This man spent my life emotionally, psychologically and verbally abusing me and expects me to spend my time seeking for his approval. Instead, I grew emotionally, broke away from him and he's still emotionally bandrupt from the same type of abuse from his old man and has the nerve to expect me to give him self-worth. For a year, he's been asking me if I love him and I ignore him. I don't love the croward because he eroded it. In my book, love is something earned. Once you erode mine, it's never retrieve. If it meant something to you, why would you do the best to obliiterate my self-esteem?
Last week, he gets upset when I dono't respond and tells me to shut, then takes one of my shrimps. Well, as long as he continues the behavior, he's got low Emotional Intellegence.
2007-01-22 08:50:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
So, you need to stop ignoring him, and answer his question.
Your passive-agressive behavior is only keeping YOU stuck in this unfortunate cycle, and it's letting his abuse continue (can't you see how you're still a slave to these old feelings?).
When he asks if you love him, tell him the truth. Say, "No, I don't love you. I tried, but it caused too much pain, so I had to turn off that emotion with you."
Then, stop putting yourself in a position where he can take your shrimps! What are you doing, going out to dinner with him? Tell him the truth, and GET OUT of this poisonous relationship!
2007-01-22 09:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to what you get for parents all you can do is try to have as decent, civil, and friendly relationship as you can and realize you will never have the kind of relationship you (or anyone else) would have liked to have had.
To some extent you have to forgive people who don't know any better. Have the friendliest relationship you can with him, and if he starts talking about love just say, "Dad. I'm not someone who talks about stuff like that."
(I have to say I don't quite get the thing about the shrimps, but I guess I don't need to :) )
2007-01-22 09:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l answer for you , only if you are 18 or older okay......................Ya know dear..... what is that ..oh yea! honor thy mother &
father. Well..... only if they are honorerable . right?
Of course! Like you stated This man emotionally ,verbaly & psyoloicaly messes w/you .....THIS PERSON does not deseve to be in your life. He's a 'TOXIC' person ,if he had to grow up that way ,it's a family trait...and he never sought to break this? well
so one should, don't you think?... do you understand? good !
you need to get way from this .... person ... also you might be able to see him in a better light,so to speak.....yes , because that is a sickness...but at all cost,short of breakin' any laws . pick up a the paper and......, I believe you know what I am getting at....
I wish you good things in life, & you deseve them!
be carful..... thank you for you time
Ms.Kate
2007-01-22 09:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by rrainn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to be more ADULT than your parents.
Be the bigger person, forgive the sorry bastard.
He might be trying to figure himself out and needs what little support your graciousness can give him.
You can't mark people for life, it'll bite you in the butt.
2007-01-22 09:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by Soundjata 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a father like that. I moved far away. The next time I saw him he was in a coffin. Sad, but save yourself.
2007-01-22 09:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by renee y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋