I often dont show people how hurt I am. I simply smile back but I just cant tolerate it any longer...Plz help!
2007-01-22 08:37:23 · 18 answers · asked by iloveorange 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You obviously aren't confrontational, so the best thing to do is raise one eyebrow if you can, give the offender an icy smile and say "really?" in as icy a tone as you can, then look at them as if they are a very stupid bug and turn away.
2007-01-22 08:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never tolerate any type of hurt. You sound very docile. That is OK, but you have to stand your ground. You can pull them aside and let them know that they have offended you. Tell them that you are not mad just upset and would appreciate them to not say the things that have offended you. Most people would not intentionally say anything to hurt or offend someone. But if they don't know it is offending you then they are not going to stop. I am very opinionated and I have offended people and they have let me know. I try to watch what I say but my mouth never stops. If I am asked to stop then I try to put myself in their position and I can usually see there side after it has been brought to my attention. Good Luck!
2007-01-22 16:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by cherristee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell people to back the hell up. They might get angry but trying to keep everyone happy in your life is just going to add more stress. Seriously, if they aren't friends, just tell em to step off. But if they are, sit down and talk to ach and every single one of them and tell them whats going on. If they are your true friends, they will listen. If not, they won;t and you don't need to bother with them anymore...
2007-01-22 16:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Robert B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say something like,
"I'm sorry, but i don't agree with what you just said. " and then you can tell them why what they said was wrong in your opinion. Most people don't say things to intentionally hurt someone so by replying in a neutral way you can prevent a negative confrontation.
2007-01-22 16:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by WTF? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let it get to you cause if you do then all your doing if worrying about making everyone pleased with you and they only reason that they try to offend you is because they're probably jealous.
2007-01-22 16:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ky_bello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL....SAY WHAT YOU FEEL!!! If something has offended you say that you were offended...don't just go off unless it really needs it but just say something like...i disagree with that are I don't care too much for this subject it offends me!
2007-01-22 16:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by imarebel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone hurts me by saying something I quietly tell them...then I drop the issue.
2007-01-22 16:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a bit before you say something and then think about what you are going to say; you don't wanna blow your stack at anyone; you want to get your point across with out a bunch of drama. good luck
2007-01-22 16:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would be better to at least tell people remotely how you feel or else you will become a little time bomb.
2007-01-22 16:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably just say something along the lines of "I think you should apologize for that". You don't have to say why, they should be able to figure it out.
2007-01-22 16:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by tucsondude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋