that you don't tolerate namecalling. You find it juvenile. It sounds dumb right but there is nothing like looking down your nose at a guy, using big words and calling him infantile and an addlepated ignoramus--that eliminates him being able to retort "oh yeah well you're stupid"
And as far as what he said about "everybody" feels that way--that was just to hurt your feelings. Don't let him succeed. He won't get that small measure of victory from you.
2007-01-22 17:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remeber there is a fine line between Love and Hate .. you are putting a lot of emotion into someone who means nothing to you ...be the better person
2007-01-22 19:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by connie b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore this, these types of people do not have a life. don't let them effect yours.
2007-01-22 18:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋