I am so frustrated. I don't want to come off as a nag to my husband, but he always involved in helping other people outside of his family (wife and kids). He doesn't even take care of his business. At the end of the day, he is so emotionally and physically exhausted that he doesn't have time for us. Maybe I should not worry about him so much, and just do my own thing. For example, I made him a dr. appt. his appt. was at 3:00pm so at 2:40 I called him, and he was over a friend's telling them he would stop by this evening. He still had not gone to the bank, etc. Things like that just really piss me off. Is it called being too nice or just not having his priorities in order?
2007-01-22 08:32:10 · 7 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MAYBE IF YOU WOULDN'T BABY HIM (I.E. MAKING DR APPTS FOR HIM WHEN IT'S HIS BODY, HIS HEALTH) AND STOPPED DOING THINGS FOR HIM, HE'D SEE.
YOU SOUND LIKE AN ENABLER.
2007-01-22 08:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are out of order. You (your marriage) and your children come first. Maybe you could ask him why he is doing it. Is he getting satisfaction, "praise" from the other people? Maybe he feels he doesn't get it at home? I don't know, but I can feel your frustration.
My marriage isn't exactly as you're describing, my husband just doesn't do anything cuz work has him so "stressed out" and "physicaly drained" by the time he gets home. Heck with me. Sorry,....
Anyway..... this is hard to do..... but I once heard a pastor on "marriage" say to the women....
"ladies, even if the only thing your husband can do right is button his pajamas - you need to praise him for it" lol, isn't that the stupidest thing?!?!? Well, really... it isn't, it's the truth, but again, easier said than done.
I hope you two can communicate, and work this out.
ps.
no you shouldn't just "go do your own thing", you are married, this is a two way street, that is giving him the easy way out... by you doing EVERYTHING... NOOOO!
2007-01-22 08:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by addicted2stamping 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to put your foot down, it not being a nag to get your man to do his share of the responsibilities, sorry fellas but you guys always need a mother, show me one guy who is grown up and standing on his own two feet with his priorities in order and I'll show you his strong willed wife!!!
2007-01-22 08:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called, he was like this BEFORE you got married, if it bothered you so much why did you marry him? Or were you planning on him changing and now are disappointed that just like all other humans he didnt? Obviously he doesn't have the same priorities that YOU do...that would be called "irreconcilable differences" in divorce court.
2007-01-22 08:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has his priorities wrong, talk to him about it.
2007-01-22 08:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are now his priority --ask him why he does these things- and tell him how you feel
2007-01-22 08:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put a foot up his ***
2007-01-26 05:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋