and now they avoid you? i let her borrow money when she didnt have no food for her kids, no cigs ,no ride ect.....and find some screwed up reason to avoid you?not a true friend huh?
2007-01-22 08:32:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She might just be ashamed, or perhaps shes just a flake. One thing this life has taught me is that you do your best to never lend money to friends. I've seen many a friendship ruined by it.
2007-01-22 08:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I wouldn't have given a friend money, I would have bought food for her kids and IF the kids needed to get somewhere (doctor appointments) I'd offer to take her.
Second I don't help someone out expecting to get anything in return. She is probably avoiding you because she is embarassed that she can't pay you back...what kind of a friend does that make YOU? Helping someone out doesn't include the expectation of getting something back or being acknowledged for your help. If you don't like that fact then don't help anyone else in the future.
2007-01-22 16:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loaning money is the fastest way to find out who your friends are. As a rule, I never loan money to friends. Most of the time, if they don't pay you back you are mad at them and the friendship is over. Everyone has a sad story somewhere. Sounds like, Good luck getting your money back though. It is just up to you now, do you forgive and forget or just forget about them and the friendship and move on.
2007-01-22 16:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by UT FAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, How good of a friend was she in the first place? If she was a good friend she probably feels bad for not being able to pay you back and her pride is getting in the way of telling you upfront.
People really get funny, and defensive when the ego is bruised.
Good Luck,
Quequegs
2007-01-22 16:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by quequegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is ashamed of her situation if you are better off than her? Tell her its fine, everyone has their down times and she will come out of it you will be there for her.. she still ignores you then..... Not a real friend
2007-01-22 16:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by karilyn2202 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm reminded of this one saying, Don't lend money to friends, for you will lose them both.
2007-01-22 16:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her! I did the very same thing. As the old saying goes, what goes around comes around.
2007-01-22 16:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is just embarrased. But no that is not a true friend.
2007-01-22 17:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Bianca Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you know the answer to your own question.
2007-01-22 16:36:54 · answer #9 · answered by precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋