2007-01-22 08:39:06 · 33 answers · asked by topchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband needs to know. If you do not confide in your husband he might think that you like it, when the best friend does it and it will only encourage this man to do it more. Trust that your husband will find the right conversation to put a end to this come on
2007-01-22 08:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should tell your husband, he thinks this guy is his friend when he is not. I hope you were stern in your response to him hitting on you. If not, you can give a guy the wrong signal, one is that you are iinterested. The more you keep this a secret the more you are not respecting your husband in this guys eyes and the more he feels he has a chance with you. Now hurry up, tell your husband.
2007-01-22 08:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married is something totally different than dating I think you should tell your husband before the friend decides to tell your husband the opposite and then it will be more of a problem. If you feel like you can tell the friend to buzz off without attracting to much attention to it then do so without telling your hubby but I would tell mu husband if I were married
2007-01-22 08:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he knew what he was doing when he did it..and obviously doesn't value your husband's friendship. i definitely think you should tell your husband..if your best friend hit on him, wouldn't you want him to tell you? if he finds out another way, he may think you are trying to keep something from him for a reason and then not trust you. i think you should have a talk with his best friend too, and let him know that you are telling your husband, because you have an open-line of communication. let him know how uncomfortable you felt and that what your husband does with the truth is his choice. good luck..this is a tough one!
2007-01-22 08:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by JKlein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I'd agree with everyone here...except it's happening in my life now and I'd say more facts please.
My daughter is being hit on by her husbands best friend, his wife is her best friend, they do a lot of things together, not just as couples but family things, their kids are all around the same ages. This has been going on now for about a month, he is starting to get bolder and bolder in the little things he says to her...at first she down played it, then she laughed it off to him, the last she told me she turned on him and asked him why he would want to hurt not only his best friend but his wife and all the kids. The hard part is she knows all the dirty secrets of their marriage and why he is doing this, as well as she is sure his wife has told him their dirty little secrets. I asked if he makes these passes at her when they are partying, drinking involved, and she said in the beginning but lately he has gotten more brazen and does not limit it just when they have been drinking, now about everytime all of them are together he makes a second to be alone with her. She loves her husband and swears she would never do anything like that and she also respects her best friend but has been having a hard time keeping all this in. She thinks her husband will "flip out" as well as her grilfriend, what she is not sure of, will they hate her and blame her too. I told her she needed to say something to her girlfriend about maybe "sharing herself more with her husband, he's starting to look at me like his evening meal" and drop some hints to her, if she picks up on it she may be able to stop him by just her saying something to her husband. As for her husband, I told her I'd drop the friendship with the couple before someone got hurt, which she does not want to do, but has agreed to keep her husband as close to her at all times when they are all together. There has been times my daughter has babysat for them and he has picked the kids up or vise versa, but because of the ages he doesn't make any suggestive remarks knowing kids tell all.
2007-01-22 09:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his friend first that you are going to tell your husband what happened, and how uncomfortable it made you, then confide in your husband, that way both parties know and you are not in the middle, you have let both the friend and your husband know. Remember his friend will try to belittle what happened, and make it sound like you made too much out of it, or he will be honorable and say he understands your feelings and apologize, I hope for the latter
2007-01-22 08:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Husband, Cause his friend is a Dog and not a friend. Cause friend don't do that to friends. So your husband is better off without him.
2007-01-22 09:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by loveableken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Husband......You wouldn't want your husband keeping that kind of secret from you.
2007-01-22 08:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell the "friend" to back of or else I'm going to tell my husband then I drop it.
2007-01-22 08:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell your husband or it will get turned around on you
2007-01-22 09:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by efiles2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋