She had been looking for a job for ever and i finally got her my old job. My boss was my mentor and now that relationship is gone. She has taken over my life and it drives me crazy. She is attractive and gets treated differently so that also annoys me. She has an easy work schedule than i did, makes more mone than i was at the position. I really can't stand it. When i first started there was no training and that was really hard. I have fully trained her so she doesn't have to go through the stress i did. I don't know what to do please help!!
2007-01-22 08:38:17 · 8 answers · asked by Berian C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
So Jealousy seems to be the main response here. That is interesting b/c at times i tell me self that it is just that, but it isn't I have moved on in my career and am content. She has yet to thank me for getting her the job or helping her. I have given up my nights and weekends to train her and then she gets to work from home b/c the boss is so impressed with the work she has done. I have pulled back on the amount of time i spend training her, but I don't feel comfortable not helping her at all as she is my friend. So is there any other angle than just jealousy, as that doesn't help much.
2007-01-22 09:02:57 · update #1
Now wait a minute. You MOVED on. You had that job, those friends, etc and chose to move on to something else. When you helped your friend, it sounds like there were strings attached. She has done nothing wrong. How can you blame her for doing well? You are being unreasonable and maybe just a tad childish about the whole thing.
2007-01-22 08:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sabrina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax, it sounds like you are harboring a whole lot of jealousy!
This is how life works, get used to it. Besides, if this is really your friend, you should be happy that she is doing well, not digging for reasons to be angry. You can't change what you went through, but you can try being happy that your friend didn't have to go through the same thing.
2007-01-22 08:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by answerman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that just sounds like a major jealousy problem if you ask me. Given on the story that is. If she doesn't at least show the fact that what you had done for her to get her the job is appreciated, that in itself is another story. Sit down and talk to her about it and if she doesn't want to listen, ignore her, you have a better life to lead and don't need to worry about what she thinks of you...and you can find better friends...
2007-01-22 08:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Robert B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just jealous and that is what has taken over your life, not your friend. Maybe she was more capable than you? She didn't do anything wrong, circumstances just happened to work better in her favor than yours. It's ok to be jealous, but chill out and look at things objectively or you'll just end up looking like the bad guy.
2007-01-22 08:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you got her the job and now resent that she has realtionships with her new co-workers? Did you expect she would keep herself under her desk all day or something? You say she has "taken over your life". I'm assuming that you don't have that job any more because you got a new one. Just worry about that and quit obbessing over her.
2007-01-22 08:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in basic terms tell her how painful that's and how she isn't waiting to shelter an adolescent. tell her that she wont get any sleep and she or he dont have funds to take stable care of an adolescent. additionally tell her that in basic terms using fact she have slightly one does no longer recommend the father is going to adhere around. tell her to attend and think of it by using in the previous doing something. And after asserting all that then tell her mom if she nevertheless does not pay attention.
2016-11-01 00:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have have to let her understand that you are the one that has gotten her this job and that it isn't fair that you gave her the key to sucess and she is is taking advantage of you!
2007-01-22 08:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do nothing and be happy for her
2007-01-22 08:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋