my ex wife causes my kids grief when they come 2 see me they r adults oldest 23 youngest 19 so they dont come to see me ex did the cheating been divorced 6years still get mega grief just want quite life enjoy time with my kids
2007-01-22 08:40:20 · 17 answers · asked by MARTYN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is really sad. Maybe you need to have a heart to heart with your kids. They are adults now and maybe you should tell them straight that you really want to spend time with them and they are allowed to have a relationship with you without being punished for it. Have you thought about them going away together for a weekend maybe to a concert or something and you happen to go to but no one tell your ex. If ever it came out she'd feel hurt and angry that they went with you and also then maybe she's see that they will hide things from her, so she may be pushing them away. I really think that talking with your kids to solve the problem is the answer. Best of Luck!
2007-01-22 09:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by JJ88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney and go to court so the mother can have set visitation. Not vistation that is spontanious and demanded. I think the kids need to have a routine. Going to moms house every other weekend for the whole weekend and 1 night during the week for dinner would be nice, Although the mother may not be a good influence on the children she is their mother and they should all be able to get to see each other and form a bond. I don't know the exact circumstances of everything that is going on but if you feel the environment may not be safe for the children then maybe she can have just daytime visitation. Talk to your lawyer and see what route he thinks you should take.
2016-05-23 22:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that is too bad that woman are like that. She doesn't realize how she hurting them herself. I don't understand why they don't come and see you anyways they are adults, what is she going to do through them in jail? I think not. I'm a woman and my husband went through that also, but his children were 7 and 8 it really hurt both kids and my husband. Now the kids are 21 and 22 and loves there dad and comes to visit alto. So hang in there and don't give up on them. They love you very much. She only doing to get back at you believed or not but the hurt she has for is really love and unfortunately the children always pay the price for grown-up stupidity.
2007-01-22 08:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all the above posts probably miss an important issue...I take it they still ive with mum? So all these people claiming your kids are old enough, don't grasp the fear of getting kicked out.
But what can you do? Tear stips off her for her selfishness, or be calm and ask her why she is doing this and force a rational answer out of her, pointing out how hurtful she is being to the kids in the process. If she was the one who cheated, I can't see what her beef is, but we don't have the whole story.
2007-01-22 08:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry only I think it is wrong of her to do that to them yes they are adults and have a mind of their own only she is one very cruel woman to do that you are their father and nothing can ever change that she should be happy for them there are some fathers who don't bother I admire men who do want contact and some that even look after their children are great you are a good father or if you were not they wouldn't want to know what a sad woman by the way I am a woman
2007-01-22 08:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids are old enough to ignore your ex. Why did your ex cheat on you? Tell your ex that what ever went on with you two that it not fair on the kids. Find out from them what your ex is telling them - it could help if you can tell them the truth. Maybe arrange a peace meeting with all parities!
2007-01-22 08:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids are adults, so the CHOICE to come and see you is THEIR'S whether their mother gives them grief about it or not. There is nothing she can do to prevent them from seeing you if they TRULY want to because they ARE adults. So stop blaming her for THEIR actions as adults. It doesn't matter Who cheated on Whom....your marriage has nothing to do with their choices of vistiation.
2007-01-22 08:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what is the question? Your kids are adults they need to decide how they will deal with Mom. As for you, you are divorced from her and the kids are adults, you never have to talk to her again in your life.
2007-01-22 08:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are adults and have a right to their own life, sounds to me like she is very insecure and worried that you might tell the kids more than she wants them to know.
Tell the kids you are there for them always and dont put any added pressure on them, offer to play it low key when they do visit and never use it to score points on your ex.
2007-01-22 08:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Denise H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was gonna say nomatter what, unless its real nasty/harmful, no woman should stop the kids seeing their dad. But then I saw their ages - they are adults! They are old enough to make their own decisions. You cant blame your ex for that!!
2007-01-22 08:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋